I was 63 years old, but I wanted to go to my daughter's home for the elderly, but I was rejected. Finally, I realized her helplessness.

　　Most parents in rural areas follow the saying "raising children to guard against old age", so they try their best to have a baby boy. Even now, many people still admire it. On the other hand, this saying is not unreasonable. When a daughter marries someone else's house, there will be few days when she comes back to be filial, and there will be many people who live on her son for the rest of her life. Therefore, it is inevitable that she will be a little partial to her son, but excessive doting will create the beginning of unfilial. Uncle Chen originally lived in his hometown, but because his son wanted to marry his daughter-in-law, he was afraid that there was a contradiction in living with his daughter-in-law, so he wanted his daughter to provide for his old age. Unexpectedly, his daughter rebuffed his request and finally realized her helplessness.

　　Uncle Chen and his wife have a pair of children, who have been rushing for their son's future all their lives. My daughter's grades are good, but her poor family can't afford two children to study, so she can only let her go out to work to make money to subsidize her family. Although she is distressed, there is nothing she can do. The filial daughter will pay all her salary every month, just to lighten her parents' burden. As the daughter grows older, the couple are also anxious about her marriage. That year, my daughter came back with her son-in-law, who had a good job and a well-off family. He was still the only child in the family. Looking at the inseparable appearance of the two, the stone in Uncle Chen's heart was put down.

　　In-laws understand that there is still a son in the family who is not married, did not ask for him, and even gave a lot of bride price. Considering that his daughter married in another city and his son-in-law's family conditions were good, and seeing that his son was getting married, Uncle Chen left two-thirds of the bride price. My daughter is very happy after marriage, and her in-laws and son-in-law attach great importance to her. Although she doesn't have a job to take care of her children at home, her in-laws will take time to help her take care of her baby no matter how busy she is, and she will never be left alone. The only regret is that my daughter doesn't come back many times, only a few times a year.

　　For the sake of his son's marriage, Uncle Chen and his wife took out all their savings and bought him a wedding room in the county. The daughter is married far away, but the son is close to Uncle Chen's house, so he has no worries about being taken care of. Even if the family is hollowed out, Uncle Chen is happy in his heart. The custom in rural areas is that property is inherited by his son, and the responsibility of providing for the aged is also on his shoulders. Uncle Chen feels that the important task of taking care of the two old people should be borne by his son alone. Things didn't work out, and his wife suddenly died of illness. Uncle Chen was very sad, but he didn't want to bother his son and daughter-in-law, and he was willing to live by himself. However, it never rains but it pours. My son did something wrong to his daughter-in-law, voluntarily left home clean, and the house in the county town was also given to his daughter-in-law. Since then, my son has returned to his hometown to live with Uncle Chen.

　　This year, my lonely son talked about love again, and soon wanted to register for marriage, but his son had no extra money to buy a new house, so he had to live with Uncle Chen. However, if he still lived together after marriage, it would be inconvenient to talk about it, and it might also cause family conflicts. Looking at his son's hard-won marriage, Uncle Chen made up his mind about his daughter. At the beginning of the year, my daughter and son-in-law came back to spend the Spring Festival with the old man. Both my son and daughter-in-law were there. During the dinner, my son suddenly mentioned it and asked my sister to take Uncle Chen home to support the elderly.

　　When the daughter heard that she put down the chopsticks, she directly refused this request, and asked her brother why he was so selfish, so that the old father could leave his hometown where he had lived for decades and go to an unfamiliar place. Not to mention his unaccustomed habits, the light language barrier was a big obstacle, and his brother could rent a house if he wanted to live separately. In the years of divorce, all his expenses were borne by Uncle Chen, and even the wedding room in those years was paid by Uncle Chen. What is even more outrageous is that the cost of my brother's love now is also paid by Uncle Chen. Is this too much? So what the daughter means is that when the younger brother and his wife move out of this house, she will give her father 3 thousand yuan a month for living expenses.

　　After listening to it, the couple immediately quarreled with their daughter. In the end, Uncle Chen felt that her daughter's proposal was very reasonable, so he decisively chose her proposal. The daughter sighed. It's not that she doesn't want to be filial to her father, but she is really powerless. She lives with her in-laws, and the house is bought by her in-laws. If her father goes to live at home with her, even eating is a problem. Everyone has different tastes, and there will inevitably be contradictions. After a long time, it's impossible to say that the family will be scattered. However, my younger brother thought that Uncle Chen was eccentric and threatened to sever the relationship with him. Finally, because he could not bear the monthly subsidy from Uncle Chen, he came back to find Uncle Chen to be spoiled.