Phoenix man pays half his salary to his parents every month, and it costs 300 thousand to get married. Mom： I bought a house for your brother.

　　Tolstoy wrote in anna karenine: "All happy families are similar, and each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."

　　Among all kinds of misfortunes in family of origin, there is one that your parents don't love you, or they only love your brothers and sisters and don't love you. When they meet eccentric parents, their children have to bear their parents' indifference and indifference, but also see how they love other children, and even be forced to become stepping stones for other brothers and sisters. This kind of family of origin makes people feel suffocated and want to escape.

　　Parents are eccentric, which is very common in real life, and such families have appeared many times in film and television dramas, for example, Fan Shengmei in Ode to Joy, Su Mingyu in Everything is Fine, and the room in Anjia is like a brocade.

　　If you have such a family, remember the words of Louise Hay, the author of Rebuilding the Heart: "If you think that family of origin is your destiny, you will lose. Because only oneself can find the outlet of all problems, and only oneself is the one who can rewrite fate. "

　　"For the sake of my brother, ruined my marriage, are you satisfied? The same son, why do you do this to me? " It's useless for Han Lei to save his girlfriend, and he feels very broken. It was none other than his parents who caused him to lose this love.

　　01. My monthly salary is 30,000, and I pay at least half of my parents' salary every month to help me save it.

　　Han Lei was born in a family with a low standard of living, and his parents' income was meager. He had to support his grandparents and two sons, and his life was very difficult.

　　"If the poor want to change their destiny, they can only study." Compared with his younger brother who was doted on by his family and grew up, he studied for three days, fished for two days and dried his net. Han Lei worked harder and harder. In the end, his efforts paid off. At the age of 18, Han Lei was admitted to a key university.

　　After graduation, Han Lei stayed in a big city and entered a large enterprise to gain a foothold step by step.

　　"My monthly salary is around 30,000, and I have become the Phoenix man in people's mouths. When my parents asked me about my income, I didn't think much and told them. "

　　At this time, my parents made a suggestion: "You are young, don't know how to manage money, and live in a big city. There are too many good things, and it is easy to control the hands of spending money. You leave the living expenses, take the rest home, and we'll save it for you, so you can use it when you marry your wife. "

　　Han Lei felt that what his parents said was very reasonable. After all, he did sometimes buy something that was not commonly used. So, after Han Lei gets paid every month, he will give at least half of his salary to his parents to save, and then give some money to honor his parents.

　　"I am 28 years old this year, and I have been giving them money for six years in a row. In the first two years, I almost had to pay 10,000 yuan a month to go back, and I can pay 15,000 yuan later. During this period, grandpa was critically ill in hospital, and the medical expenses were paid by me. My parents want to live better and spent 100,000 yuan to decorate the house, so there are at least 500,000 left! "

　　02. It was not until I was 28 years old that I met a girl who was willing to marry me and began to talk about marriage.

　　As a Phoenix man, Han Lei's marriage has always been a difficult problem.

　　When she was in college, Han Lei fell in love with a girl in her class, a local and an only daughter with a good family. Han Lei carefully prepared and confessed to her, but was directly rejected: "I have to be suitable for marriage, and other people don't consider it."

　　In the company, he also pursued two colleagues. A female colleague decided that she was uneasy and didn't really look at him. Another female colleague was like family of origin in Han Lei. She was a Fung Wong-Nui, and she didn't want to accept Han Lei. The reason was that she had to help her brother get a wife, support her parents, and find another one similar to her, which was too stressful.

　　After that, Han Lei kissed several times, all of which ended in failure: "Either I didn't like others, or people didn't like me. I finally saw it and lost in the 200,000 bride price. It's not easy for me to make money. I really don't want to give my hard-earned money to the woman's family. "

　　It was not until the beginning of the year that Han Lei met his girlfriend Xiaoya. Xiaoya's parents are very reasonable and don't mind the status of Han Lei Phoenix Man. They only put forward two requirements about marriage.

　　"The bride price is 60,000, and then I buy a house, and the family pays half the down payment. Xiaoya and I have already chosen a house. I probably need to pay 200,000 yuan and buy a diamond ring. "

　　Xiaoya's request was reasonable, and Han Lei agreed. Then, during the Mid-Autumn Festival holiday, Han Lei went back to his hometown, told his parents about the happy event, and took money to get married.

　　03. It turns out that your so-called saving for me is actually for my brother.

　　Han Lei pays half of his salary to his parents every month, and it costs 300,000 yuan to get married. In theory, after six years, he can definitely get the money.

　　However, seeing that the eldest son's marriage has settled down, Han Lei's parents are not only unhappy, but also complain that Han Lei is useless: "The Phoenix man in the TV series can marry a girl who doesn't want a bride price and a wedding room, and she can also get the property of her mother's family. Why can't you do it? Want to marry a girl who wants everything?"

　　"Mom, now the girl is very fine, all know the importance of suitable, rich girl which value your son? Xiaoya's request is very reasonable, and no one will marry me if I choose again. Besides, it is not impossible to get 300,000 yuan. "

　　However, Han Lei's parents really can't come up with it. Under the pressure of their son, they told the truth: "There is no money, so I bought a house for your brother."

　　It turns out that some time ago, Han Lei's younger brother's girlfriend was pregnant, and the woman's parents went to the door and asked for an explanation. Han Lei's parents suggested getting married.

　　"The girl's parents asked for a bride price of 100,000 yuan, and asked us to buy a house in full in the county, unwilling to let her daughter suffer from the loan repayment. If we can't come up with the money, they want your brother to look good. There is really no way, so we have to use your money to buy a house for your brother. "

　　After listening to his parents' words, Han Lei felt desperate. However, no matter how noisy he was, it didn't help. The house had been bought, and his brother's name was written on the real estate license. His brother also shouted, "You are my brother, so it's right to spend money on me". Han Lei's parents not only don't feel guilty about their eldest son, but complain that their son is useless and can't marry a rich girl.

　　Knowing that Han Lei couldn't afford to buy a house and get married, Xiaoya felt very angry. She thought that Han Lei had cheated her, and she didn't want to have such unreasonable in-laws and chose to break up.

　　04. It is necessary to guard against people's heart, which actually works for relatives.

　　In this world, there are two kinds of relatives, one is that they really love you dearly, think of you everywhere, and don't abandon your family even if you get along badly, and the other is an "outsider" who tries his best to take advantage of you under the banner of affection and never treats you as a relative.

　　Treat the first kind of people, you should be kind to them, help them as much as you can when they need your help, and be filial. As for the second kind of relatives, remember that it is necessary to guard against others, and this statement actually works for relatives.

　　There is a saying in "Caigen Tan": "Richness is more than coldness, and flesh and blood are more taboo. The state of coldness is richer than poverty; Jealousy, the flesh and blood is especially cruel to outsiders. If you don't use cold intestines here, you will be calm, and you will never sit in trouble. "

　　In fact, whether they regard you as family or not, and whether they love you or not, you can feel it from daily life. When you find that they don't regard you as family at all, you'd better accept the fact as soon as possible and think more about yourself. Don't let your life make a wedding dress for them.

　　There are no parents in the world who don't love their children. This sentence is really unbelievable.

　　Today's topic: Do you think Han Lei's practice of giving his salary to his parents for safekeeping is stupid? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.