How to live in harmony with a 10-year-old boy？

　　I haven't been very happy with my son since the summer vacation.

　　Once on the street in Japan, I repeatedly warned Elvin, please stop dragging me, I am really tired. At that time, two hands were pushing a stroller and carrying a big bag. The weather was very hot and I was in a hurry to get back to the hotel. Elvin wouldn't listen. He held my hand tightly until I stood still and tried to get angry. He ran off.

　　It's annoying. Why are you so like a boy who likes to mess with me in fifth grade? I'm so angry that you can't catch up with him.

　　Xiao Chen followed him from the side. I told him: I'm too tired. I gave birth to two children, and neither of them listened to me. Otherwise, let's leave. You can have both of them. You can take them away and I will visit them regularly.

　　He looked at me inexplicably and questioned: they don't listen to you, not that I don't listen to you. Why do you want to divorce me?

　　Maybe it's because I want to root out the problem from the source?

　　I thought things would be better when I came back, unlike four people who were always tied to a rope during the trip. The problem is that Elvin didn't enroll in any summer classes. He has nothing to do at home and wants to find something for you.

　　His favorite thing to do is to suddenly come around behind you and shout loudly in your ear. You bounce out of control. For him, it's like eating a candy, which is very satisfying. When you try to catch up with him, he can slip as fast as a cockroach in the south and can't hit him at all.

　　Elvin came to me the other night and told me that he was peeling in the sun. I rummaged around the house looking for a sun-cured one, and finally found one. I dug up a big lump and planned to paint it on his whole face. After seeing it, he jumped around the room like a frightened monkey. I chased him around for a long time. I chased him, but I couldn't catch it. Give up. What should I do with the sun-cured one?

　　At this time, I could feel myself on the verge of explosion, and I was really angry because of incompetence. How can I be angry if I can easily catch up with him and press him?

　　For example, my sister will be just like my brother. After taking a shower, you should grab her to get dressed, and she will run out and let you chase her twice. But she is less than three years old. No matter how fast she runs, she can easily catch up with you. You can definitely watch her running around with a smile. You run, you jump, you run, aren't you in my Wuzhishan?

　　If it is not a stage, she is very cute.

　　Elvin can't. I really can't catch it. Not only can I't catch it, but I'm a little scared. One is like a kitten, which can be touched and hugged, and the other is like a wild monkey, which is a little cute in the distance. You said you were afraid?

　　I began to have a kind of sadness for myself when I was old. I lost the calmness of the strong, so I could only retaliate and shouted: Then wait for your face to rot.

　　After a while, he came smiling. I walked through the primary school classroom again, as if I saw the boy sitting in the last row who had bad grades and was very naughty, and he looked exactly the same. You think that being dragged by him at the age of ten and throwing a note is the last intersection of your life and this kind of boy. Unexpectedly, more than 20 years later, an identical monkey was born.

　　Recently, the thyroid gland is not good, and I began to actively adjust my mental state, and I am emotionally stable. I must be emotionally stable.

　　I completely changed my attitude towards Elvin.

　　Don't be angry, it's useless to be angry first, and it'll kill you second. Nodules first, then benign, all the way down, well, malignant.

　　I asked Elvin to drink water, but he didn't drink it, or just took a sip. So what happened? It doesn't matter if he is thirsty, my health is a big event!

　　Let him brush his teeth instead of brushing, so what's the matter? His rotten teeth are his pain, but my physical injury is irreversible.

　　Let him read books instead of reading them. He can't pass the exam and pick up garbage. I can't even see him picking up garbage when I fall down.

　　In short, after taking the report, I will focus on a Buddhist operation. When you are not persistent, you find that children can actually drink water, eat and brush their teeth by themselves.

　　They don't need a thousand reminders, they are just enjoying disobeying orders.

　　One thing that surprises me is that children who are usually like wild monkeys at home go to other people's homes, but they are gentle and polite. When Elvin was in Zhufu Island, a family of friends came to meet us. Two boys in his family decided that night that Elvin would sleep in the living room.

　　Chen Dou Jr. and I are a little worried. Did he brush his teeth before going to bed? Did he steal a lot of chocolates? Will he jump up and down in other people's rooms and make a scene? Oh, it's too much trouble for friends ...

　　Unexpectedly, the next day, my friend said: Your family's Elvin is really good. He said that he was the first to brush his teeth and that he was the first to get ready for breakfast ... My family is really slow.

　　Unbelievable, I slowly wrote a prescription to my friend: Why don't you put your child in our room?

　　A child who is wild at home becomes a child of another family when he goes to another family.

　　Although you don't understand, why can't he be what he seems, and why do you have to let his biological parents die?

　　On another occasion, two female kindergarten students of Ai Wen came to play at home and had dinner together in the evening. I spoke to my female classmate's mother. The boy is really annoying. He always scares you and touches you from time to time ...

　　Female classmate's mother said: Men are like this, and so is my father. When he comes back from work, he will ask Doby to see his daughter.

　　What? !

　　Another lesbian said: Yes, my dad blindfolds me every time he sees me. It's so annoying.

　　At this time, the female classmate's father came. He came from a distance, which was quite normal. He approached as if his hands and feet were all at sea, and his hands were covered with Elvin, who was eating spaghetti ...

　　I was surprised by everything in front of me and couldn't help interviewing the female classmate sitting next to me: Do you hate playing with boys like Elvin?

　　The little girl smiled tolerantly and said that at least he was just a little boy.

　　This sentence is meaningful. The little boy is still a little cute. When he is older, he will ...

　　For an instant, my head was struck by an electric current. Although Elvin is a little annoying now, this is his cutest year, and he will only hate it more than now ...

　　With this understanding, I began to treat all kinds of annoying things of Elvin coldly.

　　Play a joke on him when you are in a good mood.

　　When you are in a general mood and you are about to get angry, you should avoid, hide and walk until the positive energy fills your body again.

　　My life matters. As for the boy, this is his biological characteristic.

　　Give him your life, and he won't change it.

　　Change yourself.

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