＂My daughter asked her in-laws to move into the house and gave me 2000 yuan, but she was only willing to honor me with 1000 yuan, which was raised for nothing.＂

　　When it comes to the word family of origin, some people think of parents who are looking forward to going home at home, leaving good things to their children for the first time, but others think of oppression, partiality and parents' incomprehension.

　　Teacher Wu Zhihong said in Why Home Hurts People: "What is home? Home is a responsibility, a sincere treatment of each other, a long journey to grow old together, a post station of life and the warmest harbor. Then why does home still hurt people? All love is traceable and traceable. When we trace back to the source, we may find that some love is actually hurt. "

　　For example, in a family with many children, parents' unfair love for their children is actually a kind of harm. It not only hurts the children who are mistreated, so that they can't get enough love, leaving a psychological shadow, and they can't get along well with their parents, brothers and sisters. It also hurts the children who are favored, making them more and more dissatisfied and less grateful in endless preferences.

　　As Bai Yansong said in Bai Shuo: "In the past, when we were hungry, we all understood happiness in this way, and then we ran all the way to satiety. Finally, one day most people are full, or not so hungry, but they find that your desire is stronger and you want more things. So it's troublesome not to be hungry. "

　　In fact, people's desires are endless, and there is no end in sight. After being satisfied for the first time, there will be more desires. No matter how much you give him, no matter how much you sacrifice, you can't fill it.

　　Some time ago, Aunt Tong ran to her daughter's house with her luggage without saying hello, and made a scene, demanding to move to her daughter's house, so that her daughter could support her for the rest of her life.

　　After being rejected by her daughter, Aunt Tong quit and complained to the onlookers about her daughter's "unfilial" behavior.

　　01. My daughter changed to a big four-bedroom apartment and let her in-laws move into the house.

　　"My daughter asked her in-laws to move into the house and gave her another 2,000 pocket money, but she was only willing to honor me for 1,000. Why can't she let me live when she can live at home? "

　　A year ago, Aunt Tong's daughter, Yang Li, and her son-in-law sold the original two-bedroom apartment for a three-bedroom apartment of more than 100 square meters.

　　After changing the house, Aunt Tong's daughter, Yang Li, and her son-in-law were worn out, and finally they persuaded their in-laws to leave their hometown and move to their own home.

　　"The conscienceless, better for her husband's parents than me. Her in-laws live at home, eating and living with her son and daughter-in-law. My daughter bought all the clothes, and my daughter gave her the money to buy food. There is no need to spend money at all. In this way, my daughter gave them 2000 yuan pocket money, let her father-in-law play cards and drink, and let her mother-in-law go to fitness. "

　　Therefore, Aunt Tong thinks that 1,000 yuan a month is too little. She wants to move to her daughter's house and treat her daughter's in-laws: "They are all parents. Why should we treat them differently?"

　　02. You prefer boys to girls and have never been kind to me. Why should I be kind to you?

　　Hearing her mother's nagging complaint below, Aunt Tong's daughter Yang Lichong came downstairs and confronted her mother.

　　"You prefer boys to girls and have never been kind to me. Why should I be kind to you?"

　　Then, Yang Li accused her parents of being partial to her younger brother and squeezing her over the years.

　　"In your eyes, my daughter is an outsider, losing money, and studying is a waste of money. Therefore, my grades were obviously good, and you still deprived me of the opportunity to study."

　　"I have been working in the factory for five years. Except for the basic living expenses, all the other money has been taken away by you to subsidize your son."

　　"In order to force me to pay for my brother's wife, you made a scene in my company and I lost my job, don't you remember?"

　　"Over the years, every phone call you made to me, which time can you not mention the word money?"

　　"When I go back to my mother's house for the New Year, why can my brother and daughter-in-law sit there and play with their mobile phones, waiting for the food to be served? From the year before to the year after, I have to keep working, cooking for you and cleaning for you. That's my brother's house, not mine. "

　　When it comes to providing for the aged, Yang Li scoffed at his parents' original arrangement. It turned out that at the beginning, Aunt Tong and her husband made arrangements for providing for the elderly without consulting their daughters. They planned to live in their son's house for fifteen years before going to their daughter's house for providing for the elderly, and they still thought it was fair.

　　"How unfair? We have raised you, shouldn't you give us a pension? "

　　"I didn't give you pension? Didn't I give you alimony? Do you think I don't know what you are up to with this arrangement? In the first fifteen years, if you can work with kinetic energy and are physically strong, you will go to your son's house, nominally to support the elderly, but actually to help them do housework and take care of their children! Fifteen years later, my brother's children grew up and didn't need you. In order not to let my brother and daughter-in-law take care of you in turn, you ran to my house and let my husband and I wait on you, didn't you? "

　　Questioned by Yang Li, Aunt Tong was speechless and couldn't say a word for a long time.

　　03. My mother-in-law helped me with my baby and maintained me. I was kind to them. What happened?

　　Referring to his in-laws, Yang Li was even more excited: "You are indeed my mother, but your own mother is not as kind to me as my mother-in-law."

　　Yang Li's in-laws are two kind and reasonable old people who treat their daughter-in-law well and do their best to help their son and daughter-in-law solve their troubles in life.

　　After Yang Li's son was born, in order to help his son and daughter-in-law solve the problem of bringing a baby, Yang Li's in-laws took their grandson to their own home and took care of him until he was admitted to the university.

　　"Where is my son studying, my in-laws will accompany him, always take care of him, and have deep feelings with grandparents. But, mom, you can ask your grandson if you are willing to let your grandmother, who is unwilling to give you lucky money, move into his house? "

　　Due to parents' oppression and importune, Yang Li also worked as a helper for a period of time, and her husband was angry and asked for a divorce.

　　"I was out, ask you for help, you only know to push me to make money back, but don't consider my situation. I went to see my in-laws, and under the persuasion of my in-laws, my husband gave up the idea of divorce. At that time, I made up my mind that I would never be a helper again, which chilled my in-laws' hearts. "

　　As Yang Li accused his mother of son preference bit by bit, more and more mocking eyes focused on Tong Ayi. Aunt Tong felt that she couldn't stay any longer and had to leave her daughter's house.

　　"I won't miss her alimony, as for the other, no way. If I have the ability to continue to make trouble, I will accompany you to the end. "

　　04. When you are young, you owe kindness to your children, and you have to return it when you are old.

　　There is a saying in "Caigen Tan": If you take advantage of personnel, you will suffer from the loss of Heaven; Greedy for the benefits of the world will inevitably lead to the loss of sex.

　　As the saying goes, it is only natural to kill people and pay back debts. When you are young, you owe kindness to your children, and you have to pay it back when you are old.

　　When you prefer boys to girls, you owe your children a kindness and fairness, and it is normal for them to resent you. As you let them down again and again, their filial piety to you will be ground clean bit by bit. At that time, you can't expect your children to be too good to you.

　　Finally, I hope those who suffered from an unfortunate childhood will remember that you can't choose family of origin, but your fate is in your own hands after all. Your loved ones who don't love you are not worth paying for them, because no matter how much you pay, you won't be able to touch the heartless people, but you will lose your own interests.

　　The playwright's late love once said: "No matter whether it is related to you or not, there is only one kind of relatives in this world, that is, people who care about you and love you, and vice versa."

　　Cherish those who care about you and love you, be kind to those who love you, and at the same time, be a qualified parent and don't let the tragedy happen to your children again.

　　Today's topic: Do you think Yang Li is better to her in-laws than to her mother? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.