A man needs 300 thousand to get married, forcing his sister to hand over her savings. fiancee： I dare not marry, for fear of having a daughter.

　　Psychologist Wu Zhihong wrote in the best-selling book Why Family Hurts People: When getting married, the standard of making choices is not passion, let alone love and love, but often security, not only when elders make choices for their children, but also when young people make their own choices.

　　Therefore, both men and women will consider each other's economic factors, personality and even learning and ideological level when choosing a spouse, and strive to find a person who is not better than their own comprehensive conditions but not much worse.

　　Some people may think that talking about money hurts feelings. Once interests are involved, love is no longer pure. However, marriage depends not only on love, but also on suitability. If two people are not suitable, even if there is love, it can't blossom and bear fruit. If love disappears, the marriage will be fragmented, no matter how hard it is for both husband and wife, it will be even harder for the children.

　　In addition to the economic situation, personality, personal ability and three views, there is one thing that can never be ignored when choosing a spouse, and that is family of origin.

　　Girl, please note that even if you have your own house after marriage and don't live with your in-laws, it doesn't mean that your in-laws won't affect your marriage.

　　As emotional expert Lu Qi said: "When you get married, you are not married to a certain person, but to all the social relations of this person. So what kind of marriage will you have when you marry a family. "

　　When choosing a spouse, you must see family of origin, especially the girls. If you find something wrong, such as the husband's family's preference for sons, don't hesitate to avoid it.

　　"Mom, I'm sorry, I may embarrass you, and the wedding reception will be cancelled." Aunt Pan felt something was wrong when she heard her daughter Zhu Lin's words. She was afraid that her daughter would be hit and felt comforted.

　　"Shame is a small matter, you have a happy life is a big thing, cancel it, my daughter is not married. What the hell is going on? Tell mom, mom will judge you. "

　　Under the comfort of her mother, Zhu Lin told everyone the reason why she decided to cancel the marriage.

　　01. I heard that my boyfriend has a sister, and my cousin reminded me to pay attention to his family of origin. I didn't care at that time;

　　Zhu Lin's fiance, Lin You, is one year older than her. They fell in love two years ago. Two months ago, they passed the parents' test and decided on the wedding date. The wedding will be held on May Day.

　　Lin You graduated from a college and worked in the provincial capital, with a monthly salary of 8,000 yuan, which is about 1,000 yuan higher than that of Zhu Lin. In terms of economic strength, it is ok.

　　On family background, Lin You is much worse than Zhu Lin. Lin You's parents are migrant workers. When his son was only 3 years old, he went out to work and paid a pension. When he was old, he had basic security. Zhu Lin's father is a cook and his mother is a teacher. After retirement, his pension is much higher than that of Lin You's parents.

　　"I don't know much about his family. I only know that his parents are working outside. He has a sister who is two years older than him and has not yet married. He didn't say anything else, and I didn't ask, for fear that he would be angry."

　　Compared with Zhu Lin's parents, Zhu Lin's cousin knew about her love affair earlier. After learning that my cousin's boyfriend has a sister, my cousin reminded Zhu Lin of one thing.

　　"My husband's uncle and aunt seriously prefer boys to girls. For the sake of his son, he exploited his daughter, took her daughter's marriage as his son's ATM, asked for a bride price of 200,000 yuan, and married his son. As a result, his daughter-in-law also gave birth to a daughter. Now, the old couple were annoyed. Every day, they made a scene at their son's house, telling their daughter-in-law that they would either have another child and make sure they were grandchildren, or get out of here with the girl film. Their son is not a thing either, standing on the side of his parents and putting pressure on his wife. You say, who can guarantee that you will have a son? This can't blame women! This is not importune? Finally, they divorced. "

　　Cousin reminds Zhu Lin that although we can't kill all the boys with sisters with one stick, we must pay attention to it, so that Zhu Lin must find out whether there is a preference for boys in her boyfriend's family.

　　However, Zhu Lin was in love at that time, and she didn't have a clear understanding of marriage and didn't take her cousin's reminder seriously.

　　02. My boyfriend and sister called to question me, and I almost became the murderer who killed his sister;

　　It was not until some time ago that someone found Zhu Lin that Zhu Lincai knew that her cousin's concerns were not groundless, and she almost met her cousin's cousin family of origin.

　　The person looking for Zhu Lin was none other than Lin You's sister. Lin You's sister faced her future sister-in-law, and she was not polite. She opened her mouth and asked them why they drove her to the dead, which made Zhu Lin puzzling.

