When did you learn to shut up in interpersonal communication？

　　When did you learn to shut up?

　　If you talk too much, you will lose, and disaster will come from your mouth!

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　　China's traditional culture has always taught people to be cautious in what they say and say less, because if they express their thoughts or opinions too much, they will actually expose their spiritual world and thoughts in their hearts to the sun, so that those who are up to no good or have different purposes can understand you deeply, and they may have a bad influence on you.

　　China's culture is reserved and low-key, so don't make trouble. Those who talk big, talk eloquently and express their ideas are either trying to deceive others or to show their superiority and unique personality.

　　Nowadays, due to the influence of western culture, many people like to talk nonsense in public places, enjoy themselves and proudly express their views, claiming that this is a progressive manifestation of showing their individuality and expressing their freedom of thought.

　　But in fact, the foundation of China culture, the root, excessive expression of their views, or opinions, in fact, is nothing more than burying hidden dangers for themselves, sooner or later, it will bite itself, and it will always be yourself who gets hurt.

　　Even if what you say is correct and you state the facts, your starting point is to remind others, or to benefit others, but the speaker has no intention of listening to you, and your brave words may be taken as a handle by others.

　　Because your language is bound to offend some people, that's for sure. These people will try their best to Luo Zhi your shortcomings, and then embellish them, and lead the disaster to you by means of fire, cursing, duplicity, and so on.

　　Ma Boss, the most famous Internet figure in China, is familiar to everyone. He founded the most convenient methods of online shopping and online payment.

　　He is very arrogant, his remarks are radical and bold, which can be said to be unscrupulous and supercilious.

　　For example, if the bank does not change, I will let him change.

　　Now, he has to keep a low profile. Why doesn't he continue his usual flamboyant style?

　　For example, Zhang Moufeng, an expert in the college entrance examination, has done journalism by himself, and many parents and college entrance examination students regard him as a god-like figure. Now he has to be careful with his tail between his legs. It is said that the cake was frozen, but it is not unreasonable to be a low-key person.

　　If a person doesn't learn to shut up and keep a low profile, he can only say that he doesn't know human nature deeply enough, he hasn't experienced enough things in society, he hasn't been beaten by society, and he hasn't hit a wall.

　　There is a theory in psychology called learned helplessness, that is, a person wants to succeed in something, and tries again and again, but all his efforts fail and he has to give up. What does such a psychological practice illustrate?

　　There are cognitive differences between people. It is difficult for one person to convince another person. It is difficult to understand what a chicken tells a duck. When a scholar meets a soldier, it is unreasonable. People in ancient times all understand this truth.

　　Professor Zheng Shiqiang, a professor in Taiwan Province, also told the story of a third-class person who has little knowledge and rich social experience, but is rich and broad-minded, so it is meaningless for him to argue about any issue. Even if the argument wins, so what? A person's energy is limited, so he should devote more time and energy to meaningful things. Everyone has his life track and his own destiny!

　　If persuasion can educate a person, then why build prisons and high walls?

　　The great wisdom of China people is embodied in these four words, which everyone can take as their motto!

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　　Life is a battlefield where there is no smoke. Everyone is fighting for a certain resource and a certain circle. Learning to shut up can save you a lot of trouble, avoid getting involved in unnecessary disasters and make you safe and happy.