Busy all morning preparing a birthday party for 12 people in her husband's family, in exchange for a loss of money, the woman lifted the table.

　　What do you think of women falling out with their parents for men?

　　When I mentioned this question, I couldn't help thinking of a drama review I just wrote, that is, the story of Xue Pinggui and Wang Baochuan.

　　Wang Baochuan loves Xue Pinggui, and in his bones, in order to marry him who was still a beggar at that time, he gave his father three high-fives, gave up his status as the third daughter of Xiang Fu, and wanted to marry Xue Pinggui.

　　In fact, can this blame Wang Yun for being too poor and loving the rich and beating Yuanyang? Which parent is willing to betroth his daughter to a beggar? Is his daughter unwanted?

　　Wang Baochuan was willful, and the result was that she stayed in the cold kiln for 18 years, but her husband Xue Pinggui married someone else in Xiliang, enjoying the splendor. Although she became a queen, what about her lost youth?

　　Plato said: "The most regrettable thing in life is to easily give up what should not be given up and stubbornly adhere to what should not be adhered to."

　　Giving up your parents who love you deeply for a risky relationship is not only unfilial, but also cheating yourself.

　　"I was busy preparing a birthday party for 12 people in my husband's family all morning, and in exchange for a loss of money, I lifted the table. I put up with humiliation for my daughter. As a result, they didn't want to see me, and they humiliated my daughter. What good is it for my daughter if I put up with it? " He Wei told me something that happened not long ago, while thinking about her future.

　　01. My parents opposed my marriage, and my mind went into the water, insisting on marrying far away;

　　Five years ago, 24-year-old He Wei met her husband, Mr. Wu, seed of love, fell in love and was bent on marrying Mr. Wu.

　　"I am an only child, and I am very loved by my parents. My parents don't like my husband. They don't like my husband's poverty, poor family background, low income, and even no independent house. They also dislike his family's distance, inconvenient communication and unwillingness to let me marry."

　　In addition, He Wei's parents also believe that He Wei's boyfriend's parents have a serious preference for boys and are not kind in-laws, just because they asked for a bride price of 200,000 yuan when they married Mr. Wu's elder sister, and did not give him a penny.

　　"I don't know what I was thinking at that time. I quarreled with my parents and went on a hunger strike for such a beautiful man who actually had a little skill, forcing my parents to agree to marriage."

　　When He Wei got married, her parents' faces didn't look happy, and her mother's words became a prophecy: "If you don't listen to your parents, you will regret it. I hope you won't cry and come to us then."

　　He Wei believed Mr. Wu's promise of "I will love you all my life", married Mr. Wu with the disappointed eyes of her parents and came to a foreign land. She not only has to adapt to the dialect and living habits here, but also has not been able to find a satisfactory job.

　　02. After giving birth to my daughter, my position in my husband's family plummeted, and not only my in-laws but also men disliked it;

　　Because Mr. Wu's family is average, and he Wei was successfully carried away by love, he not only gave He Wei a bride price of 30 thousand, but also failed to provide a wedding room. After he Wei got married, she had to live under the same roof with her in-laws.

　　"In the beginning, I found a job with a monthly salary of 3,000, and I planned to do it first. Before long, I was pregnant. Because of the strong pregnancy reaction and his persuasion, I gave up my job and raised my baby at home. During my pregnancy, my in-laws treated me well and took care of me, but after I gave birth to my daughter, my position in my in-laws family plummeted. Later, I learned that my in-laws thought that my belly was a baby boy. "

　　He Wei gave birth to a daughter, which greatly disappointed her in-laws. As for her husband, Mr. Wu, at first, his attitude was good, comforting his parents and saying that they could have a second child.

　　He Wei also agreed to have a second child, gave up the plan to go out and find a job, and has been preparing for pregnancy. However, it may be because the pressure exerted by her in-laws is too great, and her relationship with her husband has also had problems, which has led to He Wei's delay in getting pregnant with a second child.