　　"I invited his sister to a coffee shop and comforted her while drinking coffee, so that she told me the truth."

　　"Even if you tell my parents and my brother about our conversation, even if you leave my brother because of this, I don't care if my parents scold me for ruining my brother's happiness. They ruined my happiness regardless of my life and death, so don't blame me for being unfilial. "

　　Lin You's sister cried and complained to Zhu Lin about her parents' son preference.

　　First of all, 12 years ago, Lin You's sister got good grades and had a good chance of getting into college. However, her parents kept her at home, which abruptly ruined her chances of taking the college entrance examination and forced her to give up her studies and go out to work.

　　Secondly, she has been working outside for 12 years, and her salary has risen from 1,000 to 7,000 today. She has resisted countless times and moved several times. Her parents refused to let her go and kept asking her for money.

　　"I earn 7000 a month, they want 5000, this is not don't let me live? How do I pay the rent? How to buy daily necessities? "

　　Finally, the reason why Lin You's sister hasn't married at the age of 30 is because she hates her parents and doesn't want her marriage to be a weight for her brother to marry.

　　"My parents asked people to introduce me to the object. They didn't look at the character, and they didn't look at their family. They didn't care if they were married. Why did they get divorced? They just looked at the amount of bride price money."

　　Hearing the complaint of her fiance's sister, Zhu Lin felt unbelievable. After all, she is an only child and the apple of her parents' eye. She never dreamed that there were parents who treated her daughter like this in the world.

　　03. If I marry a family that favors boys over girls, wouldn't I be miserable if I couldn't have a son?

　　The last straw that crushed Lin You's sister was the marriage between Lin You and Zhu Lin.

　　"You married my brother and asked for a bride price of 80,000 yuan. You want to buy a house in the provincial capital, right?"

　　Zhu Lin nodded, in her view, his request is not too much. However, Lin You's parents obviously had savings in their hands, but they refused to take them out and made up their minds about their daughter.

　　"My mother told me that she was ill, but I believed her and ran back to see her. She turned over my bag and took my bank card and ID card, forcing me to tell my password and hand over all my money. I married my brother and said that it would be better to spend it on my brother than to let me take it away to my future husband-in-law."

　　Not only do parents push their daughters so hard, but Lin You also rudely asks her sister to hand over all her savings, telling her that he needs 300,000 yuan to get married. If her savings are not enough, she will borrow money and pay it back. After listening to her younger brother, Lin You's sister completely collapsed.

　　So, she not only resented her parents, but also resented Zhu Lin, and tried her best to get the contact information of Zhu Lin and come to Zhu Lin's trouble.

　　Knowing what happened to her fiance's sister, Zhu Lin was in a cold sweat: "I'm afraid to marry and have a daughter. I can imagine what would happen if I had a daughter, and how pitiful my daughter would be."

　　After listening to Zhu Lin's words, Aunt Pan understood what had happened and raised her hands in favor of her daughter's cancellation of the marriage. Lin You adamant4, ask Zhu Lin break up reason, Zhu Lin made up his mind, blacked him out.

　　However, Zhu Lin has a question: "Is it possible that men's parents prefer boys to girls, and men do not prefer boys to girls, and will protect their wives and daughters?"

　　04. Woman, you are not a god. Don't try to change the thoughts that others have been exposed to for more than 20 years, but change yourself!

　　This possibility does exist. Some men have received advanced ideological education, and they will be sensible and do not value boys over girls. However, I want to say, woman, you'd better not bet your marriage to challenge humanity.

　　Anne Baby said: "Don't challenge humanity easily. Humanity can't stand the test at all. What it needs is preservation and cover. If you cut to the chase, it will be full of flaws."

　　If you lose the challenge, when you have a daughter, you find that he also has the idea of son preference, or even if he doesn't, they are his parents. Can he really stand firm against the parents who gave birth to him and protect you for decades?

　　At that time, not only will you be wronged and feel very painful, but your daughter will also be treated unfairly. Family of origin, who prefers boys to girls, is the biggest pain in a girl's life.

　　Woman, you are not a god. Don't try to change the ideas that others have been exposed to for more than 20 years, but change yourself! Remember, don't get married at random, don't bet on marriage, even if you are responsible for yourself, you are responsible for your children.

　　Today's topic: Do you think Lin You has a preference for sons over daughters? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.