Being proposed by three old people, the 50-year-old aunt was unwavering： I have had enough of serving a few people.

　　Early in the morning, the neighbor couple quarreled again. Although they have been married for nearly 30 years and their son has got married, the relationship is still not good, and quarreling has long been the norm.

　　Aunt Geng, the hostess, had a loud voice: "After retirement, you didn't do housework, your own mother didn't wait on you, and you drank outside all day, and you were so drunk that you asked me to drive to pick you up at eleven o'clock in the middle of the night. When I got home, I washed and mopped the floor, and I didn't sleep all night. How dare you lose my temper at me."

　　There is also the voice of the male host who is unwilling to lag behind: "Doing housework and serving the husband and the elderly is your business. What are you complaining about?" You didn't make breakfast, which made my mother hungry. Let me tell you something. What's the matter? "

　　Then there was a crash, and I don't know who broke something.

　　Obviously, in the eyes of the male host, Aunt Geng is the old maid at home, and she has to serve him and his family.

　　Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once said: "In marriage, the most feared thing is that her husband has divided his life after marriage from the bottom of his heart, and he thinks in his bones that men are only responsible for making money, and women should do housework for granted, and take care of their children day and night."

　　However, there are not a few men who hold this idea. What's more, after losing their spouses, they want to remarry because they lack a nanny wife who can make them enjoy happiness.

　　"Are they looking for a wife or a free nanny?" For those who stand and talk like a duck's back and keep persuading themselves to find another wife, Aunt Qin, 50, is unwavering and points out the problem to the point.

　　01. I can guess what the purpose of being proposed by three peers is;

　　In fact, Aunt Qin has been proposed by three old people. After learning their intention to be with herself, Aunt Qin learned something about the situation of these three old people: "No matter whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage, you can't stay with others without knowing anything! The tears that flow after marriage are all the water that entered the brain before marriage. This sentence is not wrong at all. "

　　The first old man surnamed Wang, after learning the reason why Uncle Wang divorced his ex-wife, Aunt Qin rudely rejected him. It turns out that uncle Wang's style at home is the same as that of his neighbor's male host. Every day, except for work, he drinks and plays cards, and all the housework and 80-year-old mother are thrown to his wife to serve. Uncle Wang's son can't tolerate his father's bullying of his mother and fully supports his mother's divorce.

　　"A man can make his son support his mother to leave him. Which woman dares to marry him?"

　　The second old man, surnamed Li, has two sons. The eldest son's daughter-in-law is pregnant and the younger son has not yet married. After understanding this situation, Aunt Qin also vetoed: "After he has a grandson, will he want me to take care of the baby?" No, I don't want to take the risk. "

　　As for the third old man, he has a bad relationship with his children and lives alone in this community. After Aunt Qin went to the door once, she also rejected it: "It's too dirty. The table is covered with take-away boxes, and the stove is covered with dust. How long has the trash can not been emptied?" The clothes were stuffed into a washing machine. Obviously, this person can't take care of himself. What he lacks is not his wife, but a free nanny. "

　　Being proposed by three peers, what is their purpose? Aunt Qin can guess, and she doesn't want to jump into the fire pit: "I've had enough of serving a few people."

　　02. I've had enough of serving a few people;

　　Aunt Qin became single, not because of her widowhood, but because of her divorce. To be precise, she was forced away by her ex-husband's family.

　　"I have been divorced for 12 years. At that time, my daughter was only thirteen years old, and I married my ex-husband for fifteen years. During those fifteen years of marriage, I was a free nanny for their family of seven. Which family of seven? My ex-husband, in-laws, ex-husband's grandmother and his brother's family are three. Because of me, I gave birth to a daughter. I am sorry for their ancestors. "

　　My ex-husband and grandmother were ill, and the person who served at the bedside was not her son and daughter-in-law, but the granddaughter of Aunt Qin.

　　My ex-husband's little nephew came home from school, and the people who cooked for him, watched him do his homework and didn't let him run around were not his parents, but Aunt Qin. Little nephew can't find anyone to go out to play, and it is Aunt Qin who is scolded.

　　During the Chinese New Year, no matter how many people there are in the family, it is Aunt Qin's job to make New Year's Eve dinner and clean up.

　　At first, for the sake of her young daughter, Aunt Qin chose to endure, while doing housework day and night, she had to endure the scolding of her in-laws. However, Aunt Qin's ex-husband betrayed her marriage and opposed her daughter's further study. For her daughter's sake, Aunt Qin had to divorce.

　　"I've had enough of serving a few people. Although after my divorce, I went to the city to be a nanny in order to make a living, and I still need to serve people, but that feeling is different. "

　　03. I have money, and my daughter is filial to me. Can't I live alone?

　　After Aunt Qin divorced, in order to support herself and her daughter, she first went to town to find a job in a restaurant. After several years of work, Aunt Qin accepted the advice of others and became a nanny. Until now, Aunt Qin is still a nanny, but her salary has not improved by a star and a half.

　　"Being a nanny for others and being a nanny for men and in-laws are not a concept at all!"

　　Being a nanny wife, housework can never be done. Being a nanny is a fixed job. If the other party wants you to pay more, you have to pay more, instead of asking for it with confidence.

　　As a nanny wife, Aunt Qin didn't get a penny. Once she wanted to buy a dress for her mother and asked a man for money. Not only did she not get it, but she was scolded by her husband and mother-in-law for a week.

　　Being a nanny wife, well done, men and in-laws will also find fault with their eggs, but not well done, and it is normal to be scolded. However, after the nanny becomes a job, if the employer is rude, Aunt Qin can resign. In fact, Aunt Qin's employers are very polite and respect her.

　　Besides, Aunt Qin's daughter, with the full support of her mother, finished her studies and finished college. Now, her 25-year-old daughter is married, and her husband's family is not far from where Aunt Qin lives. On weekends and holidays, the son-in-law often calls Aunt Qin and asks her to come to dinner. Her in-laws are also polite to Aunt Qin and get along very well.

　　"I have worked for so many years. Apart from the money spent on my daughter, I have also saved a sum of money. My daughter and son-in-law are also filial. My old age will not be worse. I have nothing to do, and then I'll be a big momma to suffer indignities? I'm not that stupid. "

　　04. One of the stupidest behaviors is to jump into the same fire pit again.

　　Milan Kundera said: "People can never know what they want, because people can only live once, and they can neither compare it with the past life nor correct it in the next life. There is no way to test which choice is good. "

　　Before making a choice, you must be cautious and don't blindly step into marriage. When you find that you have made a wrong choice and your marriage is hopeless, you should break it off and get rid of it in time, instead of wasting your good time with a muddle-along attitude.

　　One of the stupidest behaviors is to jump into the same fire pit again. As the saying goes, after learning from a pit, you can say that you didn't see through each other for the first time. If you jump again, it's your own problem. No one can help you if you know your mistakes and don't change them.

　　Remember teacher Miyazaki Hayao's words: "Don't rely on someone easily, it will become your habit. When parting comes, you will lose not someone, but the pillar of your spirit. Whenever and wherever, you should learn to walk independently, which will make you walk more calmly."

　　Instead of relying on others and handing over your future and choice to others, it is better to be strong, rely on yourself and try to live. As long as you work hard, you will be worthy of this life.

　　Today's topic: Do you suggest Aunt Qin remarry? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.