Cooking for 15 people for five days in a row, my mother-in-law made me understand that I had done three things wrong.

　　People are iron rice and steel, and they are hungry if they don't eat a meal. This sentence must be familiar to everyone.

　　For people, diet is the basic requirement for survival. No matter how busy you are and how difficult the economy is, three meals a day is still essential.

　　Influenced by the fast-paced life now, people have various ways to solve three meals. Some people make a living by ordering takeout, some people eat fast food directly, some people eat out, and some people prepare their own meals.

　　Cooking is something that will make people feel happy and tired. When you see your finished products on the table, taste the delicious food cooked by yourself, and hear others praise you, you will feel quite fulfilled. However, after finishing a meal, people often feel very hard, especially cooking for a large family.

　　For many women, one of the main reasons why they don't want to go back to their in-laws for the Spring Festival is that they don't want to cook for a large family. In the eyes of some men and in-laws, their married daughter-in-law is not a family member, but a nanny who serves their whole family for free.

　　On the third day of the New Year's Eve, He Jing sent a circle of friends and summed up his New Year's experience: "Cooking for 15 people for 5 consecutive days, my daughter said a word, let me understand that I have done three things wrong."

　　01. Don't listen to the old man, suffering is in sight;

　　Seven years ago, He Jing took out the household registration book behind his parents' backs, and privately got a certificate with a man who had been in love for three years. When parents knew it was too late, He Jing's parents had no choice but to get angry and scold their daughter.

　　He Jing's parents are opposed to their daughter's marriage, mainly because of two points. First, after meeting He Jing's lover, their client inquired about his family's affairs and got a message that He Jing's mother-in-law had a bad personality, was provocative and stingy, and was best at quarreling with others for trivial matters, with a poor reputation. The second point is that they think that He Jing's husband has the property of a mambo.

　　"To eighty thousand bride price, he said I have to ask my mother; Don't live with your parents after marriage. He said that you should get his mother's consent. The wedding is grand. He said that my salary card is in charge of my mother. Such a man can't marry. "

　　A difficult mother-in-law and a mother-in-law husband make such a family look like a fire pit. Therefore, He Jing's parents strongly oppose this marriage. However, He Jing was carried away by love and made a private license.

　　02. Take a step back to broaden the horizon, but if you take too much back, you will only be bullied;

　　"I thought that taking a step back and not caring too much, others will become reasonable because of your generosity."

　　After getting married, He Jing didn't know how many steps back.

　　First of all, at the bride price ceremony, He Jing's in-laws immediately got tough and didn't want to give a penny. He Jing's mother was very angry, saying that "marriage certificate can be changed into divorce certificate" forced her mother-in-law to compromise and gave her a bride price of 66,000 yuan.

　　Secondly, before marriage, the husband promised to get the salary card back. However, the mother-in-law cried a lot, and the matter ended in vain. Mother-in-law keeps her husband's salary card very tight, and most of the daily expenses at home come from He Jing.

　　Furthermore, when He Jing had a conflict with her mother-in-law, regardless of whether He Jing was reasonable or not, her husband would come to say, "It's not easy for my mother to raise me, so you let her," and He Jing had to submit to humiliation.

　　Finally, the mother-in-law prefers boys to girls and doesn't like granddaughters. Under the joint pressure of her mother-in-law and her husband, He Jing, who was fed up with pregnancy and childbirth and didn't want to have a second child, let go.

　　Take a step back and broaden the horizon, but if you take too much back, you will only be bullied. He Jing gave in again and again, but her husband's family ignored and bullied her.

　　03. I feel exhausted after cooking for 15 people for five days in a row;

　　On the 27th of the twelfth lunar month, He Jing returned to her husband's family for the New Year. Less than six o'clock the next morning, He Jing was called up by her mother-in-law and began a busy life.

　　After cleaning, shopping for new year's goods and cooking, He Jing was so busy that the remaining 14 people in her husband's family played games, ate melon seeds and slept.

　　From the 28th day of the twelfth lunar month to the third day of the New Year's Day, He Jing was responsible for cooking for 15 people, let alone cooking in the kitchen, and no one set plates and chairs.

　　"I cooked the rice, cooked the food, washed the bowl and wiped the table."

　　As for He Jing's husband, he has long been addicted to games and turned a blind eye to his wife's busyness and grievances.

　　04. In this marriage, I made three mistakes and ruined myself;

　　On the third night of New Year's Eve, He Jing went downstairs to pour water and heard the voice of chatting in the living room.

　　When Aunt Zhou next door envied He Jing's mother-in-law for having a good daughter-in-law, He Jing's mother-in-law said something like this: "That's because my son has the ability to make her happy to post. To be honest, neither my son nor I have a crush on her. She is not good-looking, not strong in earning money, and not high in education. What is worthy of my son? I wouldn't let her in if it weren't for her willingness to sell it backwards and cheaper. I'm telling you, losing money is losing money. It's useless at home and in the husband's family. Even a son can't be born. "

　　Then, her mother-in-law once again mentioned the matter of having a second child with He Jing's husband, and said, "I tell you, if your wife has another daughter, you will divorce her, and our family will not keep the goods at a loss."

　　Hearing her husband's natural reply of "good", He Jing felt like dying embers.

　　"I have done so many housework at home, and I have done my best for this family. I am patient everywhere. In the end, I am a fertility machine and a money-losing product that can be discarded at will. What do I want? "

　　He Jing called her mother to cry, and when she finished crying, her mother told her that her parents would absolutely support her whether she stayed or left, and with the advice of her sister-in-law, He Jing made up her mind to divorce.

　　"Cooking for 15 people for five consecutive days, my mother-in-law said something, which made me understand that I had done three things wrong. One mistake is not listening to parents' advice, knowing that her mother-in-law is not easy to get along with, and she has to marry in the past; The second mistake is that he has a good temper and only knows how to swallow tears when he is wronged; The third mistake is that I didn't realize that men are unreliable and failed to stop losses in time. Now I want to say goodbye, love rat. "

　　Seeing the husband in the circle of friends questioning He Jing, He Jing only said one sentence: "My parents are on their way to pick me up now, and our marriage has come to an end, so let's get together and part!"

　　Now, He Jing has returned to her parents' home, and is stuck in a divorce deadlock. However, she has strengthened her faith and is unwilling to go back to the fire pit.

　　05. Keeping a marriage that makes you uncomfortable will only harm yourself.

　　Teacher Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once described marriage like this:

　　"What brings a woman hope is not love, but a man's responsibility; It is not love that brings a man a sense of security, but a woman's contribution to the family. "

　　Whether it is a man or a woman, if the other person can't bring you happiness, it can only make you feel pain, which only shows that he is not suitable for you and is not your ideal partner. It is better to let go in time and find your own happiness again than to continue to endure and grind all your life.

　　Zhang Xiaoxian once said:

　　"Two people are together to be happy, and breaking up is to alleviate the pain. You can't make me happy anymore, and I have to leave. When I leave, it is also very painful. However, you are definitely more painful than me, because I say goodbye first, and I am the first to pursue happiness."

　　Feelings are your own business, whether to continue to develop or end it in time, only you can decide, others can't help you.

　　Today's topic: What advice do you have for He Jing? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.