＂Son, your sister's bride price is 200,000 yuan, all of which are for you.＂ How bad am I in your eyes？

　　Affection, linked by blood relationship, is the most difficult emotion for people to give up. Unless our relatives go too far, unless we are really cold, it is difficult for us to really keep a distance from our family of origin.

　　Tolstoy wrote in anna karenine:

　　"All happy families are similar, and each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."

　　Family of origin may bring misfortune to his children, such as children's childhood shadow caused by parents' unhappy marriage, children's worries about survival from childhood caused by too poor family, and children's lack of proper care caused by parents' partiality.

　　Russell said:

　　"For children, the value of parents' charity is that it is more reliable and trustworthy than any other emotion."

　　For many girls, the damage caused by parents' preference for sons is hard to cure for life.

　　Parents prefer boys to girls, and only daughters are hurt? In fact, parents' uneven bowl of water hurts not only their prejudiced daughter, but also their sons and themselves.

　　"Many people think that parents prefer boys to girls, and the daughter is the pit and the son is the profit. However, I feel that parents prefer boys to girls, which is not good for me at all."

　　As a "profiter" of patriarchal thinking, Li Feng does not recognize her mother's practice at all.

　　01. I can feel and understand my sister's hostility to me; ?

　　Li Feng has a sister, two years older than him. Although she has always taken him with her, he can feel her hostility towards him.

　　"My elder sister doesn't like me, as for the reason, I can understand. In her eyes, I am not a younger brother, but a person who has taken away all the care of my parents, and a person who has taken away her resources. "

　　Li Feng fell and hurt herself, so her mother beat her sister up. Afterwards, Li Feng went to see her sister, who hid in the quilt and cried. After seeing her younger brother coming, her eyes made Li Feng feel extremely scared. In front of his parents, my sister was very kind to Li Feng and protected him everywhere. When his parents left, my sister left Li Feng to do her own thing and ignored him.

　　"Looking at the interaction between people's siblings, I am envious, but I can't get it. I know very well that my sister doesn't like me. "

　　02. I didn't become a person like my cousin, thanks to my dad; ?

　　Although she was spoiled by her mother, Li Feng was not abandoned.

　　"I have a cousin who grew up in a patriarchal environment and is a bully at home. My uncle and aunt deprived my cousin of the opportunity to attend high school and spent all their money on my cousin. However, they were reluctant to fight and scold, and they were reluctant to control their son's expenses. In the end, my cousin failed to go to college and made a living at home by gnawing at the old, which became the biggest heart disease for my uncle and aunt. "

　　Li Feng didn't become a cousin, thanks to his father. Since childhood, my father has been strict with his son and urged him to study. When Li Feng's mother took care of the calf, my father refused to give in at all: "Can you take care of him all his life?" What will he do if he doesn't study hard and can't find a good job? "

　　Li Feng was admitted to the university. After graduation, Li Feng joined a well-paid company and had a good prospect. During this period, Li Feng tried to mend the relationship with her sister, such as actively preventing her mother from asking her sister for money to supplement him, and caring for her in time when her sister was in trouble, which eased the relationship between their brothers and sisters.

　　03. My sister is getting married, and my mother wants to detain her 200,000 bride price; ?

　　My sister brought her boyfriend home and wanted to get married. Li Feng's parents quarreled again when discussing the bride price.

　　"My mother wants a bride price of 200,000 yuan, and not a penny less. My father thinks it is too much. I am afraid that my sister's husband's family will be unhappy and my sister will not get married. I think 100,000 yuan will be fine."

　　In the end, they reached an agreement with the man, asking him to pay a bride price of 200,000 yuan, and then marrying his sister for 100,000 yuan.

　　Before the bride price money was received, Li Feng's mother made wishful thinking and said to Li Feng, "Son, your sister's bride price is 200,000 yuan, all of which are left for you."

　　It turned out that the so-called dowry of 100,000 yuan was just a casual remark by Li Feng's mother to fool the man. After she intends to get the bride price money, she will deduct all the money and prepare some quilts and furniture for her daughter as a dowry.

　　"My mother said, with the elder sister this 200000 bride price, they gather together a little, you can buy me a house in the city, so I don't have to worry about not getting a wife. However, she has never considered whether her sister's marriage can still be achieved. "

　　04. How bad I am in my mother's eyes to marry my wife by my sister; ?

　　After listening to her mother's elaborate plan for herself, Li Feng was not touched at all, and directly retorted: "Sister doesn't owe me. Marrying a wife by my sister, mom, how bad am I in your eyes that I can't even solve the problem of marrying a wife? "

　　The son's words stopped Li Feng's mother. After that, Li Feng had a good heart talk with his mother.

　　"Mom, she is my elder sister, my brothers, not my cash cow. If you do this to her, will we still have brothers and sisters to do it in the future? "

　　"What's more frightening is that if a girl knows that my parents prefer boys to girls, will she still be willing to marry me? Will she worry about the treatment after giving birth to her daughter? "

　　"Men need to chew elder sister to marry a wife, is not equal to directly tell the woman, this man will not be able to, can't make money? Which girl wants to marry a man who has accomplished nothing? "

　　Li Feng's mother was speechless by her son. In the end, she chose to back down, fulfilled her promise to the man, and let her daughter bring 100,000 yuan as his dowry.

　　"I only hope that my mother can reflect, that my sister will be happy, and that she will always remember me as a relative. As for marrying a wife, that's my business. I will marry my wife on my own. "

　　05. Parents need to understand that excellent girls are disdainful of boys who gnaw at old people and sisters. ?

　　Why is there no winner in a family where parents prefer sons to daughters? There is a simple reason.

　　First of all, for daughters, the shadow of childhood brought by parents' preference for sons needs to be cured for a lifetime, and it is difficult for them to get rid of family of origin's troubles all their lives. If they are conscious and dare to say no to family of origin, they will offend their parents and fall out with their relatives, which is not good for people. If they are resigned and become family of origin's cash cow, they will not only get a lot of money, but also find it difficult to get a foothold in her husband's family and get a happy marriage. In a patriarchal family, the daughter is definitely the loser.

　　Secondly, for sons, parents prefer boys to girls, which affects their growth and marriage. In a patriarchal family, a son is a treasure, and when he is pampered and brought up, it is easy to be abandoned and become a neet. If a man has no ambition, it is difficult to make great achievements in his life.

　　Parents prefer boys to girls, and many girls will flinch when they meet such a family. Once they give birth to a girl, their marriage will be affected and become unstable. Excellent girls are disdainful of boys who are gnawing at their sisters.

　　Finally, I can imagine what my parents' old age will be like if they spoil their sons and offend their daughters.

　　As parents, please be kind to your children. Please make a bowl of water even. Only when parents are fair enough to treat their children equally can they truly make their children benefit from Together Brothers.

　　Today's topic: Do you think that parents prefer sons to daughters, which is harmful to their sons? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.