Divorced women's advice： After discovering that your husband has betrayed you, women should do these three things well.

　　The last thing a married woman wants to find out is that her husband has betrayed you!

　　When a woman loves a man to the bone, she can forgive his neglect, forgive some of his mistakes, and ignore his lack of wealth, but it is impossible to ignore his extramarital love.

　　The deeper you love, the deeper you hate, which is the same for men and women.

　　But what should you do when what you don't want to believe comes true and the evidence of your husband's betrayal is in front of you? Do you want to ask him clearly, or do you want to divorce, or give him another chance?

　　No matter how you decide, you have the right to choose. A divorced woman told me that when you find out that your husband has betrayed you, women should do these three things well in order to minimize the harm to themselves.

　　First, consider whether you want a divorce.

　　Sister Wang found out that her ex-husband had a lover, which was a childlike saying of her daughter. The daughter told Sister Wang that she saw a beautiful young woman beside her father, and they were still hugging and kissing.

　　Sister Wang turned over her husband's mobile phone and saw the chat record between him and the woman. The tone was very ambiguous, and Sister Wang had to believe that her husband was cheating.

　　After determining that her husband had betrayed her, Sister Wang began to plan for herself and her daughter's future. The first thing she has to consider is whether she divorced her husband.

　　Sister Wang is a cool-headed woman. She asks herself first, can she forget her husband's betrayal? The answer is of course no. Will you feel sick when you see your husband? The answer is yes. If you forgive him, are you confident that you can make him change his mind? The answer is none.

　　After understanding these questions, Sister Wang made up her mind to divorce.

　　Sister Wang told me that women should not let others' persuasion shake them when they consider divorce after finding out that their husbands are cheating. Her parents also advised her to think about her daughter and let her muddle along.

　　"I can't forgive him. I feel sick when I see him. If I don't divorce him, I'm not the one who suffers, but I'm not the one who makes mistakes. "

　　For women, when you consider whether to divorce, don't hesitate for the children. Sometimes, a family with disharmony between face and heart and full of uncertainties is even more unfavorable to children's growth.

　　If you still have feelings for your husband, have the confidence to let him go astray and are willing to give him a chance, you can choose to forgive him.

　　However, if you see his own heart will be tortured, you can never let it go, and you can't trust him again, thinking that he won't really return to the family, then you can cut the gordian knot.

　　Second, find evidence of his infidelity and strive for the benefits he deserves for divorce.

　　Since you have decided to divorce, you don't have to be soft on him. This is what Sister Wang told me.

　　After Wang Jie made up her mind to divorce, she used her pre-marital savings to hire a private detective to follow her husband and mistress. She also kept a chat record of her husband and mistress and took photos of her husband and mistress together.

　　After the evidence was collected completely, Sister Wang took the evidence to show her husband. Sister Wang told her husband, "Otherwise, I will sue the court, so that you will be ruined and humiliated, or you will sign this divorce agreement yourself."

　　Sister Wang wants half of the savings at home and half of the wedding room, which is a pain in the neck for her husband, so he naturally doesn't want to give up.

　　However, Sister Wang had evidence of his infidelity. Facing Sister Wang with a tough attitude, he had to lower his head, sign a divorce agreement and give her all the property that Sister Wang should share.

　　"Now that you've decided to divorce, don't consider what husband and wife love. When he betrayed me, did he consider our marital relationship? I deserve these properties. Why should I give them up? For a woman, when her husband is unreliable, she must have money in her hand. "

　　Your husband betrayed you, which shows that his affection for you is no longer there. He only cares about satisfying his own selfish desires, regardless of the harm to you. When you divorce, you should strive for the benefits you deserve and prepare for your new life. A woman should never give up her share of the property because she is angry and soft-hearted, which will only make it cheaper for the man who hurt you and harm her own interests.

　　To find a job, you should have the ability to live independently.

　　Sister Wang was originally a housewife. She didn't go out to work and had no financial ability, so she was looked down upon by her husband.

　　After Sister Wang decided to divorce, she went out to find a job, nominally to relieve the family's financial pressure, but in fact she was preparing for divorce.

　　"I am looking for a job to make money and to prove that I have financial ability. If I need to compete with my husband for custody, I also have capital."

　　When Sister Wang asked her husband to give her property, the husband really thought about threatening Sister Wang with the custody of her daughter. However, Sister Wang has a job and income, and her daughter is young and close to her mother. If her husband competes with Sister Wang for custody, she is likely to lose the lawsuit, and she can't use the custody of her children to blackmail Sister Wang.

　　Sister Wang suggested that women should not easily agree to be housewives after marriage. In a marriage, the more people make money, the heavier the right to speak at home.

　　If a woman decides to divorce, she should think clearly about her life after divorce. Having a job that can support yourself can save you a lot of worries. With the ability to make money, it can also prevent husbands from making a fuss about the custody of their children.