If you meet a partner who doesn't deserve you, you should give up decisively？ Or should we give support and wait for the other person to get better？

　　From the perspective of human nature, this question is basically the only answer, that is,

　　Give up decisively.

　　And in my nearly 10 years of consulting experience, I found that all of them are the same result, and there is no other possibility.

　　Of course, what is said here is not worthy, and most of it refers to conditions, including but not limited to economic conditions, looks or mental maturity.

　　Because human nature is selfish, when one's heart feels that the other person is not worthy of oneself, it must be difficult for one to have lasting tolerance and patience.

　　Over time, it will break out sooner or later. At this time, I will feel that the other party is really bad, the comprehension ability is too poor, too stupid, too unwise, and even the mud can't help the wall.

　　Therefore, the result I saw was that one party finally consumed patience and all expectations, completely gave up on the other party and left decisively.

　　Of course,

　　This result is also a process, and it is also a process of recognizing yourself, recognizing human nature and growing up by yourself.

　　Not everyone can choose to leave so decisively at the beginning. Some people have little emotional experience and will be reluctant to leave, but only after their own experience can they deeply realize that leaving is the only correct choice.

　　Because in the process of getting along like this, the key to the change of the other party is not his own support and waiting, but his own internal driving force, that is to say, he must want to change very, very much, and he can constantly ponder and grow up. It takes ideas and execution.

　　Moreover, it is found in observation that such a person must be young. If he is very old, it is basically impossible to change, that is to say, young people can be said to have potential, while older people have to cash in on the results.

　　Therefore, this result is also a gamble. Not all young people can grow and change.

　　This is why I often say that choice is greater than effort.

　　If you are a gambler, you can choose to give support and wait to see if the other party has changed, but usually it is a high probability to lose.

　　Then if you lose the bet, you have to recognize the result and the youth you lost.

　　Or don't gamble, it's better to be short-term than long-term pain, and choose to change people and change someone you think is worthy of yourself.

　　There is also a more interesting mirror image problem in this problem, that is,

　　If you meet someone you don't deserve and like, should you give up immediately? Or should we strive to improve ourselves to get along with each other?

　　Let's talk about it next time.

　　The study contents of the tutorial class include but are not limited to emotional theoretical knowledge such as mentality, emotional management, communication skills, divorce, pursuit, getting along in love, redemption and marriage management, and psychological knowledge related to emotions, as well as targeted one-on-one counseling to solve practical problems.