＂Your daughter-in-law has been married for 3 years and has not given birth to a baby. Is there a physical problem？＂ What do you care？

　　As soon as Laba arrives, the New Year will come. After Laba, the footsteps of the New Year are getting closer and closer to us. It is the wish of most people who work outside the home to prepare for the New Year and have a family reunion. Having money and no money, going home for the New Year has long been a slogan.

　　It is our expectation for the New Year to be reunited with our relatives, have a nice dinner and watch the Spring Festival Gala together. The New Year brings us both joy and sorrow.

　　If you can't make money, people feel ashamed to go home and can't explain to their loved ones; Still single, people feel that they can't go home, fearing that they can't cope with relatives' various ways of urging marriage and blind date arrangements.

　　In fact, even if you have already taken off the bill, those nosy relatives will not let you go easily. Those who are not married are urged to marry, those who have not had a baby are urged to have a second child.

　　Although most people feel unhappy when they meet this kind of person who likes to promote marriage, they will hide their unhappiness in their hearts for the sake of face and the relationship between them, and make a few polite remarks. Few people will directly forget it.

　　Facing the relatives who gave birth, Wang Jie's mother-in-law replied domineering, which made her daughter-in-law grateful and decided to treat her as her own mother.

　　01.

　　Before getting married, Wang Jie and her parents were most worried that Wang Jie would encounter a sharp contradiction between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law after marriage, because she had a strong mother-in-law.

　　"The money earned by my father-in-law and my husband has always been managed by my mother-in-law; What happens at home, such as human relations, buying furniture, borrowing money or not, is all decided by my mother-in-law; My mother-in-law gave advice on what major my husband chose in college, but my husband didn't like it and didn't agree. He told me that this was the first time he had disobeyed his mother. "

　　Aunt Yao, Wang Jie's mother-in-law, was uncompromising at home and did things in an orderly way. When Wang Jie came to the door, she saw that the house was clean, everything was in a fixed position, there was a label under it, and the trash cans were covered with plastic bags.

　　When Wang Jie's mother-in-law made a request, neither her husband nor her son would refute it, which made Wang Jie more and more worried.

　　"What if my mother-in-law is still so strong and takes care of everything after we get married, and my life will not pass?"

　　02.

　　Fortunately, Aunt Yao is not an unreasonable mother-in-law.

　　Before getting married, Aunt Yao took out a sum of money and bought a house for the young couple with a down payment, so that they could live separately. On the second day of marriage, Aunt Yao took out her son's salary card and gave it to her daughter-in-law, who was in charge of management. Wang Jie, when they met something, they went to consult Aunt Yao. Aunt Yao would say to her son, "You are both married. You have to make up your own mind about your own affairs, and the couple will discuss it themselves."

　　Don't live together, have a sense of distance, Wang Jie and aunt Yao's mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have no big contradiction, but little friction.

　　"She comes to see us, and when we sleep late, she will say a few words; Seeing that the house is a little messy, I will pick up and nag; When you see me throwing things casually, you will also nag. If she just said a few words, I would listen honestly; If she nags a lot, my husband will help me out. "

　　03.

　　Wang Jie married at the age of 23, and got married not long after graduation.

　　Considering their young age and the pressure of mortgage, Wang Jie made an agreement with her husband, and decided not to have children for a while, so as to concentrate on her career first.

　　In the three years after their marriage, the couple met a rare opportunity for promotion. In order to work, they never planned to have children. In this regard, Aunt Yao also agrees: "Don't worry, just pay attention to the time. It is also good for children to make money before raising children. "

　　Wang Jie resentfully complained to me: "You said, my mother-in-law is not in a hurry. Why are those relatives in a hurry?" I'm really full. "

　　A week ago, a cousin of Wang Jie's husband died unexpectedly, and Wang Jie followed her husband and mother-in-law back to her hometown to attend the funeral.

　　When relatives get together, they will naturally chat together. Asking about the younger generation is also the favorite thing for parents to do.

　　Knowing that Wang Jie had been married for three years without children, other relatives talked about it, and some even joked with Aunt Yao directly: "I'm not saying, Sister Yao, is there something wrong with your daughter-in-law after three years of marriage without a baby? You also have more snacks, let the couple check it out, and don't delay the big things. "

　　How can Wang Jie bear to hear others insult himself so much? However, as a junior, it seems impolite to go back directly. Just when Wang Jie was angry, Aunt Yao made Wang Jie treat her as her own mother: "It's none of your business?"

　　Wang Jie described the atmosphere to me like this: "My mother-in-law's voice was so loud that everyone around her could hear it clearly, and it was quiet in an instant, and everyone else kept silent. The atmosphere was too depressing."

　　Aunt Yao also said something else: "Whether my daughter-in-law can give birth or not, and whether I can have grandchildren, is a matter for my family, and it is not for outsiders to tell me what to do. Making fun of my daughter-in-law means not respecting me. "

　　People around quickly put in a good word to calm Aunt Yao's mood, and this matter slowly subsided. After that, other relatives stopped asking questions around Wang Jie.

　　"It is my blessing to meet such a mother-in-law who will protect her daughter-in-law in front of outsiders."

　　04.

　　It is a common fault of many people to like to make jokes about other people's private affairs and care about others under the banner, in fact, just to satisfy their own entertainment by watching other people's jokes.

　　When they are joking, they only want to see other people's jokes, without considering the embarrassment and shame of that person when they are joking, nor the situation they are in, nor the impact such jokes will have on others. Something really went wrong. At most, they just said, "I'm just kidding. Why are you so nervous and stingy?" They even thought it was your problem.

　　It is ok to joke, but you must be measured in joking, pay attention to the occasion, and don't poke others' scars.

　　If you meet someone who jokes openly but doesn't respect you at all, you should dare to go back. The more silent you are, the stronger their arrogance; The more annoying you are, the less they dare to ignore you.

　　Today's topic: What do you think of people who joke about other people's private affairs? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.