＂Let your wife take care of my children.＂ She can earn 3000 yuan by working. How much do you pay？

　　Children are an obstacle to the remarriage of the elderly.

　　Parents' opinions are particularly important when young people get married, and many marriages are destroyed by parents. If the elderly want to find another job, the situation will be reversed. They will have to care about their children's opinions, because both parents and children are the people we care most about in our life and the people we are the last to turn against.

　　Japanese writer Yoko Nakamura wrote in The Worth of the World: Even family members should distinguish each other and force others, and both themselves and each other are very painful.

　　Both young and old people have the freedom to choose marriage. Whether you are a parent or a child, you should not get too involved in the marriage life of your relatives and cause them trouble. Once you step in too much, you always give them trouble, and their spouses will be dissatisfied.

　　Many young people are used to asking their parents for help. Even if they are adults, they still want to get old, let their parents help them, and even have the idea of their parents remarrying their wives. When you meet such children, you must be principled if you want to keep your marriage in your later years.

　　Teacher Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once described marriage like this: it is not love that brings a woman hope, but the responsibility of a man; It is not love that brings a man a sense of security, but a woman's contribution to her family.

　　It is your duty to defend your spouse in front of your relatives.

　　At the beginning of last year, 58-year-old Uncle Zhu found a wife. Compared with those men who always ask his wife to compromise for their children, Uncle Zhu is a qualified partner.

　　01. The purpose of looking for my wife is really not to find a free nanny;

　　Before he met his wife, Aunt Qin, Uncle Zhu had hit a wall several times on the blind date.

　　"I like her and think she can. She despises me and thinks that a man my age is looking for a wife, the purpose is to find a free nanny to serve himself. There are also people who want to be with me and get along with me, but I can't accept the request. Her son doesn't have a wife, and his ability is average. He can't afford a wedding room and wants my help. I don't expect her son to support the elderly. Why should I help? "

　　Uncle Zhu is still at work. After retirement, he will have a pension and a three-bedroom house. He is in good health and has no bad hobbies. He has a good reputation among the surrounding people. Uncle Zhu was a qualified husband when his wife was alive. He did his duty to support his family and would do housework with his wife after work.

　　Finally, Uncle Zhu met Aunt Qin. Aunt Qin promised to be uncle Zhu's wife, but there were conditions.

　　"First, don't pull card, only live together, one thousand you are not satisfied with me or I am not satisfied, leave at any time, don't importune. Second, I don't have much pension, no savings, and I don't intend to eat and drink from you completely. I will continue to work and earn money to support myself. You can't object. Third, your children are not mine. I have no obligation to take care of their affairs. Of course, they don't need to take care of me. "

　　Uncle Zhu's purpose in finding a wife is very simple, that is, he feels that living alone is too lonely.

　　"Although my son lives in the same city, he doesn't come to see me at home very much, and his daughter-in-law comes less often. I also have self-knowledge, so I won't give them any trouble if they are busy. I have savings, a pension, and a house, so I want to find someone to accompany me, so as not to let me eat alone, sleep alone, and lie alone in the hospital when I am sick. I am not looking for a free babysitter, I am looking for someone to accompany me to my old age. "

　　Aunt Qin was worried that living alone was risky and lonely, so she considered taking care of her old age with Uncle Zhu. So, Uncle Zhu accepted Aunt Qin's terms and they got together.

　　02. It's really bad to raise a son who wants to trouble my wife and me when he meets something.

　　Aunt Qin works in a factory, working from 8: 00 to 6: 30, and taking an hour and a half off at noon. She can earn 3,000 yuan a month.

　　Usually, before Aunt Qin goes to work, she will prepare breakfast for Uncle Zhu, and Uncle Zhu will clean up, dry the clothes washed in the washing machine, and then wash the dishes. At noon, both of them will solve the food problem in the canteen.

