A happy marriage will bring these three things to women

　　You don't need a reason to love someone, but you need it if you don't love someone.

　　Whether the marriage of middle-aged people is happy or not depends on whether the other party will give these values.

　　01

　　Give emotional value.

　　As the old saying goes, "Marry a Han, dress and eat." However, in marriage, in addition to the most basic material guarantee, women naturally want to be favored, and the most important thing is to enjoy the feeling of being cared for and taken care of.

　　Therefore, the best way to maintain the marriage relationship is nothing more than the male master and the female master. One is responsible for making money to support the family and the other is responsible for taking care of the family, and the happiness of "entrusting life" will rise.

　　When a family begins to be full of contradictions, the biggest reason is that the "pillar" of the family has lost its due role and can no longer provide "shelter from the wind and rain", so it is very difficult for women to persist.

　　Like Jia Zhen in Alive, in the face of Fugui's addiction to whoring and gambling, she has repeatedly chosen forbearance, tolerance and forgiveness, only expecting to maintain a complete family so that herself and her children will not become "unloved people".

　　But it turns out that Fugui can't change his nature, and he can't change his eating, drinking, whoring and gambling. In the end, Long Er calculated that he would lose all the more than 100 mu of land and my old house left by his ancestors, and his father was so angry alive.

　　At this point, Jiazhen was disheartened by Fugui. What makes her sad is not that she can't live a prosperous life from now on, but that Fugui is crazy about gambling, and she doesn't say anything about her fists and feet, and her most cherished whole family has been defeated.

　　Fugui's father-in-law knocked gongs and drums and carried the sedan chair to take his daughter home. He asked Jiazhen to make a clean break with Fugui. Jia Zhen, though always reluctant, got on the sedan chair and left Fugui.

　　This scene is not the helplessness and helplessness between husband and wife who "love their misfortune and anger their indisputable".

　　No matter how deep the feelings are, they can't compete with men's profligacy and destruction of marriage and family over the years. As the saying goes: "I thought you could shelter me from the wind and rain with you, but I didn't think you brought all the wind and rain."

　　In a happy marriage, the husband may be plain, not making much money and not romantic enough, but he is always "family-oriented". His wife and children are the most important people in his heart, and it is his unchanging mission to protect them all his life. In such a family, even if the woman finally takes on the heavy responsibility of "supporting the family", she is willing to do so.

　　02

　　Give growth value.

　　In a truly happy marriage, husband and wife are not only life partners, but also each other's growth coaches, confidants, teachers and friends.

　　Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng are undoubtedly the most enviable couple in history. She is a pronoun, and at the age of 17, she made her mark in the literary world of Beijing. He is a son of a aristocratic family with a family history and a promising collector.

　　They are suitable for each other, they have the same interests, and their marriage is perfect.

　　They have a lot in common, and they all like reading books and studying stone tablets. Li Qingzhao's memory is strong, so every time she goes to brew tea together after dinner, she decides to drink tea successively by means of competition. One person asks which book and which volume an allusion comes from, and the other person drinks it first in the answer, but the winner is often too happy, and instead spills the tea all over. "Gambling on books and splashing tea" has thus become an allusion to the chorus of harps and harps between husband and wife.

　　This allusion has also been used by Nalan Rong Ruo, a great poet of later generations and an equally infatuated poet of the Qing Dynasty, and he wrote, "Sleeping heavily after drinking, gambling books have spilled tea. At that time, only Tao was unusual.

　　Even at that time, Zhao Mingcheng failed to avoid custom, did not continue the incense and took a concubine, but only Li Qingzhao was able to talk with him about playing with stone calligraphy and painting. Even if Li Qingzhao man of great talent wrote "The curtain rolls west wind, people are thinner than yellow flowers", Li Mingcheng locked himself up and wrote 50 poems, trying to compete with his wife. They are happy to be each other's tasters, critics and peers, immersed in it and full of happiness.

　　This mutually nourishing marriage is the best support for their career.

　　When Zhao Mingcheng died suddenly, Li Qingzhao's peaceful world collapsed. She lived tenaciously, but also to protect her husband's stone calligraphy and painting, and to recall the time when they grew up together.

　　In this life, women are so happy to meet a man who gives them growth value.

　　If it weren't for him, I might have lived in a fog all my life, lost in the chicken feathers of life, and couldn't see the farther sky and the more beautiful world.

　　If it weren't for him, they wouldn't see their own potential, let alone dare to challenge themselves to be better.

　　And a man who is really kind to a woman, like Bole and Maxima, achieves each other.

　　03

　　Give material value.

　　As the old saying goes, "but not as those know it who have been poor together." When marriage encounters a chicken feather in real life, it is absolutely impossible to live by "you Nong me Nong".

　　A solid economic foundation is the key to a truly long-lasting marriage.

　　When a woman who used to be "out of touch" began to bargain in the vegetable market and lingered in front of the discount area, the person who once loved it must have a feeling of heartache and helplessness.

　　Just like in the youth idol drama "Carry Love to the End" many years ago, a female university teacher was a goddess in a boy's heart. However, this goddess was not happy in marriage, and her husband obviously pushed the whole responsibility of supporting the family to her. She used to spit pearls and jade on the podium, just like a fairy, and fell into the mire of life, full of fatigue.

　　Of course, this boy, who has just graduated, has not found a satisfactory job. He is also embarrassed. He has seen her in the same predicament several times, buying vegetables and clothes at a discount.

　　However, when he passed her door again, he saw the green floral dress that she used to wear and was most suitable for her. Hanging on the clothes rack, the dress swayed with the wind, still so smart and ethereal. This scene made the boy who had always admired her stop for a long time.

　　The most direct expression of a man's love for a woman, perhaps, is to make the beloved woman have enough to eat and drink.

　　However, when a man is no longer willing to devote himself to it, but is willing to push his beloved woman to the front desk of life and enjoy everything she brings with a clear conscience without any guilt or change, even a strong woman will not be able to hold on.

　　A truly happy marriage is a "partnership sale" between two people. At the very least, it is necessary to share risks and interests. What is more expected is that a man can always "cover the sky with one hand" and leave the most stressful and challenging tasks to himself and the relaxation and pleasure to his wife and children.

　　How much money you make is obvious to all; Constantly improve the ability to make money, and give every penny to your wife, so that such a family will flourish.

　　04

　　Conclusion:

　　Whether a family is happy or not depends, to a greater extent, on whether a man makes a difference and is willing to work hard for the family. Women will also do their best to water the flowers of family happiness and beauty with love.

　　Author: as light as the wind, as light as the clouds.

　　Your happiness, my blessing.

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