＂You've been living with me for three years. How can you get a bride price？＂ ＂Ok, I don't want it.＂

　　Bride price, a topic that can never be avoided when talking about marriage, has become a stumbling block for many couples.

　　The bride price has existed since ancient times, and people have different opinions on it. Many men support the bride price and are willing to give it to women, but in the eyes of some men, the bride price is to sell their daughters to help the poor.

　　Women also have different opinions on whether to pay a bride price. Some women believe in true love, think that love doesn't need money to prove it, and would rather marry their sweetheart than a bride price. Some women think that the bride price represents a man's intention to himself and is an indispensable link.

　　Xiaoyan is a girl who insists on the bride price, but she meets a man who doesn't want to give the bride price. The two people have differences because of the bride price, which finally leads to the end of their relationship.

　　01

　　Xiaoyan has been in love with her boyfriend for five years, and they finally start to talk about marriage.

　　When Xiaoyan fell in love with her boyfriend, she was only 21 years old and was in college. Xiaoyan's boyfriend was one year older than her.

　　After my boyfriend graduated, he rented a house outside. Although he found several jobs, he was not satisfied, so he wanted to start his own business. Xiaoyan has been firmly supporting his business plan since she heard about it.

　　Xiaoyan's boyfriend wants Xiaoyan to move out to live with him, which can not only promote the feelings of two people, but also take care of each other.

　　At first, Xiaoyan was very reluctant. She was afraid that she would live together so early and be laughed at by others. Xiaoyan's parents also told Xiaoyan many times not to live with men easily.

　　Therefore, Xiaoyan rejected her boyfriend's proposals several times, which made her feel unhappy, but he didn't force Xiaoyan to agree at first.

　　In the next semester of her senior year, Xiaoyan will move out of school. She has found a boyfriend and hopes that her boyfriend will recommend a reliable rental for herself. At this time, her boyfriend once again asked for cohabitation and brainwashed Xiaoyan.

　　"Look! We have been in love for two years. Although we have quarreled several times, there has not been much contradiction. I think we can definitely enter the marriage hall, so what is the difference between living together early and living together late? Now that you live with me, you can save the trouble of finding a house, rent money and safety accidents. Isn't this a good thing to kill three birds with one stone? "

　　Xiaoyan was moved by her boyfriend's words. Xiaoyan finally failed to stick to her principles and promised to live with her boyfriend.

　　When she promised to live with her boyfriend, Xiaoyan made a pact with her boyfriend to make him promise not to have sex before marriage.

　　02

　　They lived together for three years and shared the rent in a two-bedroom and one-bedroom house.

　　When she first started living together, Xiaoyan felt nervous in her heart. Fortunately, her boyfriend didn't make any further demands.

　　After they moved in together, her boyfriend has been busy doing his own business and rarely cleans the house. Xiaoyan took on the task of taking care of her boyfriend's life after she came back from work. Every day, she cooks for her boyfriend, cleans the room, washes clothes and dries them.

　　When her boyfriend feels tired, Xiaoyan will be there to relieve him of his worries. When her boyfriend feels happy, Xiaoyan will become the object of his talk; When her boyfriend feels angry, Xiaoyan will try her best to make him feel happy.

　　Xiaoyan's cohabitation with her boyfriend finally made her parents know. My mother came to their rented house and learned that her daughter was responsible for all the housework, so she felt very angry.

　　"This is what age? Where can a woman contract all the housework? You are so stupid, how did you pay so much for him? "

　　Xiaoyan disagreed: "He is busy with his career. What's wrong with me doing chores? The reason why he works so hard to make money is not to let me live a good life after marriage? "

　　Mother felt very helpless and had to compromise and let Xiaoyan's boyfriend propose marriage immediately to arrange their marriage.

　　03

　　In the fifth year of love, Xiaoyan's boyfriend and Xiaoyan began to talk about marriage.

　　Originally, according to the custom of Xiaoyan's hometown, the woman would ask the man for a hundred thousand bride price, which is also the local basic price.

