Husband fell in love with a woman seven years older than him. Husband： She is more sensible and richer than you.

　　The reader's letter says: Just last night, after my husband got home drunk, he told me seriously that he wanted to discuss something with me. My reaction at that time: I am an old married couple, so there is no need to be too cautious. Unexpectedly, what my husband wanted to tell me turned out to be that he fell in love with a divorced woman seven years older than him and wanted to divorce me for the other party. The reason given by the husband is that the other party is more sensible than me and can make money than me. When I first fell in love with my husband, I was the husband I actively pursued, because my husband grew up in my aesthetic system in terms of both face value and figure. My husband is two years older than me. I belong to the indigenous people in the city where my husband works, and my husband's hometown is in the countryside. When we got married, our family didn't ask our husband for a bride price and the house we lived in after marriage was provided by my parents. Although my parents didn't agree to this marriage at that time, I was very determined and my parents could only do it against their will. In the eight years of living with my husband, I have always been a humble existence, because my husband always shows a strong state in front of me by virtue of my love for him. Although my husband's strength sometimes makes me feel wronged, I try very hard to be an obedient wife in front of my husband because of his loyalty to marriage. To my surprise, I have shown full servility in front of my husband, but at the age of 30, I got her husband's betrayal of marriage. Even so, I still don't want to pull away from this relationship and cry and tell my husband that as long as he doesn't leave me, he can let me do anything in the future life.I obey his command in everything. But my husband is determined to divorce me. Last night, I stayed up all night, lying beside my husband crying. Although my husband will comfort me from time to time, he has not withdrawn his decision to divorce. My husband went out early this morning. My heart ached when my husband opened the door and left home. I want to ask, what should I do to make my husband give up the idea of divorce?

　　Analysis of Muzili's Emotion: More than 95% people in the world will feel tired when facing life, or they will always encounter the embarrassment that their dreams can't shine into reality. At this time, it seems that there is no good way to drive away negative emotions, and they can only comfort themselves more, accept their own commonness from the heart, and have some positive self-suggestions for themselves. Especially after years of groping in the society, I will understand that it is the normal state of life that things that are not satisfactory are often encountered. Therefore, people should learn to reconcile with themselves more often when they live all their lives. Sometimes, my depression is not the product of my own thoughts, but the people I value more give me real harm, which leads to my having to lie down and get shot. When you value someone and the relationship with this person, but the other person is unwilling to cooperate, you will certainly feel particularly sad, because your deep feelings can not be fulfilled as you desire, and even your efforts in this relationship are ruthlessly disappointed. Therefore, when people passively pull away from a relationship, they will be in a bad mood, and even at the beginning of the dissolution of this relationship, they will feel that living will lose its meaning. But we also need to understand a truth: it doesn't matter if the world leaves anyone. It means that no one will stay in the sad mood of lovelorn or divorce for a lifetime, and then the sad mood will disappear after a while. To this end, we must be convinced that everyone will have the ability to get out of pain.

　　At the beginning, when you fell in love with your husband, it was the result of your initiative to fight for it after you made a spoony. This relationship is a typical exchange of money and color. The reason why your husband is willing to accept you is that his heart is true: at that time, you were his best choice. In fact, in those years when you lived together, your feelings were ok (one was willing to fight and the other was willing to suffer), but now he has met a woman who is more superior in material terms, so he is no longer interested in your feelings. Look at your husband's concept of marriage and love from another angle: in his cognition, feelings and conscience are less important, and money is more important. To this end, you need to ask yourself: don't you feel particularly helpless when love is lost to money? A relationship needs two people to fulfill each other. Once one party in this relationship is determined to pull away from this relationship, the one who is unwilling to pull away from this relationship can only passively accept the result of separation. For this reason, there will be no possibility to reverse the relationship between you and your husband. Unless the woman that your husband is rare is no longer rare for your husband, you will become your husband's second best. In fact, the reason why the woman who is 7 years older than your husband fell in love with your husband must be because the other person is relatively rare in your husband's face value, thus giving your husband the temptation with money. Sometimes, we remind ourselves and people around us that the key to being a man is that someone is willing to be a baiwenhang. When you meet a baiwenhang in your life, you can only blame yourself for bad luck.

　　There are all kinds of people in this world, and many of them grew up in the atmosphere of traditional families and traditional education, but when they grow up, they will have different aesthetic standards, living habits, hobbies and views on marriage and love. For this reason, we often see some phenomena that we can't understand: I can't figure out why some people are obsessed with gambling; I can't figure out why some people are infected with drugs; I can't figure out why some people like the same sex; I can't figure out why some people cheat in marriage; I can't figure out why some people choose to commit suicide. However, these relatively small phenomena often happen around us. It's just that many things don't belong to personal experience, or they don't happen to people they value more, so they don't feel real anger and heartache. I believe that every adult will have such a concept of honor and disgrace: betraying marriage is a shameful thing. Even so, there will still be people who perform shameful acts, or are attracted by the value of the opposite sex outside marriage, or can't resist the temptation of money given by the opposite sex outside marriage, or some people are pursuing novelty in the emotional field. Many times, we can't control the thoughts and decisions of our loved ones and relatives and friends, and we can only try our best to show our clear conscience more often. Therefore, in the face of unexpected injuries, we can only make some injuries irrelevant in the passage of time. There is no need to show meaningless entanglement in front of a person who is determined to leave, because your entanglement will only make you more humble and get the other person more annoying.

　　Editor's note: In everyone's long life, there will be some scenes of separation, but many people have a shallow fate with themselves, so that facing separation will not affect their emotions. Those who have stayed in their lives for a short time will soon be indifferent from our memories with factors such as distance and long-term non-contact. Once a couple, after divorce, it will inevitably take a long time to heal the harm of divorce itself. When a person loses his mind in a relationship, he definitely hopes that this relationship will develop in the direction of everlasting, but we also need to understand that once the other half he values has the attribute of baiwenhang, you also need to passively accept the result of separation without too much entanglement when the other person is cruel to pull away from you. At this time, there should be some self-comfort: time will help you drive away this injury, and when you look back, you will find that you are actually relatively strong. (The picture is from the Internet, and the picture has nothing to do with it)