＂Beat my wife's back before, and then call her mistress＂： Why do three good men cheat in marriage？

　　I believe that many sisters will also encounter such a situation, and at the same time they will wonder: A responsible man cares about his wife, takes care of his children, and is filial to his parents. Why does he cheat?

　　In fact, this kind of thing is not unusual for teachers. There are often two reasons behind the derailment of "good men".

　　The first reason is that men may not be good at expressing their emotions and needs, so they choose to cheat to release themselves.

　　In order to create a good man image in the eyes of the public, the price they pay in self-awareness is that I am not important. They are not good at expressing their needs, as if their hearts don't need to be seen.

　　When family members ask for their needs, they will try their best to meet them, but deep down, they are full of bitterness: "Why am I so tired, not taking care of my wife, worrying about my children, and no one else cares about me?"

　　As a result, they are reliable and attentive in the eyes of outsiders, but their hearts are full of unknown grievances.

　　These emotions will accumulate, and one day they will break out. They may find an emotional comfort for themselves by cheating and find a woman who can meet their own needs outside marriage.

　　But who is the problem? Is it fair for a man to choose silence but expect his wife to take the initiative to guess his heart's desire? Men refuse to say, how can wives meet their unexpressed needs?

　　Men hold back, stuffy, and then suddenly burst out, satisfying themselves with derailment, and the result will only be both losses. The crux of the problem is still the man himself.

　　Then let's look at the second reason. Such a man may belong to a flattering personality and it is difficult to resist the temptation of extramarital affairs.

　　We often praise good husbands who care about their wives, good fathers who accompany their children, and good sons who honor their parents. However, we ignore that such men often forget themselves.

　　Have we ever thought about how much pressure a man bears when he ignores himself and devotes himself to playing these roles? These men with a mountain of inner pressure will probably lose their way once they meet someone who can understand, agree with and support him.

　　In fact, the truth of the matter is actually very simple. A man tries his best to meet his wife's various needs, but he never expresses his true thoughts to his wife. Such kindness is actually more like a kind of ingratiation, which is also a manifestation of his ingratiating personality tendency: only when he meets the needs of others will he feel valuable.

　　Because of holding such values, men spend all their energy on playing the role of good husbands and fathers, but they habitually endure their own pressures and anxieties alone and never talk to others easily. These pressures and anxieties accumulate more and more, and one day they will break out.

　　At this time, if a person appears in front of him, he can understand his inner needs, give him care, and give him understanding, recognition and support when he needs it.

　　Do you think he can resist such temptation? It is really irresistible. However, this pleasure is doomed to be short-lived and even harmful.

　　After men experience a short period of happiness, they will be in a dilemma. They can neither go back to the past nor find a better future. Their hearts are like suffering in boiling water and they can't see their exits clearly.

　　Sisters, if there are such good men around us, we need snacks. We should help a man find a balance, adjust his own model, pay attention to himself and express his inner needs.