＂If you want to marry my daughter, you can promise me three conditions.＂ ＂Sorry, I won't marry my mother.＂

　　For a woman, what kind of man she marries is directly related to her happiness for the rest of her life. If a woman marries the right person, she will be guaranteed for the rest of her life. If a woman marries the wrong person, it will not only affect herself, but also affect the life of her family.

　　For men, it is better to marry a helper than a wife. For women, there are men who can't marry when they get married, such as Ma Baonan, domestic violence man and poverty alleviation man.

　　When it comes to the word Mabao, people always subconsciously combine it with men, and then think of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In fact, it is true that Ma Bao-nan can't marry, but neither can Ma Bao-nv.

　　Some time ago, my brother went to his girlfriend's house to propose marriage. In the evening, he came home with an angry face and said to us when he entered the door, "Mom and Dad, this marriage can't be concluded. I won't marry Xiaozi."

　　Under the inquiry of parents, we found out what had happened.

　　01

　　My brother is 32 years old and is a standard older man. As a man, he has a strong enterprising spirit, insists on the belief of starting a family first and has been working hard outside.

　　Starting a business failed three times, with a debt of 100 thousand, and lived on instant noodles for half a month. This is how my brother started a business. He has a lot of backbone and is particularly stubborn, insisting on refusing to accept the help of his parents. Finally, my brother successfully started his own business, had his own team, and stood firm in the big city.

　　Since three years ago, my mother has been urging my brother to get married. At this time, a girl from the company next door attracted my brother's attention.

　　That girl's name is Xiaozi, five years younger than my brother, and she is very beautiful. Xiaozi is extremely lively, likes to help enliven the atmosphere, and is especially good at talking.

　　After my brother fell in love with Xiaozi, he found an acquaintance in their company. With the help of acquaintances, my brother successfully confessed to Xiaozi. Then, the two of them successfully became boyfriend and girlfriend.

　　My brother talked with Xiao Zi for three years, and then my mother urged him to get married.

　　In the process of getting along with Xiaozi, my brother found one of her shortcomings and discussed it with me privately.

　　"Xiaomei, didn't mom tell you not to marry Ma Baonan? I think Xiaozi has the characteristics of a mother-in-law girl. "

　　"How do you know?"

　　"I want to take her to eat hot pot. She told me that the food bought outside was not clean because her mother said it. Every time I go out to play, when Xiaozi needs to pay, she has to call her mother for money, because her salary card belongs to her mother. During the period when we lived together, I found that Xiaozi couldn't do housework at all. Another time, I wanted to take her out for a trip. She not only had to report the detailed plan to her parents, but also talked to her mother on the phone for an hour every day. We have only been playing for three days, and she is clamoring to go home. "

　　"She may just be too dependent on her parents!"

　　Although I think what my brother said is reasonable, as a younger sister, I can't speak ill of my brother's girlfriend!

　　02

　　Some time ago, my brother took a bank card with 200 thousand bride price, bought some gifts, and came to propose marriage with great expectation. As a result, Xiaozi's mother proposed three conditions for marriage to her brother. Unless my brother agrees to these three conditions, he will never agree to marriage.

　　"First, you want to buy a wedding room in full, and write my name on the wedding room. After marriage, your parents can't move in, but I'm going to move in to take care of Xiao Zi. Second, I have worked in a bank and am good at managing money. In order to prevent you young people from spending money indiscriminately, you give me all your salary cards and I will take care of the money. Third, Xiaozi is an only child, and her first child should be named after her. "

　　Let alone my brother, these three conditions are unacceptable even to me.

　　My brother didn't speak and asked Xiao Zi, "What do you think of these three conditions?"

　　Xiao Zi put it this way: "I have known my mother's conditions for a long time, and naturally I feel no problem. You see, first of all, I am an only child and have been living under the care of my mother. If I leave my mother, I'm afraid I can't take care of myself. Therefore, mom can take care of us if she moves there! Secondly, my mother is right about financial management. Compared with us, she is better at managing money. I don't have any brothers or sisters, and you're not worried that my mother will take your money to subsidize others. Finally, I am an only child. What's wrong with having a child with my last name? "

　　After listening to Xiaozi's words, my brother sighed and said, "In that case, I can only say I'm sorry. I won't marry my mother."

　　After listening to the general story, my parents stopped urging my brother to get married.

　　03

　　Whether it is a mother-baby boy or a mother-baby girl, it has a great influence on marriage. Then, why can't a mother be married?

　　First, mothers and daughters generally grow up under the doting of their parents. Even if they are old enough to get married, they can't bear the heavy responsibility of a family.

　　As a woman, you are not obliged to undertake all the housework, but the most basic self-care ability is still needed. A woman can't expect to marry a man who can make money and take care of your daily life in every possible way, let alone expect her mother to take care of you at any time after marriage. As a woman, it is a basic requirement to take care of her daily life independently. Otherwise, how can you raise your own children?

　　Second, a mother-in-law likes to consult her mother in everything and let her make decisions for herself, which will cause conflicts between men and their parents-in-law.

　　For a man, the decision-making power at home can be given to his wife, his children and his parents. However, they absolutely don't want the opinions of their parents-in-law to affect the trend of family affairs, and they don't want them to be interfered by their parents-in-law when making decisions.

　　If a woman is a mother, she will tell her parents everything about her family, and even listen to her parents' opinions to influence her husband's decision. If so, men will be dissatisfied and couples will have conflicts.

　　Third, if a man marries a mother, it is easy to help the poor.

　　If a woman is a mother-in-law and has brothers and sisters at home, the mother-in-law may give her husband and wife's common property to her parents to help them get rid of poverty because of their parents' requirements or instigation. Therefore, when a man marries a mother, he must be cautious and consider the advantages and disadvantages clearly.

　　Finally, give some advice to children who grow up with their parents' doting.

　　Life is long, and the future needs to be explored by yourself. Parents can protect you for a while, but they can't protect you for life. If you rely on your parents to give you advice on everything and to settle problems for you, you can't really grow up. When you encounter the same problem again, you still can't solve it.

　　We have no reason to ask others to hold us in the palm of their hands and love us like parents. If we don't even have the basic ability to take care of ourselves, it's easy to bore our lover and make our life unhappy.

　　Both men and women should have the courage to step out of their parents' arms and meet their own future. Only when you have independent skills can you take care of yourself.

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