　　Considering that it is not easy for a boy to start a business, her daughter is dead set on this boy. In order to make the marriage go smoothly, Xiaoyan's mother lowered the standard of bride price and only asked the man for 30 thousand bride price.

　　Xiaoyan was very happy and told her boyfriend's mother with great joy. Unexpectedly, after listening to this, her boyfriend's face changed greatly and she said, "Are you kidding? And give a bride price? In our hometown, women rarely get married with a bride price. "

　　After listening to this, Xiaoyan was dissatisfied, but she patiently explained to her boyfriend: "Bridal gifts have existed since ancient times. It is normal for women to ask for bride price, okay?" My mother understands that it is difficult for you to start a business. As long as you give 30,000 bride price, this is already a big concession. "

　　The boyfriend's next words made Xiaoyan's heart fall into the ice cave: "There are women who want bride price, but those are the conditions that girls who are pure and pure are qualified to put forward." You have lived with me for three years, and you are already mine. What qualifications do you have for the bride price? "

　　Xiaoyan heard this sentence and immediately got angry: "What do you mean I'm not qualified? Although I have lived with you for three years, I am still a virgin. Why am I not qualified for the bride price? "

　　"Do you believe this words out? In the eyes of most people, as long as a woman has lived with a man, it is already unclean. How can she have the face to ask for a bride price? For the sake of your kindness to me, I am willing to marry you, but don't even think about the bride price. "

　　"Well, I don't want it! I will feed the dog the feelings and dedication of these five years, and we have nothing to do from now on. "

　　Xiaoyan left her boyfriend's home without looking back, and this five-year love affair came to an end.

　　Five years of youth and hard work have gone down the drain. Xiaoyan's heart is naturally extremely painful, but she knows that her boyfriend just wants to enjoy her contribution, but he is not willing to pay for her, and does not really love her. If Xiaoyan marries in the past, she will probably become her boyfriend's nanny, and it will be difficult to live happily after marriage. Instead of shedding tears after marriage, she might as well stop loss in time now.

　　In this relationship, Xiaoyan made two taboos and wasted her feelings.

　　First, she didn't strengthen her heart and easily agreed to live together with her boyfriend before marriage.

　　I don't support women living together before marriage, because love is so mysterious that it's hard to say for sure. Sometimes, two people have such strong feelings that they can't live without each other, and they will break up because of some small things. Therefore, it is best for women to respect themselves before the last step.

　　It is not impossible to live together before marriage, but it should not be too early, at least until the marriage of two people is fixed or the consent of their parents is obtained. It is always women who suffer from cohabitation before marriage, because emotionally, this society is much more tolerant of men than women.

　　Just like the Show Lo incident, which has been making a lot of noise these days, there are already voices accusing Grace Chow. Some people think that Grace Chow should not publicize his personal feelings, while others directly think that it is no big deal for men to cheat.

　　However, after Ma Rong and Li XiaoLu cheated, no one dared to defend them directly.

　　Therefore, in order to protect themselves, in order not to end up as an inhuman person, women should also attach importance to cohabitation before marriage.

　　Secondly, she was too kind to her boyfriend, and didn't let him take the due responsibility for this love.

　　Women should pay attention, if your boyfriend tells you that "housework is a woman's duty", you should kick him away quickly. Women have no obligation to do all the housework, and men have no obligation to fully undertake the obligation of supporting their families.

　　Some men like to use their careers as a shield, claiming that they are doing their careers to make women live a better life, so women should be considerate of themselves. In this regard, Teacher Tu Lei has a saying that won my heart. "Many men have a wrong idea: a man's career is for his family, for his lover, and for his mistakes, a man's career is for himself."

　　Men do business to prove themselves, to make themselves live a better life, which is not the reason why you don't do housework. Therefore, women should not be obedient to men just because they are busy with their careers. In love, no one is qualified to ask the other party to accommodate themselves.