　　"As I didn't get pregnant, his attitude towards me was not good. He always complained that I didn't live up to expectations, so that his parents didn't have grandchildren and lost face, which caused him to be scolded. I'm wronged, too. Can you blame me? Besides, what's wrong with a daughter? My daughter is clever and sensible, caring and smart. They can't see it. They just stare at my stomach and urge me to have a second child. Usually, I have to take care of the baby and do housework, and I am so tired that my back hurts, but they don't take it seriously. "

　　03. The big losers gave birth to small losers, and I really can't stand the humiliation.

　　The pressure of in-laws and her husband's incomprehension made He Wei's mental state worse, but she dared not complain to her parents. With the increasing number of quarrels with her husband, her husband became more and more homeless, and He Wei also moved the idea of divorce. However, she has neither income nor external support, and she has no courage to file for divorce.

　　Last week, He Wei's mother-in-law celebrated her 55th birthday, held a birthday party and invited some people to celebrate her birthday.

　　"My in-laws were entertaining guests in front, and my husband went out to buy things. I was busy preparing a birthday party in the kitchen all morning. During this time, my mother-in-law also called me out to work from time to time and asked me to run errands. I was so tired that I could hardly bend down."

　　When He Wei was serving, she heard a conversation between her mother-in-law and a relative. The relative praised her mother-in-law for her good fortune and found a virtuous daughter-in-law, complaining that her daughter-in-law wouldn't let her live in her son's house.

　　The mother-in-law said something that completely angered He Wei, who had already accumulated a lot of dissatisfaction in her heart: "What are the blessings? I see, you are luckier than me, at least you have grandchildren. My son married a loser, and the big loser gave birth to a small loser, which was a net bad luck. "

　　The big loss-making goods gave birth to small loss-making goods. The mother-in-law not only humiliated He Wei, but also humiliated her granddaughter, which made He Wei unbearable. He Wei asked her what she meant, and her mother-in-law was not to be outdone. They quarreled.

　　"How do you talk to my mother? Have you been educated? Today is my mother's birthday. Who told you to make my mother angry? Apologize quickly and cook. "

　　Mr. Wu's words undoubtedly added fuel to the fire. He Wei was so angry that he wanted to run away from home, but when he saw a table of his own cooking, he felt that it was too cheap for them. In a rage, he lifted the table and made the living room a mess before leaving home with his daughter in his arms.

　　"I am unaccompanied here, so I have to take a bus, go to the provincial capital, and go to my best friend. Persuaded by my best friend, I plan to go back to my parents' home to apologize and win their understanding and support. I want to divorce him and get custody of my daughter. I've been gone for so long, and he doesn't send a message or call, and he doesn't care about my life and death with my daughter at all. Such a man really can't be wanted. "

　　04. It is normal that a woman who is rushing to marry in the world is not cherished.

　　Zhu Deyong once said: "Love shows the best side, and marriage shows the worst side."

　　When you are in love, you don't need to think too much, you don't need to break your heart for the trivial things of daily life, and you don't need to deal with the relationship with the other party's family of origin. You just need to consider how to seize each other's heart and strive for the early flowering and fruition of your feelings.

　　At this time, because the other party didn't get you, everything is certain, and they may choose to hide their bad side and show only your favorite side so as not to lose you. If you are carried away by love, you may not see his true face clearly.

　　Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. When love is strong, you can't see each other's true colors clearly. At this time, you should listen to the opinions of people around you, especially your parents. Especially for girls who are deeply loved by their parents, will your parents harm you? If the other person is really suitable for you, will your parents stop you from getting happiness?

　　At the end, the uncle said, "Some mothers must accept the bride price money before they get married. Not because of greed and stubbornness, but because she wants her husband's family to cherish your arrival. Most people cherish what they have dealt with and squander what they have got empty-handed. This is not a routine, this is human nature. "

　　It is normal that a woman who is rushing to marry in the world is not cherished. If you have such an attitude that you can't live without him, he will feel that no matter what he does, he won't lose you, and how can he cherish you?

　　Being carried away by love and willful, you shed tears in your marriage, and no one can save you no matter how hard you get hurt. You need to swallow the bitter fruit you brewed yourself.

　　Today's topic: What would you do if your parents objected to your marriage? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.