Before marriage, a courier from my ex-boyfriend ruined my marriage： this is a big taboo in love.

　　Trust is the cornerstone of stable love, as important as loyalty and tolerance. If marriage is full of suspicion, marriage will go on very well.

　　The premise of stable trust is honesty, which requires both husband and wife to be honest with each other and not to hide important things from each other.

　　Although there are some secrets in everyone's heart that they don't want others to know, there are many things that your partner has the right to know, especially those that are related to your partner's vital interests.

　　If you cheat your lover and hide something very important from him, it is easy to hurt his heart when the truth is exposed.

　　Lying is exposed at a price, which can make your lover dissatisfied and suspicious, and his feelings are not as strong as before. What's more, he will be disappointed with you and choose to break up with you or divorce.

　　01

　　Xiao Han is my second boyfriend and my favorite man. His appearance smoothed out the pain caused by my first love.

　　I had a boyfriend, Xiao Han knew it, and I told him when he confessed to me.

　　At that time, he hugged me and said to me, "I only know that I love you and I don't care about your past."

　　I was very moved and accepted his love.

　　When I was chatting with Xiao Han, I mentioned my ex-boyfriend to him.

　　My ex-boyfriend is a love rat. The reason why he pursues me is because he has a crush on my ability and can help him in his work.

　　My ex-boyfriend works in a foreign trade company and needs to handle many foreign orders. I majored in foreign languages in college and taught myself a small language, which helped my ex-boyfriend a lot in his work.

　　I once spent an evening translating a document to help him win an order. After he got the commission, he sent it all home, but he didn't want to invite me to dinner.

　　My ex-boyfriend is very good at making me happy with sweet words. I was so devoted to him that I never doubted his words.

　　Therefore, when he asked me to move in together, I agreed hastily.

　　After living together for a while, he asked me to have sex. I originally wanted to refuse, but when I saw his lost expression, I felt sorry and had to promise him.

　　The reason why we broke up was that he refused to give me a bride price and threatened me with the baby in my belly.

　　After we lived together for half a year, I got pregnant and he promised to marry me.

　　However, in the face of my mother's 100 thousand bride price, he proudly refused, and said to me, "You are pregnant and have the nerve to ask me for a bride price?" We don't pay attention to bride price in this area, and the woman must pay a dowry when she gets married. Otherwise, if you marry 200,000, I will marry you, otherwise our marriage will be exempted, and you can dispose of the children casually! "

　　I can't believe that the child in my belly is his own flesh and blood! He was so cold-blooded and heartless that he threatened me with the baby in my belly.

　　My mother was angry and went to my boyfriend's parents to reason. My ex-boyfriend's mother mocked my mother like this: "How dare you come to me to reason with such a self-respecting daughter?" I don't want this unmarried pregnant daughter-in-law yet! I can't afford to lose this person at home. "

　　I felt desperate for my ex-boyfriend. Accompanied by my parents, I took away the baby in my belly and broke up with my ex-boyfriend.

　　My ex-boyfriend interpreted the word scum to the extreme. After I chose to break up with him, he regretted it again and began to pester me and wanted to get back together with me.

　　In order to get rid of him, I came to another city and met Xiao Han here.

　　02

　　When I fell in love with Xiao Han completely, I found something that scared me, that is, Xiao Han's parents were also very conservative. They didn't care that I had a boyfriend, but they cared very much about whether I was a virgin.

　　I found it through chatting with Xiao Han's mother.

　　There is a girl near Xiao Han's home. Like me, she was abandoned by her boyfriend and became a local talk.

　　When Xiao Han's mother mentioned the girl, her eyes were full of sarcasm, and she said to me, "A girl who doesn't respect herself is easy to be looked down upon. Remember, girl, if you have a daughter with Xiao Han, you should teach my granddaughter well and don't do such an insulting thing."

　　I promised very readily at that time, but I felt extremely uneasy in my heart.

　　Xiao Han also asked me if I had ever had sex with my ex-boyfriend. Looking at his expectant eyes, I chose to cheat him and tell him that I am still innocent. When he heard this sentence, he was so excited that he ran out to call and tell his parents the good news.

　　The next day, he bought a diamond ring and proposed to me.

　　I really don't want to lose Xiao Han, so I accepted his proposal and began to look forward to our wedding date.

　　A week before the wedding, Xiao Han took me to the Civil Affairs Bureau and got the marriage certificate first. I was very much in favor of it at that time, and I wanted our marriage to be a foregone conclusion.

　　However, on the eve of our wedding, Xiao Han received a courier, opened it and found some photos and a letter inside. I don't know how, my heart is more uneasy, and I subconsciously want to get out of here.

　　Xiao Han opened the letter and his face turned blue instantly. He looked at me angrily and threw the letter in front of me.

　　I picked up the letter and looked at it, feeling an unprecedented panic in my heart. That letter was sent by my ex-boyfriend, in which he described me as a very casual woman, who lived with him not long after falling in love and conceived a child for him. Because his family was poor and couldn't give a bride price, I abandoned him cruelly.

　　In order to convince Xiao Han of what he said, he also attached my original pregnancy certificate in the courier. In black and white, I can't deny it at all.

　　Xiao Han took my hand and asked, "Is what he said true? Are you a virgin or not? Did you really have a baby for him? If it's not true, just tell me. "

　　I feel so guilty that I dare not look up into his eyes. At this time, my mother-in-law came in, picked up the letter and read it. She was even more angry, calling me shameless and cheating on her marriage.

　　Xiao Han made a dash for the door, and I collapsed to the ground, tears streaming down my face. I was young at that time, deceived by love rat, and I was not as casual as he said!

　　On the third day, the day of the wedding, Xiao Han came back. The first thing he said made me feel disheartened: "Let's get a divorce! The wedding is cancelled. "

　　I grabbed Xiao Han's hand, which gave me a lot of warmth: "can't you forgive me once?" I was cheated by him at the beginning, too. I was not as casual as he said. We've been together for so long, and you won't believe my character? "

　　Xiao Han's voice is still so calm: "I don't care about your wrong place, nor do I care about your pregnancy. What I care about is that you lied to me. If you trust me enough and feel my heart, if you really love me enough, you won't cheat me. In love, the most fearful thing is cheating. Because of your deception, our family's trust in you has been ruined. Even if I marry you, how will you face my parents? "

　　I have nothing to say.

　　"Now as long as I see you, I will think of your cheating on me. I'm sorry, the thing I hate most is being cheated, and the more terrible thing is being cheated by my favorite woman. I can't forgive you or accept you. "

　　Finally, I agreed to Xiao Han's request and got a divorce certificate from him. I know that all this is my own fault, and his words made me understand where I was wrong.

　　If I knew how to respect myself and cherish my reputation when talking about the first relationship, and I wasn't easily tempted by my ex-boyfriend and carried away by love, I wouldn't have lost my most precious thing, and I didn't get the respect I deserved, but I fell into his hands.

　　When I get along with Xiao Han, if I tell him the truth in time, I have nothing to hide. Even if he can't accept it, then we won't be in this embarrassing situation.

　　A courier from my ex-boyfriend ruined my marriage. While hating him, I also understood a truth. In love, one thing is taboo, that is, cheating on your lover.

　　I want to remind girls through my experience to cherish their reputation. In love, it is absolutely unacceptable. When you treat your lover, you must not hide anything important.

　　Trust and frankness complement each other, and trust is based on frankness.