The ＂eldest brother is like a father＂ parents destroyed the family of three Phoenix men. Wife： I don't have a 24-year-old son.

　　Mencius said in the Tao of the Road: "There is nothing to ask about reason, and a bosom friend is a good friend. A good colt knows the Lord, and an elder brother is a father. "

　　From ancient times to the present, we all pay great attention to filial piety, demanding that fathers be kind and filial, and that brothers, friends and brothers be respectful.

　　In other words, as parents, we should be kind, nurture our children carefully, and strive to train them to become talents. As children, we have been nurtured by our parents, remember their kindness, honor their parents, and die for their parents.

　　As brothers and sisters, we should take the lead and help our parents take care of their brothers and sisters. If parents are gone or parents lose the ability to take care of their children, and younger brothers and sisters are underage, brothers and sisters should take responsibility and take care of them on their behalf.

　　However, it is proper for brothers and sisters to settle accounts with each other, but they can't keep squeezing their brothers and sisters and constantly giving them trouble. They also have their own lives, and they have to live.

　　As the host Wang Zijian once said, I didn't know until I grew up. Try not to bother others, and others had better not bother me. This sentence is not indifferent, but mature.

　　Regarding this truth, Uncle Zhou and his wife don't understand that for the younger son, they always talk about the words "eldest brother is like a father". When the eldest son marries a wife, he is upgraded to "eldest sister is like a mother". However, he hit a hard nail and personally destroyed the eldest son's family of three.

　　However, Uncle Zhou and his wife have not figured out where they are wrong until now. They only think that the eldest daughter-in-law is selfish: "As the eldest brother, I have been taking care of my younger brother. Why can't it be my eldest son's turn?"

　　01. My eldest brother is like a father. I have always helped my younger brother at the request of my parents, no matter how old he is;

　　Uncle Zhou is 58 years old, the eldest son of his family, with a younger sister and a younger brother. Uncle Zhou's younger brother is seven years younger than Uncle Zhou. Because his mother is an elderly woman and in poor health, she instilled in her eldest son the idea that his eldest brother is like a father, and let her eldest son and daughter take care of his younger brother.

　　When Uncle Zhou was young, he had to take care of his younger brothers and sisters while studying, and he had to help his parents with housework.

　　After reading the second day of junior high school, Uncle Zhou chose to drop out of school, go home to help his parents and save money for his younger brother and sister to study. However, his younger brother failed to live up to expectations, refused to continue studying after reading the third day, and chose to go out to work.

　　When my brother got married, he not only spent all his savings at home, but also owed foreign debts, all of which were paid back by Uncle Zhou and his wife.

　　Uncle Zhou also has two sons, and it is very difficult for him to support his family with a meager income. However, when his younger brother came to him in trouble, Uncle Zhou gritted his teeth and saved money to help his younger brother.

　　Although Uncle Zhou's wife complained and felt dissatisfied, she was taught several times by her husband that her eldest brother was like a father and her eldest sister-in-law was like a mother, and she was used to brother in law's hand-reaching.

　　"My eldest brother is like a father. I have always helped my younger brother at the request of my parents, no matter how old my younger brother is. That's what I taught my eldest son, hoping that he can take on the responsibility as a brother. He is very promising, studies hard and has good grades. He will definitely live a good life in the future, and it is not a problem to help his brother. "

　　02. The eldest son earns 400,000 yuan a year, so it's not easy to give 300,000 yuan to the younger son to marry.

　　Indeed, Zhou Chen, the eldest son of Uncle Zhou, is really capable. He was admitted to a good university and stayed in the provincial capital to work after graduation. Last year, his annual salary exceeded 400,000, also known as Phoenix Man.

　　Two years ago, Zhou Chen married his colleague and settled down in the provincial capital. Last year, he added a son. However, just having a happy family of three, he was quickly approached by his parents and asked him to take 300,000 yuan to marry his younger brother.

　　Zhou Chen's younger brother graduated from three universities and worked for two years, with a monthly salary of around 4,000 to 5,000 yuan. Because of the high expenses, he never saved money and his marriage was not smooth. Until the end of last year, with the efforts of Uncle Zhou and his wife, he finally gave Zhou Chen's younger brother a daughter-in-law.

　　"The woman asked for a bride price of 80,000 yuan, which the old couple could afford. However, the woman didn't want to live in the country and wanted to settle down in the urban area. She told us about the education of many children. We thought it was reasonable and agreed."

