Rejecting Phoenix Man's confession for three times, the girl left her job decisively： the money my parents earned can't be cheaper than your family.

　　Home is the cradle of our growth, the harbor to relieve our fatigue and the sustenance of our spirit.

　　In our life, we will have more than one home. Before we got married, we lived with our parents, and where our parents were, our home was there. After marriage, we will form a new family with our spouses.

　　Spouse is the person who is most likely to accompany us to the old age. Birth, illness, death and illness are people's fate, and parents will leave us sooner or later; Living independently is also a human destiny. When children grow up, they will form another family and will not be with us forever. Therefore, the person who can really spend the rest of your life with you is your spouse.

　　When choosing a spouse, you must be cautious. As Warren Buffett once said:

　　"The most important decision in your life is who to marry."

　　Marriage is a woman's second reincarnation. If you marry the right person, happiness beckons to women not far away.

　　Zhang Xiaoxian said:

　　"What best reflects a woman's taste is not her clothes and hobbies, nor the car she drives, the books she reads, or the decoration at home, but what kind of man she falls in love with. Even if she has elegant taste in other aspects, if she falls in love with a bad man, she will fall short. "

　　It's really important to keep your eyes open and find someone who really suits you.

　　Last week, my cousin quit her job that she was very satisfied with, quit renting a house and came to me. When I asked her why she resigned, she replied, "I can't afford to hide. I refused the Phoenix man's confession three times, and he was still pestering me, so I had to disappear directly in front of his eyes."

　　01. Although I was raised by my parents, I am not a lover.

　　Thirty-four years ago, grandpa divided the family property into three parts, left one for his own pension, and gave one to my father and one to my uncle. After getting the property, uncle chose to go to sea to do business. After several ups and downs, uncle made money and settled down in the city.

　　With the hard work of uncles and aunts for more than 30 years, they have three houses and two expensive cars. According to my dad, the income of uncles and aunts is about 50,000 yuan a month. My cousin, who is their only child, has been enriched by her uncles and aunts since she was a child.

　　Don't buy clothes that are not brand-name. Learn piano, dance and painting since childhood, and send them to the best high school at a high price. My aunt will spare no expense in raising her daughter.

　　Material enrichment has not cultivated my cousin into a love brain that regards money as dirt. She knows very well how hard it is for her parents and how hard it is to earn money, so she has a very clear view of love.

　　"My future partner must meet this requirement. I don't want to marry into any rich family, and I don't want to experience poverty alleviation marriage. I just want to find a man with similar conditions to me. A man's family can't be much worse than mine, and he must be motivated. "

　　02. Less than three months after joining the company, a colleague confessed to me;

　　After graduating from college, in order to be truly independent, my cousin refused the job arranged by her uncle and insisted on staying in the local area and looking for a job by herself.

　　With outstanding professional ability, my cousin successfully joined a well-paid company.

　　Cousin is cheerful, kind and helpful, and soon gets along with colleagues, especially female colleagues.

　　"I was careless. I shouldn't say anything and tell others about my family. If he doesn't know my real family, maybe he won't chase me! "

　　He refers to the Phoenix man who is haunting his cousin, Alva Wang. Less than three months after his cousin joined the job, he was very enthusiastic about her and even confessed in public.

　　Alva Wang is my cousin's colleague, who is five years older than her. She is a small leader of this company. She has outstanding ability and is highly valued by her boss. Her monthly salary is about 20,000 yuan.

　　Alva Wang is a Phoenix man because of his family of origin. Cousin asked someone to inquire about it and got the general situation.

　　Born in the countryside, with two sisters, father working, mother sick in bed and graduated from a famous school, this is the general situation of Alva Wang.

　　After observing him for a period of time, I decided that he was not suitable for me;

　　At first, my cousin didn't directly exclude this person from the boyfriend. After all, Alva Wang is handsome and has the potential to be a warm man.

　　After observing Alva Wang for a period of time and learning more information from others, my cousin decided that Alva Wang was not suitable for her.

　　"Li Jie said that before me, Alva Wang also chased the other two girls, all for the family's family; Before the Double Eleven last year, we talked about shopping. Alva Wang spent 30,000 yuan on shopping, and none of it was for himself. Another time, when I was waiting for the elevator, I heard his conversation with someone else. He gave another male colleague an idea to find an only daughter from a rich family, so he didn't have to worry about buying a house. Since I heard that sentence, I completely gave up the idea of giving him a chance. "

　　In order to get rid of his entanglement, I resolutely chose to resign;

　　As a result, my cousin's attitude towards Alva Wang became more and more distant, and she treated him no differently from other male colleagues. Alva Wang never gave up, continued to pester her cousin, and confessed twice: "I really like you, why don't you give me a chance?"

　　"Do you like me or my family's money? I don't know, and I dare not gamble with my lifelong happiness and my parents' lifelong efforts. I'm sorry, the money earned by my parents can't be cheaper than your family."

　　Words are said to this sake, Alva Wang still don't give up, take the courtship at work, find someone to help persuade, constantly send messages to harass after work, and ask her cousin to go out at night. In the end, I refused Phoenix Man's confession for three times, and my cousin, a clever girl, left her job decisively, retired from renting a house, blacked out the contact information of all my colleagues and ran to me.

　　05. When looking for a suitable spouse, we should pay attention to four elements.

　　I remember Ma Weiwei once said in the program:

　　"Sometimes it's not that we are naturally easy to meet love rat, but that our values don't match each other and crush each other, making each other into slag."

　　To find a person with the same values, you need to meet four elements.

　　First of all, pay attention to the elements of love and find someone who really loves you. True love and false love are essentially different. Some people will pursue you because they like you and want to spend a lifetime with you; The reason why someone will pursue you is because your conditions are too good, which can bring a lot of help to his life. "Love" like this is actually a calculation.

　　Secondly, it is the material factor. Without money, it's hard for you to survive, let alone live a romantic life. For a truly happy marriage, it's best not to climb high and marry low. If you climb high, your foundation and strength are insufficient, and the other party will look down on you; If you are low, you may be a cash cow.

　　Moreover, it is character. When you get married, you must find someone with good character. Before you get married, you should spend enough time with him to judge a person's character through details and the evaluation of people around you. People with bad character are only suitable for staying away.

　　Finally, there are three factors. People who don't have the same views will sit together and talk too much, so they can't communicate normally at all. If you don't want to live a life of quarreling every once in a while after marriage, you should pay attention to avoiding people who have different views.

　　Venus wrote in hit the floor:

　　"Love can be talked about without life, but marriage is not. Marriage is life."

　　Choosing a qualified partner for yourself is responsible for your life.

　　Today's topic: Do you think the right marriage concept is out of date? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.