If you still have contact with your ex after breaking up, learn to make friends like this and he will take the initiative to save you.

　　Once, when you shed tears, he would hold you sad for a long time. When you said goodbye, he would wait for you downstairs for several hours. After being separated from you for half a month, he would pour out his thoughts on the phone every day. ...

　　Now, in the face of the real breakup, he is not sad at all. Some time ago, you saw him send a circle of friends to travel, and heard friends say that he is now working out and having a good time every day. Why is it that after breaking up, he is not sad at all, but is better off than before?

　　Do you regret the original impulse? In fact, this is also the mental journey that most people want to save after being lovelorn.

　　In our subconscious mind, we will think that self-worth is always correct, and whether it is right or wrong behavior, we will be correct by default. This is rationalization. Before breaking up, you thought that the other party would have a bad life without you, but instead of being depressed, the other party has a better and more positive life. At this time, the mentality will change, which is reverse rationalization.

　　In the same way, we can make use of this feature to stimulate the other party's emotions appropriately, which is not only good for recovery, but also can directly attract the other party to take the initiative to recover for some types of breakups.

　　The practice is simple:

　　1. Keep in touch with your ex so that he can see your life.

　　2. Show your active and rich life in social circles, at least look happy.

　　3. Keep a circle of friends with him and have the opportunity to meet and get together.

　　The first point is very important. The circle of friends can let you show him your life dynamics. No matter whether you use WeChat or QQ, at least let him see you. Don't worry that he won't read it. As long as you two don't delete or blacken each other, your ex will definitely visit your circle of friends from time to time, perhaps late at night or in free time.

　　The second point of the exhibition will bring two possibilities. One is that he sees your new exhibition surface, and every time he sees you, he sees your promotion and change. Your dynamic exhibition can fully mobilize his interest points, guide him to see your circle of friends more and more frequently, and guide him to take the initiative to save you; The other is that as time goes by, he slowly stops coming to see your circle of friends, which means that your presentation has not got his interest points.

　　As for the third point, everyone has his own circle, and the judgment of people, things and things is easily influenced by people in the circle. For example, if a boy pursues a girl, that girl's girlfriend will definitely have various comments on you. If her girlfriend thinks you are good, it will easily affect the girl's evaluation of you.

　　Therefore, if you have a common circle of friends and can meet and get together, you will indirectly have a better exhibition opportunity. You don't want to please your ex's friends, but you want to get along with his friends. Even if your mutual friends of the opposite sex have the idea of pursuing you because they see your beautiful side, people in the whole circle will soon know that you only need to regulate your relationship and continue to stimulate your ex's psychological weakness. It's a bit of a threesome, and there will be a smell of being left out. ...

　　This is the most basic method of recovery, but in many cases, the more the foundation is, the more useful it is. It depends on the details. Of course, this is for some types of breakups. If you really break up and want to save it in such a simple way, I can only say that it is not necessarily useful, but it is harmless.