Street interview： What are the benefits of married life？ Eighty percent of netizens gave the same answer!

　　A few days ago, I saw a video of such a street interview: the question that bloggers threw at everyone was, what are the benefits of marriage? Surprisingly, 80% of the respondents gave the same answer, that is, marriage is not good. I don't know if those unmarried men and women will weaken their enthusiasm for marriage if they accidentally see such content. Here, it is necessary to explain the true mentality of people in the besieged city who are less satisfied with their marriage life:

　　1) Dissatisfied with married life, or because it is impossible for husband and wife to achieve 100% same frequency during their marriage.

　　How do most people's legitimate lovers come into being? Because of coincidence, I met a person who made me think I was right, so I had the interest in falling in love with each other. Or during the period of love, each other will deliberately hide their shortcomings; Or even if you find that there are some shortcomings in the other person, you will have feelings of loving me, loving my dog in a state of strong magnetic field of love. As a result, the two sides finally reached a consensus on marriage.

　　When two people really get married, people's attitudes towards feelings will also change. The most common phenomenon during the period: everyone put down the disguise during the period of love and began to show their truth in front of their lover. At the same time, their feelings will quietly go to a dull period. At this time, couples often deduce some quarrels related to trivial matters of life. Or not because the lover is so bad, but because the magnetic field of love between husband and wife weakens, the tolerance between them becomes lower. Usually, the quarrel between husband and wife mainly comes from the fact that it is difficult for husband and wife to form the same frequency at the decision-making level of some things, or the two sides insist on their own habits at the trivial level of life, which makes the lover somewhat unhappy.

　　2) When people look at a thing, they often remember its shortcomings, but ignore its advantages.

　　Why do people long to be nourished by love at seed of love's age and to walk into the besieged city at marriageable age? It stems from people's unbearable loneliness, people's instinctive needs at the physiological level, and people don't want to be the so-called older men and women in everyone's eyes, and they are fed up with their helplessness when they are single, the boredom of shopping alone, and the mixed feelings when they eat hot pot alone.

　　After the real marriage, I really realized the advantages of male and female collocation, but this life style of mutual help will soon become normal, so that people will take the love's contribution to themselves for granted more often, but on the contrary, they will constantly enlarge the awkwardness and discomfort that their lover inadvertently created for themselves in their own minds. At this time, you will feel that you are unhappy in your marriage, so that some people have the idea of divorce, but you may not have the courage to divorce, because there are many obstacles in your marriage life, including children, parents and reputation. To this end, there will be a wrong understanding of married life: I think that I just want to live up to those expectations and give feedback in my married life. In fact, it is because there are too many factors in the relationship between husband and wife that make you attached.

　　3) After the loss of novelty between husband and wife, I feel that the existence of my lover is nonsense and common, and even becomes my own burden.

　　Most people choose to walk into the besieged city, not to cope with the secular view, but because that person during the period of love gave himself the impulse to get married, but with the progress of marriage life, aesthetic fatigue will inevitably occur between husband and wife. At this time, the lover can no longer fulfill his freshness, so he feels that the existence of the lover is nothing but nonsense and normal for himself. The key point is that married life does give people some restrained experiences. Even if it is difficult for both sides to form a close match, the one who pays more will feel that the existence of his lover is simply his own burden.

　　At this time, what appeared in my mind was my freedom when I was single, but I automatically blocked the picture that I was attacked by loneliness when I was single. The result: I feel that pulling away from my lover is the most rational choice. In fact, some people just feel tired living with their lover, so that they can get out of the besieged city. But after really getting out of the besieged city, I especially miss the bits and pieces with my lover, but some people will not reappear once they disappear from their lives. To this end, there are many people who regret after divorce.

　　4) The mentality of "what is lacking is rare, and what is not cherished" is at work.

　　In this life, to put it bluntly, people are born and live. In the process of maintaining life, the most important things for human beings are air, water and food. The point is, have these necessities of life ever been really valued by human beings? Only when people are calm, there will be such a consensus: once people leave the air, water and food, they will burp in minutes. What I want to say is: truth belongs to truth, and life attitude belongs to life attitude. After all, there is another trait of human beings: forget the pain after healing the scar.

　　The same is true of married life: many people had a more careful pursuit of their legitimate lover before they formed the marriage result, but after getting the marriage result, they thought that marriage was a product in a safe, and even if they were raging in their marriage life, their legitimate lover would not be pulled away from them. Therefore, we often see the way for couples to get along: show their worst temper in front of their legitimate lovers, but show their shyness and smirking in front of the opposite sex outside marriage; Facing the kindness of the opposite sex outside marriage, he did something that betrayed marriage, but ignored that betraying marriage itself would bring indelible harm to the legitimate lover; Some people will even lose their hard-won marriage life for the sake of the opposite sex outside marriage.

　　5) The burden of life itself makes it very difficult for many people just to maintain the minimum food, clothing, housing and transportation.

　　When people are alive, they should consider the minimum of food, clothing, housing and transportation. Unfortunately, some people have worked hard and still can't cope with the minimum necessities of life. Among them, the most disturbing thing for people is to solve the housing problem. Maybe sometimes people will comfort themselves that renting a house is also a way of life. The key is, when they get married, are the parents willing to let their daughter marry a guy who has to rent a house for a living after marriage? Or, people have a rigid obsession with having a house of their own. As a result, most people want to own a house of their own in the city where they work.

　　When many people have to shrink their quality of life because they have been burdened with mortgages for decades, it is easy to stage but not as those know it who have been poor together. A phrase that everyone often talks about: the problems that can be solved with money are not big problems. I think this statement is poor. I agree with the view that a penny can kill a hero. In real life, most people's perception of money is often like this: money is hard to earn and shit tastes bad. When the relationship between husband and wife is defeated by money, it will make a person particularly helpless and desperate.

　　What I want contemporary unmarried men and women to understand: 1) Marriage is a more prudent choice, try not to make your love fast-food; 2) When choosing a marriage partner, give the other party a multi-faceted examination, and don't let yourself go to the extremes of face value or family circumstances; 3) Marriage itself is beautiful, and those worse marriage cases are because the people who run the marriage made mistakes; 4) Don't be afraid of getting married. If you meet someone who makes you satisfied, you must bravely walk into the besieged city. 5) Marriage is not a product in a safe. Even if you get married, you should manage it carefully.

　　(The picture is from the Internet, and the picture has nothing to do with it)