＂My son will empathize with others because you are useless＂： people who beat the rake can't stay.

　　"Married a red rose, over time, the red one changed into a mosquito blood on the wall, and the white one was still' so bright a gleam on the foot of my bed'; When you marry a white rose, the white one is a grain of rice stuck to your clothes, but the red one is a Zhu Shazhi on your heart. "

　　You must have heard of Zhang Ailing's description of red roses and white roses. It is a common problem for many men to eat what is in the bowl and look at what is in the pot.

　　When they already have a wife, that is, married a red rose, some men have a white rose hidden in their hearts, and they are obsessed with it, but they ignore their wife's dedication and affection; When they got their wish, divorced and married the white rose they were thinking about, they suddenly realized that the red rose was the most suitable person for them and felt regret.

　　Sister Hu's ex-husband is such a man. Sister Hu never dreamed that she would one day see her ex-husband come to find herself and beg for remarriage.

　　01. My husband goes out to work and I stay to look after the house. This is my marriage;

　　Fourteen years ago, when Sister Hu was working outside, she met her ex-husband, Mr. Tang. After getting along for a while, they felt good and decided to get married.

　　Sister Hu's parents are not satisfied with Mr. Tang's son-in-law on the grounds that Mr. Tang's family is too poor.

　　When it comes to her lifelong events, Sister Hu bravely fought. In the end, the parents left all the bride price, gave their daughter several quilts, drove her out of the house and let her marry Mr. Tang.

　　After marriage, Mr. Tang and Sister Hu also had a happy time alone until Sister Hu became pregnant.

　　In order to register her children and take care of her ailing mother-in-law, Sister Hu gave up her job and returned to her husband's family in the countryside alone, becoming a left-behind woman.

　　"Husband working outside, women stay to look after the house, and serve the elderly with children, which is the status quo of most women here. Although I miss him very much, although I also want to live as a husband and wife, there is nothing we can do. "

　　As migrant workers, it is difficult for their children to study in the city, and they can't afford it. Therefore, it is the best choice to work outside and look after the house alone.

　　02. The husband has a new home outside and doesn't want to divorce;

　　While enduring the torment of widowed marriage, Sister Hu dutifully took care of the children, waited on her mother-in-law and took care of all the housework, and became a full-time free nanny. According to my conscience, Sister Hu did not fail to fulfill her wife's responsibilities. However, Mr. Tang is not a good husband.

　　In the third year when Sister Hu returned to her hometown, Mr. Tang, who couldn't help being lonely, took the first step to ruin his marriage, that is, he had a new home outside, and he fell in love with another woman and lived together.

　　When Sister Hu learned about this incident, she felt desperate. She took the bus and took three trips to talk to her husband. Her husband's words made Sister Hu feel extremely collapsed: "Don't worry! I won't divorce you. I know you are very virtuous, and I can't do without you at home. If you leave, who will take care of my mother? As long as you take care of my mother at home and take good care of our children, you will always be my wife, and my money will always have a part of you. You don't have to worry about having no money to spend. As for my affairs outside, don't mind your own business. "

　　To sum up Mr. Tang's idea with a very common sentence, that is, "the colorful flags are fluttering outside, but the red flag at home does not fall." His idea is particularly beautiful. He has a good wife to help him wait on his mother and take care of his children, and a confidante who meets his physiological needs and enjoys the happiness of others.

　　03. My mother-in-law's words not only destroyed my marriage, but also forced me to strengthen myself;

　　Although Sister Hu has no income, it doesn't mean that she will be slaughtered. At first, she didn't want a divorce, but she couldn't tolerate her husband's treatment of herself. She went to her mother-in-law and cried, hoping that her mother-in-law would uphold justice for her sake of serving her wholeheartedly.

