＂It's not easy for my mother, you should let her go more.＂ Why should I make up for your father's mistake？

　　Romain rolland wrote such a sentence in "john cleese Christopher":

　　"There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life."

　　Living is the goal of a person's life. It is better to live than to die. Although this sentence is not pleasant to hear, it has some truth. For people, the most precious thing is life. Without life, you can't enjoy money and honor.

　　In order to survive, it is not easy for everyone. Everyone needs to bite the bullet and try to overcome every difficulty encountered on the road of life.

　　When we were young, we were overwhelmed by a mountain of test papers. When we were adults, we were overwhelmed by the pressure of life. When we were old, the aging of our physical functions made us feel overwhelmed.

　　Living hard and not easy is something that everyone will encounter, but life is no longer easy, which is not the reason why you base your happiness on the suffering of others, let alone the reason why your mother-in-law bullies your daughter-in-law.

　　In marriage, women hate to hear a man say "My mother is not easy, you can't …". However, many men especially like to say this sentence and think their demands are reasonable.

　　"My mother is not easy, you should give her more", this sentence is the mantra of Ge Yun's husband, and it is his usual means to muddle along in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In this marriage, Ge Yun suffered a lot.

　　01. My mother is not easy, which is my husband's mantra;

　　Before getting married, Ge Yun's husband liked to talk about the words "My mother is not easy".

　　Every time before going home, Ge Yun's husband, Li Bin, invited her to go to the mall to help refer to the gifts he bought for his mother. When Ge Yun praised his filial piety, he would say, "It was not easy for my mother to grow up, so I have to be more filial to her."

　　When he came back from home, Li Bin pulled a car full of local products. When he distributed them to Ge Yun, he would say, "In order to let me eat well and sleep well, it is not easy for my mother to stuff all the best things in my family into my car."

　　When discussing the bride price, faced with Ge Yun's mother's request for a 150,000-yuan bride price, Li Bin complained to Ge Yun: "It's really not easy for my mother to sell all her ancestral bracelets for my study. Just discuss it with your mother, as long as it's 50,000."

　　Before her mother-in-law moved into the wedding room, in order to convince Ge Yun who didn't want to live with her elders, Li Bin used her own mantra: "Mom has been suffering in the country all her life. It's really not easy. As a son, I can't live in a big house by myself. Let my mother continue to suffer in the country!"

　　Ge Yun still knows how difficult it is to bring up children. Therefore, in the face of her husband's demands, Ge Yun relented again and again and chose to give in.

　　02. It is not easy for my mother-in-law to meet a husband who regards himself as an ancestor.

　　"After I got married and learned about my mother-in-law's daily life, I finally understood why she had such a hard time."

　　At home, Li Bin's father lives like an ancestor. I have been married to my mother-in-law for more than 30 years. My father-in-law has never done housework, taken care of his son or served the elderly.

　　"When my husband was in high school, my mother-in-law ran at both ends. She had to accompany her son to study, prepare three meals a day for him, and go back to the countryside by bus to cook for men and her mother-in-law. When my husband and grandmother died, my mother-in-law cleaned her up and sent a message to relatives at home, and my father-in-law came back drunk from outside. During the Chinese New Year, a family of 10 people gathered and chatted with melon seeds outside. My mother-in-law was busy in the kitchen from morning till night, washing vegetables, choosing vegetables, cooking and brushing pots. "

　　To be honest, Ge Yun admires her mother-in-law's dedication, but she doesn't want to live like her.

　　"Life revolves around men and children, just like a gyro that doesn't know how to be tired. What is the meaning of a woman's life?"

　　03. It's not easy for her, so I hope it's not easy for me?

　　Ge Yun has his own views on the status of men in the family.

　　When doing housework, she asked her husband to share it with herself: "When I mop the floor, he dries the clothes;" He went to clear the table while I was cooking. If he doesn't work, he can't eat. "

　　My husband was angry outside and complained at home. Ge Yun never used to him: "I am his wife, not his punching bag."

　　In terms of spending, Ge Yun doesn't want to treat himself badly. He won't be reluctant to buy the fruit he should buy and the clothes he should wear won't be stingy.

　　Seeing the daughter-in-law's behavior of "not caring for her son", Li Bin's mother couldn't bear it, and a fierce conflict broke out with Ge Yun.

　　"On Sunday, she woke me up at six o'clock in the morning to clean up the housework. I want to call my husband. She looks distressed and asks him to sleep a little longer. I also work six days a week. Am I not tired when he is tired? "

　　"Children are picky eaters, don't like to eat green vegetables, and have to eat meat. I insist on the combination of vegetarians and vegetarians, and I would rather let him be hungry than used to him. My mother-in-law is good, taking a bite of bad mother and giving my son a small stove behind my back, which makes my son overweight. "

　　During the Chinese New Year, her mother-in-law asked her husband to play games and directed Ge Yun to clean up and prepare for the New Year's Eve, which made Ge Yun feel backache.

　　In the end, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became more and more fierce, and the quarrel between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become the daily life of Ge Yun.

　　04. I lost my confidence in marriage when I met a husband who was biased in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law;

　　At first, after quarreling with her mother-in-law, Ge Yun went back to Li Bin and asked her to reason, to persuade her mother-in-law to find less trouble for herself. Then, she heard Li Bin's familiar mantra: "My mother is not easy, so what if you give her more and do what she wants?" She is old, and she should enjoy herself. Why should we young people care about her? "

　　Ge Yun was so angry that he directly retorted: "If your father knows how to love his wife, will your mother have a hard time?" Why should I make up for your father's mistake? Don't you want me to bully my future daughter-in-law again? Why am I not easy, and you enjoy it? "

　　GeYun words let Li Bin feel speechless, noisy GeYun, however, he chose to be silent, when the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law broke out, still don't change the bias. Now, Ge Yun is too lazy to argue with Li Bin. She has lost confidence in her marriage. After contacting her parents, she began to plan for divorce: "You can't wake a person who pretends to sleep. It may not be terrible to have a bad mother-in-law. It is the most terrible thing to have a selfish, pretending husband."

　　05. It is not easy for a mother, which is not the reason why a man does not act in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

　　Emotional teacher Tu Lei once said:

　　"Don't always try to tell your wife how difficult your mother is. Your mother is not easy. That's your father's responsibility, but what about your daughter-in-law? Your daughter-in-law is not easy because of you. Except for you, she is alone. "

　　In marriage, the reason why a woman has a hard time, becomes strong and omnipotent is often because they have an unreliable husband. Men can't hold up a sky and give women a sense of security. For the sake of family and children, women can only be strong and strong for their mothers. Therefore, if a man thinks that his mother is having a hard time, he should not only be more filial to his mother, but also look for the reasons of his father.

　　Motherhood is not easy, which is not the reason why men do not act in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Women leave their parents' arms and marry you, not to suffer what your mother has suffered again, nor to be your mother's nanny.

　　The screenwriter of Double-sided Adhesive once said:

　　"In the trivial life of chicken feathers, what women care most about is often not how to resolve the contradiction itself, but whether the husband stands behind him in the process of resolving the contradiction."

　　If you do nothing in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and let it worsen, then your marriage will come to an end sooner or later.

　　Today's topic: What do you think of the words "My mother is not easy"? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.