＂She will accompany you to eat, drink and have fun, and I will serve four people at home. That's very beautiful of you.＂

　　First of all, let me ask you a question. What do you think of stay-at-home wives?

　　Speaking of stay-at-home wives, I think of the writer Beauvoir who once commented on stay-at-home wives in The Second Sex: "There is almost no hard work, which can be compared with the torture caused by repeated housework forever-clean things get dirty and dirty things are cleaned. Day after day, cycle after cycle. "

　　Doing boring and endless housework day after day is just one of the disadvantages of being a full-time wife. In fact, the biggest disadvantage of being a stay-at-home wife is that when the marriage changes, you may fall into a dilemma without financial ability.

　　You want to leave and don't want to continue, but how can you support yourself? Can you find a job without entering the workplace for many years? Are you qualified for the job?

　　You want to fight for custody, and you don't want your children to follow an unreliable father and loathe to give up their children. However, how can you raise your children alive?

　　Writer Tang Zhifeng once said: "Behind one person's fear in marriage, another person must be constantly humble without dignity."

　　If a woman has no financial ability, she may also give men the feeling that "I'm sorry for her, but she can't support herself anyway, and she certainly won't dare to divorce", encouraging them to live up to your arrogance.

　　"I'm philandering, what's the matter? I dare you to divorce! With your yellow face and no job, I will definitely starve to death if you leave. At that time, don't come to beg me. " After his wife found out that he was having an affair outside marriage, Mr. Luo not only didn't feel ashamed, but rightfully humiliated his wife because she was a full-time wife.

　　01. I have a yellow-faced woman at home, and I don't want to go home more and more;

　　Ten years ago, under the introduction of relatives, Mr. Luo met his wife, Ms. Hu. After getting along for half a year, they felt good about each other and were married with the help of their parents. In the third year of marriage, Ms Hu gave birth to a daughter for Mr Luo.

　　Because parents' traditional ideas are serious and their in-laws don't approve of their daughter-in-law going out to work, Ms. Hu, who was originally working in the city, gave up the idea of continuing to work after she got married and lived a life of caring for her husband and children and serving her in-laws.

　　"The reason why I don't want a divorce is because she is very capable of working, and I can't live without her at home. When my parents were sick, she served them. She took care of my parents in the hospital and cooked for me and my daughter at home. "

　　However, with the passage of time, Ms. Hu, who needs to take care of the housework and the elderly, has no time and energy to dress up and maintain, and looks ten years older than Mr. Luo, which makes Mr. Luo less and less interested in his wife.

　　"Five years ago, my wife gave birth to another son for me. Although it fulfilled my parents' wish to have grandchildren, her face value was even more embarrassing. As long as I saw her, I couldn't even eat and didn't want to go home."

　　02. "Nothing, she dare not leave you", because of this sentence, I took the step of betraying my marriage;

　　Before taking this step of betraying marriage, Mr. Luo hesitated, just because he didn't want to lose his current family.

　　"My daughter is 7 years old, clever and sensible, smart and lovely, and very caring. My son is very naughty and lively. My relatives and friends see that I have such lovely children and a wife who is so filial to my in-laws and hardworking and capable. They all envy me, and I don't want to lose my family. Otherwise, who will do the housework? Who will take care of my parents? What about the children? "

　　Just as Mr. Luo hesitated, a colleague who had already taken this step gave him a pep talk: "My wife has a job, and I am not afraid. What are you afraid of?"

　　The reason why this colleague is not afraid of his wife's turn against him is because he believes that his wife is reluctant to let her son become a child of a single-parent family. Son, is his wife's weakness, but also his confidence. Compared with him, Mr. Luo also has more confidence that his wife will starve to death if she leaves.

　　In the end, Mr. Luo took this step and stabbed his virtuous wife in the back. However, he didn't hide it for too long, and his wife found out, so things made a big deal.

　　03. She would rather give up the custody of two children than fulfill my dream;

　　"I just play with her, find a stimulus, and not seriously, you care about what? Don't worry, you will always be my only wife. "

　　In the face of his wife's crying, Mr. Luo first repeatedly promised that he would not divorce or leave his wife. Seeing that Ms. Hu still refused to give up, Mr. Luo felt bored, ignored Ms. Hu and continued to fool around outside.

　　What Mr. Luo didn't expect was that the yellow-faced woman who couldn't keep herself alive in her eyes actually offered to divorce.

　　"You didn't go out to work for ten years and left me. Where did you get the money to support yourself? You are waiting to starve to death! "

　　"It's none of your business whether I am dead or alive. I'd rather die if I stayed with a man who betrayed me."

　　"If you get divorced, you can leave alone, and you can't get custody of your children." Seeing that it doesn't work to talk about the economic situation, Mr. Luo threatened his wife with custody of his children. The wife was silent for a while and finally said, "OK, I can give up the custody of my children."

　　None of Mr. Luo's threats worked, and he was panicked. He began to beg his wife not to divorce and give him a chance. Ms. Hu coldly questioned: "My lover accompanied you to eat and drink, and I served four people at home. Your dream is really fragrant. You want to sit and enjoy the happiness of the people, but unfortunately, you don't have this life, so I will not accompany you. "

　　Because Ms. Hu had evidence in her hand, Luo Xian was afraid that she would make a big deal out of it and had to agree to divorce. Now, more than three months have passed since their divorce. According to people around them, Ms. Hu entered the city as a nanny and did not "starve to death" as Mr. Luo said.

　　As for Mr. Luo, the days when a good wife and young son accompanied him are gone forever. Parents need him to take care of them, and their children need him to support them. Life is very bad.

　　"I want to find her to remarry. I promise I won't be promiscuous in the future. I just want her to give me a chance, even for my children, she should come back!"

　　I don't know how Mr. Luo went to find Ms. Hu, but I want to say, with Ms. Hu's style of giving up custody of her children and divorcing her ex-husband in love rat, how could she agree to remarry? Jump in the same fire pit again, which woman would be so stupid?

　　04. The stupidest behavior of a woman is to give up her job for her family.

　　Sophie Marceau once said:

　　"The saddest thing for a woman is not getting old, but losing herself in marriage and plain life. Women can be old, but they must be elegant until they are old. Never let marriage kill women. "

　　As the saying goes, a gentleman dies for a confidant, and a woman is pleasing to herself. It is a man's nature to be lascivious. Even if your husband loves you very much and doesn't like women very much, he hopes to see you dress up well and make him look a little better.

　　Besides, women can also make themselves comfortable! Dress yourself up and you will feel better.

　　Yi Shu also said such a passage:

　　"Never underestimate the ruthlessness of a man when he breaks up. The stupidest thing for a woman is to give up her job for the so-called family. If she wants to be independent, she must first be financially independent. At least at the end of the song, she can still support herself and continue to live with dignity!"

　　Remember, don't give him the illusion that you can't live without me, and don't give him a chance to humiliate you. Money is our lifeline, and it is something we must have to live. Therefore, no matter how much you love it, don't give your lifeline to others.

　　Today's topic: Do you think Ms. Hu will agree to remarry? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.