Why do boys generally stop chasing girls now？ The answer is sad!

　　My cousin is two years older than me. He called me a while ago and told me that his marriage had fallen through. He said that his aunt's lion had a big mouth, and he wouldn't marry until the bride price was less than 200,000. The garage had to be prepared and the woman's name had to be printed. My cousin was an ordinary working class, with a monthly salary of only a few thousand, and his parents barely had enough money to eat and wear. My cousin asked helplessly: Do I have to lose everything to marry a wife?

　　I have seen this girl. She has been with her cousin since college. It was not easy to have a relationship for 78 years. In my eyes, she was very considerate and good-looking. Later, she accidentally got pregnant. I don't know if she was instigated by her parents or relatives. She refused to give in on the RV issue. Her attitude was very firm: no RV, no marriage.

　　Uncle and aunt also advised cousin, saying that selling the house at home could raise hundreds of thousands of dollars, and advised cousin to make peace with the girl quickly. Cousin was anxious and angry and asked them: Where do you live if you sell the house? The old couple said it was a big deal to rent a house, but the cousin of course refused.

　　Once the girl and her cousin had a fierce argument. My cousin asked him: Are you going to marry me or the house? She suddenly burst into anger and slapped her cousin, leaving no room in her words: you are a loser, and you have to cry for poverty when you buy a house. I will ask you, do you want children or money? Cousin's backlog of grievances is already deep, how can he stand this anger? After hearing this, he broke the door and said very firmly: whether you want children or money, you and I don't want it anyway.

　　Later, the girl tried her best to save it, but it didn't help. She took her parents to her cousin's house to make trouble. Everyone scolded her for being heartless and abandoning her wife and children, which made everyone in the village know. I happened to meet this family when I came home. Her parents were swearing around her cousin's door, and the girl was crying with a big belly. The onlookers also scolded her cousin for being love rat.

　　The girl's father pointed at her cousin and swore: You are a fucking irresponsible bastard. The girl's mother also scolded some particularly ugly words, such as fish begins to stink at the head, whose son only played with the girl's feelings, and my uncle and aunt became angry when they heard it quickly. I was so angry that I went back on the spot: I had a lot of things to do, and I didn't want to think about whose fault it was when I got to this point.

　　In fact, I felt a little sorry. In private, I asked him: After all, the child is innocent. Is it really irreparable? My cousin said to me with red eyes, I still love her, but it is impossible for us.

　　From the moment she threatened me with her child, I knew we were not on the same side. The child is not a bargaining chip. Even if he is born, she and I may not be able to give the child happiness. Later, my cousin blacked out all her contacts, regardless of how the other party made trouble. The woman couldn't help it, and finally she knocked the child off. Originally, they could have a wonderful love.

　　This society is too materialistic, housing prices have gone up ridiculously, women are insecure, and the burden on men is too heavy. I understand my cousin's situation, but I can only comfort him: in fact, neither you nor she is wrong, but this era is ridiculous.

　　I've thought a lot. When a girl has a child, her requirements are nothing more than a garage, but a standard for marriage. It's not too much for many people, but my cousin really can't afford it at present. Do you want to let his parents live on the streets?

　　This is a dilemma. From beginning to end, the child is always innocent. But the contradiction can't be solved at all, and they can only say goodbye to each other. I once knew an uncle, who looked mature and determined, but cried like an idiot after being drunk and hot. He came out of a mountain village, and he barely went to college with the support of villagers. His pocket money is only a few hundred per month, but his clothes are worn out but he is reluctant to change. He usually works part-time besides studying. There are no games or aj in his life, and there are no bars and nightclubs.

　　The students looked at him like a monster. The first love letter in his life was thrown directly into the trash can. The girl seemed to be insulted and replied viciously: You want to chase me, too, like a bird?

　　During that time, his whole world was dark, and the whole person was like a dead body. Because his self-esteem was trampled to pieces, he could only anesthetize himself with learning, but his grades were unexpectedly good, and he was the first in the whole grade every time.

　　Perhaps it was the providence that he received a letter in his junior year. The handwriting on it was very delicate: Your name is the shortest love poem I have ever seen. This is a very poetic and romantic confession.

　　The girl is the study committee member in the class, wearing gold-rimmed glasses. According to him, she is the most beautiful girl in the world. Their relationship is heating up rapidly, and they can often be seen clinging to each other in the library, on the campus path and on the playground.

　　The girl's best friend is puzzled, saying that this man is a phoenix man, ugly as hell, and completely unworthy of the girl, and that she is simply blind. The girl was angry on the spot: Do you believe my boyfriend broke up with you again?

　　Sometimes he often feels unbelievable, thinking that happiness comes too suddenly, and foolishly asks the girl: Do I really deserve such happiness? She called him a fool with a smile, and then stood on tiptoe to give him a fragrant kiss and a big hug. The girl's family is good, and her eyes are not bad. She taught him how to match, how to care for skin, and how to tease himself. They also went to the movies together, went to Disney and traveled to Tibet together, and he gradually became cheerful and handsome.

　　That year, his father was seriously ill and needed a large sum of money. The girl gave all her private money without saying anything, and the amount was 20,000 to 30,000. He waved his hand and said that he could always find a way. The girl simply put the money in his hand and said: Uncle's health is important. It's good to pay me back when you have money in the future.

　　At this moment, he silently vowed in his heart that he must love her well in this life. Time passed quickly, and the day of graduation soon arrived. His parents found them and forced their daughter to separate from him, otherwise they would sever the relationship between father and daughter. She cried her heart out and asked her parents why they were so heartless. He asked them with red eyes: Why must we be separated? Her parents are aggressive: ask yourself, why are you with my daughter? Can love be a meal?

　　Yes, he has no money and no power. He is a poor boy. Why should he have love? His world collapsed, so hot and strong love, so inexplicably disappeared, he could not change his birth, and he could not change his poverty. A few years have passed, and now he is dressed in a suit and tie and looks like a successful person. No one can see that he has such a past.

　　He said to me with a wry smile: Later, he married the son of a developer, and it seemed that he had a good life, which was also good, hahaha. I can see that his eyes are full of loneliness, and I understand his feelings. She is a good girl, but she can't fight the ruthless reality after all. Love without parents' blessing can't be happy after all. Later, he met her in a shop. The little boy beside him seemed to be seven or eight years old. His love in his heart remained undiminished, but he just stared at her silently, without disturbing her. After all, he missed it.

　　He told me that he was not short of women, but he only had her in his heart. He missed the girl who liked her without hesitation when he was poor. Although there was no result, he just couldn't forget her.

　　I finally understand that love is never a matter for two people, and love is never simple. If a man has no material foundation, good background and superior conditions, his choices are almost minimal. Modern society is too harsh on men, and the times have brought too much pressure to men. In fact, both my cousin's girlfriend and my uncle's girl are very good girls. But why do many boys stop pursuing girls? Because they really can't catch up.