In old age, people should prepare two guarantees for themselves instead of being cows and horses for their children and grandchildren.

　　After retirement, what would you do if your children asked you to help with the baby?

　　In fact, most elderly people will encounter this problem. Whether to help bring up their grandchildren is a choice that will put the elderly in a dilemma.

　　Promise to take care of your grandchildren. I have worked hard for decades, and I have finally reached retirement age. Before I can enjoy my own good days for a few days, I have to continue to take care of my children, and the old people will feel uncomfortable and unwilling. Taking care of children is a very tiring job, no easier than going to work.

　　Refuse to bring grandchildren, children will feel unhappy, even if children say nothing, their spouses will have great complaints. As the saying goes, many old people are most worried about their refusal to bring their grandchildren, and their daughter-in-law will hold a grudge and refuse to support herself.

　　"If you don't bring me a baby, I won't give you a pension." The young man who said this sentence is justified, and the old man who heard this sentence has nowhere to complain.

　　In the TV series "Everything is Fine", there is a particularly classic line:

　　"Our parents have been waiting for us to say thank you all our lives, and we have been waiting for our parents to say sorry all our lives, but we can't wait for each other."

　　It is the most helpless thing for parents to be asked for by their children. It is also the most painful thing for the elderly to do cattle and horses for their children and grandchildren in their later years.

　　Recently, I visited several elderly people who live alone. They told me that in their later years, people should prepare two guarantees for themselves instead of being cows and horses for their children and grandchildren.

　　In old age, people should think more about themselves, which is not selfish, but human nature.

　　1. Help adult children, please do what you can and leave a pension for yourself; ?

　　Some time ago, 66-year-old Gu Bobo finally found a job in a fast food restaurant, and his wife also found a job.

　　When I asked them why they were still looking for jobs everywhere when they were old, Gu Bobo sighed: "My wife has no pension. My pension is only 2,000 yuan a month, and the rent is 800 yuan. How can the rest of the money be enough for us to live? I want to find a job while we can still work and save some money for a rainy day. "

　　As for why they don't have savings, Gu Bobo reminded the elderly with his own personal experience: "To help adult children, please do what you can and leave a pension for yourself. Don't cheat yourself like me."

　　Originally, Gu Bobo and his wife worked outside for decades, scrimped and saved more than 300,000 pieces of old capital, and a house in their hometown was enough to support the elderly. However, the son's marriage not only emptied all their savings, but also sold the house.

　　"My daughter-in-law wants a bride price and a house. Originally, I wanted to take a sum of money to support my son's marriage and save some money for the elderly. My son, on the other hand, is noisy and noisy at home, and even hunger strikes, insisting that we chip in to buy him a big house. My wife and I felt sorry for him and believed in his promise to live with us, so we sold the house in our hometown, hollowed out the money and bought him a house. "

　　When the house is bought, the people who move in are not Mr. and Mrs. Gu Bobo, but their own mothers. My mother, Ku Ku, took over the magpie's nest and United with her unfilial son, shutting the old couple out. Gu Bobo was helpless and had to find another way to make a living.

　　Makarenko, an education expert, said:

　　"Everything is given to children, sacrificing everything, even sacrificing their own happiness. This is the most terrible gift for parents to give their children."

　　Everything is given to children. How terrible is this gift? First of all, you sacrificed everything for your children, gave him everything, and put all the hopes of providing for the elderly on your children, which is equivalent to completely handing over your fate for the rest of your life to them. If your children are grateful and filial, you will be very happy in your later years; If your children are ungrateful, they just want to get what they don't want in return. When they dislike you or even throw you away as a burden, you are too old to resist and find a way out for yourself. At that time, your fate will become very bleak.

　　Secondly, if people are used to reaching out their hands, they will become accustomed to it, and this principle is also applicable to the relationship between parents and children. You pay too much, and your children are used to it. They think that this is what you should do as a parent and that they don't owe you anything. How can a child with such thoughts truly honor you?

　　Finally, parents' obligation to support their children only needs to last until they reach adulthood, and it is not your obligation to pay for their children to marry and have children. Helping is mutual affection, not helping is duty.

　　2. It is better to have principled help than to be an old maid for children and hurt their health;

　　Aunt Wu refused to help her son and daughter-in-law bring a second child. The daughter-in-law was very angry and made trouble at home several times. At last, Aunt Wu couldn't bear it and scolded me directly: "How dare you accuse me of having no conscience?" Which one has no conscience? What did I do to you? Ask yourself. How many nights did you sleep in your room after your grandson was born? He is noisy at night. When did you two wake up to help? When the child is sick, besides scolding me, have you ever stayed at the bedside to take care of it? I worked hard, helped you take care of the baby, cooked for you, washed for you and did housework. Then I got sick. What did you do? "

　　During Aunt Wu's illness and hospitalization, her son visited her twice, and her daughter-in-law only came once. The purpose was to let Aunt Wu return the medical expenses she had paid.

　　For the sake of children, Aunt Wu hurt her health as an old maid, but in exchange for her son and daughter-in-law's ungrateful, which made Aunt Wu feel extremely cold and refused to help again.

　　"It is better to have principled help than to be a big momma for your children and hurt your health. When they are at work, you can look after the children and drive them to and from school. When they come back, they should do their parents' duty and accompany their children. You are not their free nanny, you have no obligation to do all the housework, and you have no obligation to give them money to subsidize their families. If they don't accept your principled help, I hope you will become a good person who pays money and is a big momma. After being useless, you are willing to be kicked off. You still have a big temper and refuse it directly! "

　　When people reach their old age, please leave two guarantees for themselves, one is the basic living expenses, and the other is the health. No matter when, don't give your fate to others. Cool thin is full of human nature, even if it is a relative, it may not be reliable. Think more about yourself, which is talk.an excellent thing.

　　When people reach their old age, we are all in Du Jie. Before Du Jie, the more fully prepared you are, the easier it will be to rob them.

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