　　However, her mother-in-law's words destroyed Sister Hu's last thought of keeping her marriage: "My son will move on because you are useless. What a big deal, it's worth making a fuss about. It is normal for a man to be affectionate. Do what you should do. "

　　Sister Hu was completely disappointed when she saw her mother-in-law who was indiscriminate and indiscriminate. In the desperate situation, the ferocity in Sister Hu's bones was thoroughly discovered, and she was beaten at her husband's house, which made her mother-in-law restless and attracted many people from the neighborhood to see jokes.

　　In order to avoid further escalation of the situation, and to prevent Sister Hu from making more crazy moves, Sister Hu's husband had to agree to divorce, releasing the malicious words of "divorce me, and you will starve to death". Since the child is a daughter, the mother-in-law has no nostalgia and lost the custody of the child to Sister Hu.

　　Sister Hu's marriage lasted for five years and came to an end. The rude feelings of her husband's family stimulated Sister Hu's desire to live.

　　"I not only want to live, but also want to live better than them."

　　At this time, Sister Hu's parents extended a helping hand to take care of her granddaughter and let her daughter go to work in the city with others to earn money to support herself and her children.

　　Although her education level is not high, Sister Hu's success lies in her diligence, ability to learn, willingness to endure hardships and no complaints about overtime. Therefore, she soon found a job with a monthly salary of more than 4,000 yuan, working 12 hours a day, with no weekends and holidays.

　　"Money, I spend part of it and save part for my daughter. Although I am very tired, I have managed my life, and I don't have to look at my mother-in-law's face, let alone be scolded."

　　04. Without my free nanny, their family had a hard time.

　　Besides, Mr. Tang, who came to see Sister Hu to remarry at the beginning, had a hard time without Sister Hu, a free nanny.

　　Mr. Tang doesn't want a divorce because his confidante has a family like him, so he can't marry her.

　　After Sister Hu left, Mr. Tang's mother was left unattended and had to go to the city to find her son. She is in poor health, and she is used to enjoying happiness. Not only can she not take care of her son's life, but she also needs his son to take care of him while going to work, which makes Mr. Tang feel very tired.

　　Later, Mr. Tang's affair with his confidante was known by the confidante's man. The man found Mr. Tang's factory and beat him up. As a result, Mr. Tang was fired and his reputation in the local area was stinking, so he had to take his mother to live elsewhere.

　　Having no money, no house, and having done disgraceful things, it is unrealistic for Mr. Tang to marry a wife, which is the reason why he hit on Sister Hu.

　　"Guess what I told him?"

　　Sister Hu said a word to Mr. Tang and successfully scared Mr. Tang away: "Let's not talk about remarriage. What about the daughter's support?" You haven't given a wool since our divorce. "

　　Whether to marry or not in the future, Sister Hu didn't think it over, just remarried, which is absolutely impossible.

　　05. Those who beat the rake can't miss it.

　　Milan Kundera said:

　　"People can never know what they want, because people can only live once, and they can neither compare it with previous lives nor make corrections in the afterlife. There is no way to test which choice is good. "

　　Since you can't make a comparison, try to choose the best way for yourself. There is nothing wrong with people living in the world and loving themselves more.

　　As Tu Lei said:

　　"In love, love each other for seven points and love yourself for three points."

　　You know, when there are problems in your relationship, some problems can be solved. If things are not too big and you can't stand it, it's okay to take a step back. Take a step back and broaden the horizon. This sentence also works for marriage.

　　However, when what the other party did obviously challenged the bottom line of marriage, he was not forgiven, and his attitude was the key.

　　People who make mistakes and refuse to admit them are not worthy of your nostalgia.

　　A person will make a mistake and make a mistake, which can only explain two things. One thing is that he doesn't realize that he did something wrong at all, and he doesn't care about the harm he did to you at all; Another point is that he has nothing to hide, and you are afraid to leave him. Once you let go this time, he will be more likely to hurt you next time.

　　Romain rolland said in "john cleese Christopher":

　　"There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life."

　　Love life and love yourself are the requirements of life for us.

　　Today's topic: Do you think people who beat the rake are worthy of nostalgia? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.