＂It is better to find a wife than a nanny.＂ The 61-year-old grandfather listed four criteria, but no one wanted to be a big head.

　　San Mao once said: "the comedy in the world can be produced without money;" Most of the tragedies in the world are inseparable from money. "

　　As the saying goes, a penny can't beat a hero. No matter who you are and what you do, it's as small as the basic needs of food, clothing, housing and transportation, and as big as seeing a doctor and traveling. Without money, it's really a clever woman who can't cook without rice. Therefore, seeking profit has become human nature. Who doesn't want to live a good life when he is born?

　　There are many ways to get benefits. Some people earn money diligently through their own hands, while others calculate others through their brains and scheming to get benefits from others. Meeting the second kind of person, whether in marriage or in work and life, is not a good thing.

　　Samuel once said, "The success of marriage depends on two people, and one person can make it fail."

　　When you meet someone who has been married to you for the benefit from the beginning, such a marriage will inevitably end in failure. Interests cannot be maintained forever.

　　Uncle Chen is 61 years old this year. After his wife died, Uncle Chen soon began to look for a new wife. When asked about his purpose and requirements, he made no secret: "There are many things that need to be done at home." It is better to find a wife than a nanny. "

　　Then, Uncle Chen listed four standards and met people who met his needs. However, no one wanted to be a big head.

　　01. Without a hostess at home, my children and I feel inconvenient everywhere;

　　Since the death of his wife, the life of Uncle Chen and his son's family has become more and more inconvenient.

　　First of all, let's talk about Uncle Chen. After losing his wife, the good days when Uncle Chen was carefree and never touched the spring water with his fingers are gone forever.

　　"In the past, what to eat for three meals a day was never something I thought about. My wife is very good at cooking, whether it is vegetarian or meat dishes, she can do it very well. Sometimes, I wake up hungry in the middle of the night. As long as I wake her up, she will get up immediately and get me food. "

　　What to wear when going out is not something that Uncle Chen needs to worry about. No matter when it comes, his wife will fold the clothes that need to be worn neatly and put them between the beds.

　　Uncle Chen likes to drink, and he often gets as drunk as a fiddler. As long as a friend calls, his wife will drive to pick him up, take him home, scrub his body and clean up the vomit.

　　After the death of his wife, Uncle Chen and his daughter-in-law were unable to live in harmony because they were slovenly, sloppy, unable to do anything, and drunk. They had to continue to live in their hometown and were afraid to bother their son and daughter-in-law.

　　Besides, Uncle Chen's son and daughter-in-law, they soon encountered an annoyance, that is, taking care of the baby.

　　"My son and daughter-in-law are going to have a baby, so worry about who will take it. My daughter-in-law has a brother, and my mother needs to take care of her grandson. I'm too busy. As for me, I can't even take care of myself. How can I take care of my children? The daughter-in-law is not at ease! "

　　As for letting the daughter-in-law resign and take care of the baby, it is even more impossible. The son just tried to mention it, and the daughter-in-law went up in the air and went back to her mother's house, scaring her son to completely dispel the idea.

　　02. Hire a nanny? How can my little pension be enough?

　　"Why don't you hire a nanny?" My son just proposed it, but it was rejected by Uncle Chen and his daughter-in-law.

　　Let's talk about Uncle Chen's conditions first. Uncle Chen has retired, and his pension can be 3,000 yuan a month. He has a small two-bedroom house with his ex-wife. Because Uncle Chen can't cook, he has been eating out, and his pension is not much left. As for the savings, in order to buy a house for his son to marry his wife, it has already been spent.

　　Although Uncle Chen's son and daughter-in-law both go to work, their income is not high. They have to pay off the mortgage, have basic living expenses, and have to save money to raise their children, so they are stretched.

　　"Please a nanny to take care of dad, clean, make three meals a day, and wait on him when he is sick, even if he will have a one-month pension. If you add children, it will only be higher. Do you have so much money to burn? "

　　"Hey, if only Mom were still here." In a word, my son made Uncle Chen shine: "Wouldn't it be nice if I found another wife?"

　　Therefore, Uncle Chen listed four criteria for choosing a spouse, namely, being physically fit, being quick to do housework, cooking delicious food and not having a son.

　　03. You can spend my pension, and you can live in the house until you are old. What are you dissatisfied with?

　　According to these four criteria, Uncle Chen and his children began to look for eligible single aunts. Soon, they met a tenant in the same building, surnamed Liu, who is 55 years old and single.

　　A year ago, Aunt Liu moved to this community and shared a house with two colleagues. Aunt Liu has only one daughter and is married. Because she has no pension and doesn't want to rely entirely on her daughter to support her, Aunt Liu has found a job in the industrial park and supported herself by her own skills.

　　No son, no need to bring grandchildren, strong body, quick hands and feet, gentle temper, Aunt Liu quite meets Uncle Chen's mate selection criteria. So, Uncle Chen found an opportunity to contact Aunt Liu, and the two soon became familiar with each other.

　　However, when Uncle Chen proposed to Aunt Liu to remarry, Aunt Liu was surprised at first, and then refused without hesitation: "I just want to make money and don't want to be a wife, forget it!" “

　　Probably annoyed by Uncle Chen, Aunt Liu is a cheerful person, so she throws out a series of questions.

　　"Your pension is 3000, and you need it yourself. How much can I spend? Let's call it half! I share the rent with others, and the rent is 700 yuan a month. That is to say, you can save me 2200 yuan at most. I am at work now, I can earn more than 4,000 yuan a month, and my daughter also pays a sum of money every month. Can't I afford this 2,200? "

　　Uncle Chen was silent.

　　"With you, who do housework? Can you work? Are you willing to work? "

　　Uncle Chen is still silent.

　　"You have a son! By the way, your son just married his wife, and his daughter-in-law is pregnant. There will be grandchildren in the future. Who will take care of the children? You want to throw it to me! But with what? Does your son give me a pension? "

　　Uncle Chen's face has become ugly.

　　"Say not nice, one thousand you die before me, your son will really let me continue to live? What if he throws me out and I have no savings? "

　　"With the current market, is 2200 enough to find a nanny who has to serve you and take care of the children?"

　　Uncle Chen was speechless and turned his head and left. Of course, the plan to marry Aunt Liu was completely lost. Now, Aunt Liu, as always, continues to live a simple life. Uncle Chen is still looking for someone and has not succeeded yet.

　　04. No matter how old you are, if you want to live freely, women have to be independent.

　　Mao Mu, a writer, said: "Of course, people are not pursuing wealth, but they must have a life that can maintain dignity, so that they can work unimpeded, be generous, be bright and independent."

　　Just like Aunt Liu in the article, the reason why she still works hard over half a year is to have a life that is enough to maintain dignity. If you are not independent enough, it is undoubtedly a ridiculous thing to rely on people to reach out for money and talk about dignity.

　　No matter how old you are, if you want to live freely, women have to be independent. No matter how deep your feelings are, there is no guarantee that love will never deteriorate. If you are not independent enough, when the other person no longer loves you and turns his face against others, you are completely passive.

　　Women, please remember Yi Shu's sentence: "Never underestimate the coldness of men when they break up. The stupidest thing for women is to give up their jobs for the so-called family. If they want to be independent, they must first be financially independent, at least at the end of the song, they can support themselves and continue their lives with dignity!"

　　Instead of living by others' faces, it is better to live freely on your own, so that when the marriage really encounters a crisis, you can also have the confidence to stop losses in time.

　　Today's topic: Do you think Aunt Liu's question is correct? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.