　　Uncle Zhou checked the house price and calculated that it would take about 300,000 yuan to buy a house and hold a wedding. Although the old couple had no money, 300,000 yuan was not too much for the eldest son with an annual salary of 400,000 yuan, so they agreed to the woman's request and came to the city to ask the eldest son for money.

　　Although Uncle Zhou's eldest son thought that 300,000 was too much, he agreed to his parents' request for filial piety and the so-called idea that his eldest brother is like a father. However, Uncle Zhou's eldest daughter-in-law was not happy.

　　"Dad, mom, my brother is getting married. As an elder brother's sister-in-law, we can make a contribution. I can give him a red envelope of 10,000 yuan, but 300,000 yuan is too much! How can I give this money? "

　　03. My eldest daughter-in-law has run away, and my grandson is gone. Am I really asking too much?

　　Hearing that the eldest daughter-in-law was unhappy, Uncle Zhou and his wife turned green, and the eldest son was very angry and scolded his wife.

　　"Eldest brother like father, eldest sister-in-law like mother, don't you understand this truth? If our son is getting married and has no money, as parents, can we look at it and let him be single? "

　　After listening to her husband's words, the eldest daughter-in-law never gave in: "If it is my son, I will definitely give this money. Because he was born in October, I have to be responsible for it to the end. But, was your brother born to me?" I don't have a 24-year-old son, and I don't want to be a mother to anyone other than my child. "

　　Uncle Zhou is used to saying nothing at home, and he can't tolerate disobedience. When his eldest daughter-in-law doesn't obey, he is noisy and noisy, and he also asks his eldest son to teach his daughter-in-law. So, Uncle Zhou's filial son slapped him and destroyed his family of three.

　　Uncle Zhou's eldest daughter-in-law was slapped by her husband, so she was so angry that she smashed her home and went back to her family. At first, Mr. and Mrs. Zhou didn't care, accusing the eldest daughter-in-law of owing a beating. They should be disciplined and let the eldest son take money.

　　It was not until the third day that Uncle Zhou's eldest daughter-in-law came back with her family and lawyer, demanding a divorce, which required both custody of her grandson and division of property. Uncle Zhou and his wife realized the seriousness of the matter, but it was too late.

　　Uncle Zhou's wife cried and tried to get her grandson back, but she couldn't get her own mother at all. In the end, the eldest son had to give up the custody of the child and agree to divorce.

　　"Big daughter-in-law ran away, my grandson didn't also, don't, my request is really too much? Why doesn't the saying that the eldest brother is like a father work? "

　　04. Parents are alive or younger brothers and sisters are adults. At this time, it is just an excuse for eccentricity to say that the eldest brother is like a father.

　　First, if parents are still alive and have the ability to raise their children, they should do their duty to raise their children, instead of leaving the responsibility of taking care of their youngest son and daughter to the eldest son under the banner of eldest brother as father.

　　Second, if the parents are gone and the younger brothers and sisters are underage, they can take care of them as brothers and sisters. However, when the younger brothers and sisters are adults, they should assume the responsibility of adults and stand on their own feet, instead of gnawing at their brothers and sisters under the banner of being the eldest brother like a father.

　　Parents are alive or younger brothers and sisters are adults. At this time, it is just an excuse for eccentricity to say that the eldest brother is like a father. To put it bluntly, when parents are reluctant to let their young children suffer, they don't want to pay, so they put all the responsibility on the boss, trying to force the boss to become the ATM of the whole family in this way.

　　Zhou Guoping once said: "proper limit is a sign of mature love. In interpersonal communication, you should know how to keep the necessary distance between people."

　　If parents are confused, shirk the responsibility of raising their children, or spoil their beloved children and let them chew on their brothers and sisters, they will not only spoil their younger sons and daughters, but also drag down their eldest sons and daughters and affect their marriage. After all, their spouses are not directly related to your children and have no obligation to disregard their own interests for them.

　　Teacher Wu Zhihong, a psychologist, once said: Most happy families follow the scientific management concept-the core of the family level is themselves and their spouses, followed by children, parents and siblings.

　　When you meet parents and brothers and sisters who talk to you about their eldest brother like a father, whether you can keep your own happiness and your own small family depends on whether you have the consciousness to safeguard your own interests. If you are biased towards family of origin, you can't blame others for losing your marriage.

　　Today's topic: What do you think of the words "eldest brother is like father"? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.