＂I have four sisters at home, and no one dares to marry＂： Parents prefer boys to girls, which will affect their son's marriage.

　　Mr Qian Zhongshu once famously said in Fortress Besieged:

　　"Marriage is a besieged city. People outside the city want to go in and people in the city want to come out."

　　Marriage is indeed a besieged city. People outside the city want to go in because they are full of expectations and yearning for life in the city and think that people in the city are living a very happy life. The reason why people in the city want to come out is because they are lost in confusion and pain, and find that their marriage is not as beautiful as expected, but also brings them many problems. They can't solve these problems, so they have to squeeze out desperately, hoping to free themselves from the pain by ending their marriage.

　　In the besieged city of marriage, people are unhappy not only because they don't know how to manage marriage, but also because they are careless in choosing a spouse before marriage. The failure of many marriages actually laid the groundwork at the beginning. Marry a person who is not suitable for you, and the marriage will be very sad and stable. Therefore, in order to have a happy and stable marriage life, we must first work hard on choosing a spouse.

　　There are many aspects to pay attention to when choosing a spouse. First of all, two people want two of a kind, with love as the basis of marriage; Secondly, that person's character should be trustworthy and have certain economic strength; Finally, we should pay attention to each other's family of origin.

　　Family of origin has a profound influence on our life, which will affect the shaping of our three views. If a person's family of origin has too many disadvantages, it will make the opposite sex afraid and afraid to combine with it.

　　"I have four sisters in my family, and no one dares to marry": Parents prefer boys to girls, which will affect their son's marriage.

　　With a house and a car and a monthly income of 7,000 yuan, men think their conditions are excellent; ?

　　Some time ago, I took part in a blind date and met an older man, Mr. Li.

　　Mr. Li is 32 years old and not married. According to the introducer, Mr. Li works in an internet company and earns 7000 yuan a month. Although the salary doesn't look high, there is a car and a house under Mr. Li's name, and there is no need to repay the loan. Therefore, Mr. Li has little financial pressure.

　　When I met Mr. Li, he also thought that his conditions were excellent: "I have prepared a bride price of 200,000 for my future wife. As long as she is willing to marry me, she can carry a bag and stay without worrying about the mortgage. My house is a school district, which is of great benefit to children's schooling. "

　　There is no mortgage, and the economic pressure is very small, which is indeed the advantage of men in the blind date market. Knowing Mr. Li's conditions, my father also agreed with me to associate with him: "This young man is good-looking and has good conditions, which is suitable for being with you. Get married! The less economic pressure, the better. It's better than being overwhelmed with a mortgage. "

　　Unlike my father, my mother felt confused: "With a house and a car, the financial pressure is small. Why is he still single?" How can he afford a house with a monthly salary of 7000? Wait a minute, I'll ask someone to go to his hometown to inquire. "

　　02 blind date failed more than 20 times, only because he has four sisters; ?

　　In order to solve the doubts in my heart, my mother asked someone to inquire about Mr. Li. After getting feedback, my mother decisively scolded the introducer and refused Mr. Li's request to associate with me.

　　It turns out that Mr. Li can buy a house in full with a monthly salary of 7 thousand yuan because he has four sisters.

　　According to Mr. Li's hometown people, Mr. Li's parents are particularly famous in their area. In order to have a son, they will bear a huge fine and hide in the mountains, and they will also give birth to Mr. Li.

　　"You know what? In order to buy him a house, his parents asked each daughter for a bride price of 250 thousand. When looking for a partner for his sister, his parents directly said that as long as they met their bride price requirements, they would marry their daughter regardless of their age and whether they had children or not. When his youngest sister got married, she was only 20 years old, but that man was 33 years old. "

　　"I heard from his mother that her son had been kissed for more than 20 times. When the girl heard that there were four sisters in his family, they all ran away."

　　My mother was very angry when she heard the talk of her old family. "Isn't this a fire pit?"? If my daughter marries him, won't it become a fertility machine? Girl, do you believe it? If you marry him, you must have a son. "

　　I quite agree with my mother's words and decisively deleted Mr. Li's contact information. Before deleting him, I saw a circle of friends, which read: "Are girls demanding so much from men now? I have a house and a car with a monthly salary of 7 thousand, and no one is willing to marry. "

　　In my opinion, Mr. Li still has a long way to go to get rid of the bill.

　　Girl, don't marry a family with a son preference. ?

　　Four daughters and one son. Obviously, Mr. Li's parents have a serious preference for boys.

　　Although the concept of equality between men and women is deeply rooted in people's hearts, many families regard their daughters as treasures, but in some backward areas, the idea of son preference is still deeply rooted in some people's minds. In the eyes of these people, the son is the family member, and the daughter is the money-losing goods and the cash cow of the brothers.

　　I want to advise unmarried girls, don't marry a family with son preference, don't bet your lifelong happiness, you can't afford to gamble. When you marry a family with a preference for boys, you may encounter three problems.

　　The first problem is that you can't get the respect of your husband's family.

　　The idea that men are superior to women is in the same strain as the idea that men are superior to women. The reason why a family prefers boys to girls is because they despise women's status and don't take women seriously. In such a family, men have the absolute right to speak, and it is difficult for women to gain the respect of their in-laws. If a woman marries into such a family, she will be ignored and can't really play the role of a good hostess.

　　Respecting the in-laws and getting their respect is the premise for a woman to run a good marriage. If they can't even respect you, how can you really integrate into this family?

　　The second problem is that you may become a fertility machine.

　　Once the idea of son preference appears, it is difficult to reverse it. Men grow up in such a family, and they will have such thoughts. Even if men don't prefer boys to girls, you can't change the minds of men's parents. Therefore, once you marry into such a family, you will face the pressure of childbirth. Unless your first child is a boy, you will be under greater pressure from your husband-in-law's family, who will look at you with strange eyes and satirize you, and even make your marriage come to an end.

　　The third question is about your daughter's unhappy childhood.

　　Parents have the obligation to protect their children and let them grow up in a healthy environment. Living in a patriarchal family, once your daughter is born, she will be treated unfairly. Even if she doesn't become a brother-helper, it's hard to get love from her father and family of origin. Even for the sake of their children, a woman should not marry a family with a preference for boys.

　　Today's topic: Do you think boys born in a patriarchal family can marry? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.