　　After work, Aunt Qin will go to the vegetable market to buy food, Aunt Qin will be responsible for cooking dinner, and Uncle Zhu will wash rice and cook, wash dishes and do other housework. Aunt Qin has a holiday, and Uncle Zhu will go shopping with her and buy her something.

　　"Some time ago, I was ill. She asked for leave and stayed at the bedside to take care of me. We had a good life. That is, I have a son who wants to trouble my wife and me when he meets something. When I was single, the young couple rarely came to me. After my wife came, the young couple went to the door for meals on weekends, and stayed with me during the holidays, doing nothing about housework, waiting for the old couple to cook for them. "

　　03. That's my grandson, not her grandson. She has no obligation to help you with your children.

　　For Uncle Zhu's sake, Aunt Qin didn't abandon Uncle Zhu's son and daughter-in-law, and treated them with delicious food every time. However, Uncle Zhu's son and daughter-in-law didn't know how to be satisfied, so they started to think of Aunt Qin.

　　"This year, my daughter-in-law gave birth to a second child, a grandson. Before the daughter-in-law gave birth, she wanted my wife to wait on her and take care of her confinement. I didn't agree and gave her a sum of money to ask someone to take care of her or go to the moon center. "

　　"Dad, let your wife take care of the children for me. We have to go to work and have no time to take care of the children."

　　Uncle Zhu's daughter-in-law thinks that it is too expensive and uneconomical to hire a nanny. Moreover, Uncle Zhu has a wife, which is just used to take care of their children, so it doesn't cost money and is at ease.

　　After listening to the requirements of his son and daughter-in-law, Uncle Zhu asked: "She can earn 3000 yuan for her work. How much do you give?"

　　"She is your wife, my child is her grandson, and grandma takes her grandson. How can she need money?"

　　"That you will give her pension? Do you think she will believe it? "

　　"That's your wife, you go and tell her! Dad, I'm your own son. You can't turn your elbow out! "

　　Uncle Zhu was very angry, accusing his son and daughter-in-law of knowing how to gnaw at the old, refusing to talk about it, and not letting them talk to Aunt Qin about it: "Do you have to make her angry and let me become a person before giving up?" As a son, you usually don't give me alimony and don't come to see me. When you come, you are waiting for us to cook and wait on you. You also ask for this and that. Do you understand filial piety? "

　　Uncle Zhu kicked his son and daughter-in-law out of the house and let them solve their own problems: "To be honest, I think my son and daughter-in-law are unreliable and I can't count on them when I get old. Fortunately, I have money and a house, and I can rely on myself. I just want to keep my wife and keep people who are good to me. "

　　No matter when, don't harm your spouse's interests for your own sake.

　　Gorky once said: "Marriage is the combination of two people's spirits, and the purpose is to overcome all the difficulties and hardships in the world together."

　　Whether it is the marriage of young people or looking for a spouse after losing it in old age, we must adhere to one principle, that is, sharing weal and woe, helping each other and benefiting each other. Everyone is profit-seeking and realistic. No one is willing to be your stepping stone, and no one is willing to sacrifice himself to fulfill others.

　　Young people change from lovers to husband and wife, with love as the foundation. For the sake of I love you, many people can choose to be patient and give their spouses more opportunities. However, the old people often find their wives out of practical considerations, for the sake of their later life and on the basis of interests.

　　Since your relationship is based on interests, if you want to maintain your relationship, you must pay something to balance supply and demand.

　　Wu Zhihong, a psychologist, wrote in Love and Love in Chinese Style: All kinds of unlovable things in marriage come from "you give me" instead of "I love you"-not that there is something wrong with marriage, but that you want too much from it.

　　No matter when, don't harm your spouse's interests for your own sake, and don't shift your responsibilities to your spouse.

　　If you want to have a good old-age marriage, you must pay something, share housework and give your spouse a sense of security. If you just want to find a free nanny, don't blame the other person for turning against you. After all, she has no obligation to wait on you.

　　Today's topic: Do you think Uncle Zhu's son is asking too much? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.