When people are over 30 and their brothers and sisters get married one by one, you will see through these three ＂truths of life＂

　　A friend asked me a little sadly, "Why do brothers and sisters who lived together in the most expensive house in the world become estranged one day?"

　　I was silent for a moment, and suddenly remembered the big boy who disappeared in the long river of years. At that time, he was sheltered by his brother and lived as carefree as a child all day.

　　He has told us more than once that the most fulfilling thing in his life is that he has a brother who covers everything.

　　But now they are no longer brothers who care for each other, but have become migrant workers who work hard in different cities.

　　Due to the pressure of life and work, it will take several years for them to meet each other once, and occasionally calling is just a simple greeting, and there is no common language anymore.

　　Once we thought that blood is thicker than water, the kinship of flesh and blood is endless, and we will be the closest people no matter when and where.

　　It was not until we were over 30 years old that we all had our own families that we slowly realized the following three truths about life.

　　Relatives will really slowly become relatives.

　　When we were children, we were the closest relatives in the world. We had the same parents, family, childhood and growing environment.

　　Parents tell us that brothers and sisters are the closest relatives in the world, and we can rely on each other in the long years to come.

　　We used to fight, love each other and rely on each other.

　　It was not until we each had our own families that the trajectory of life slowly changed and the mode of getting along gradually changed silently.

　　We no longer regard each other as the most important person in life, because we have our own families and children. We can't stick together like before, regardless of you and me, because now we are two completely different families.

　　We can still maintain close contact and friendly feelings when we are close and often walk around, but nothing can go back to the past.

　　We can't be desperate for each other as before, because we all have family ties.

　　Relatives will really become relatives, and this transformation has been completed in silence.

　　The unscrupulous relationship in the past will one day become cautious.

　　At one time, we enjoyed the beautiful years unscrupulously, and said whatever we thought in our hearts, even if we did something we didn't like each other, we wouldn't take it to heart.

　　At that time, we had money to spend and something to share. We are not only blood relatives, but also playmates who grew up together.

　　After having our own families, we can no longer be as unscrupulous as before, and we should think twice before saying a word, for fear of offending the other half, thus causing unnecessary family conflicts.

　　We hope each other can live a happy life and enjoy a warm and loving family, so we will think twice before doing anything.

　　We also have different attitudes about money.

　　At one time, we did have a stage of being apart from each other, but now we have become members of two different families.

　　Under such circumstances, our economic exchanges will become another way. In the past, taking money at will has become borrowing money.

　　With regard to the mode of getting along, we have also changed to some extent.

　　Once we could stay up in the middle of the night, chat and drink with each other, and even talk for an hour or two without scruple on the phone.

　　Nowadays, we all take care of each other's families, so we are no longer as free and easy as before before doing anything.

　　We began to be cautious, and it is this kind of caution that makes the distance between us become farther and farther.

　　Economic conditions can really affect brotherhood.

　　Perhaps many people have never thought that there is an inevitable connection between economic conditions and brotherhood, but we have to admit this when we have experienced many things.

　　First, the impact of poor economic conditions

　　With poor economic conditions, the relationship between brothers and sisters tends to be polarized.

　　(1), mutual aid under economic poverty.

　　In the environment of economic poverty, brotherhood often shows mutual support and assistance.

　　Economic difficulties have stimulated the strength of family ties, and brothers and sisters support each other and tide over the difficulties together.

　　The bond of family ties has become closer in a poor environment, and poor economic conditions have not shaken the foundation of brotherhood.

　　(2) Stress and tension caused by economic difficulties

　　However, poor economic conditions can easily bring stress and tension to brotherhood.

　　In a life-threatening environment, conflicts and competitions may arise between brothers and sisters because of the struggle for material resources.

　　The tension caused by economic difficulties may lead to the breakdown or even deterioration of family ties.

　　Second, the impact of good economic conditions

　　In the case of good economic conditions, the feelings of brothers and sisters will also have both positive and negative effects.

　　(1), the influence of the improvement of material conditions

　　In a good economic environment, brotherhood may be more harmonious and intimate because of the improvement of material conditions.

　　The improvement of living standards will make the communication between brothers and sisters more relaxed and happy, and the family relationship will be strengthened.

　　(2) Extreme pull under economic prosperity

　　When one side is rich and the other side is poor, there may be a phenomenon that one side has no bottom line to help the other side and the other side takes it for granted.

　　If the dark side of human nature is touched, there may still be jealousy between brothers and sisters.

　　By that time, the kinship will be completely stale.

　　As Forrest Gump said, "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get."

　　Similarly, the relationship between brothers and sisters is like a box of chocolates, and you never know what your future will be like.

　　We cherish the kinship of flesh and blood and yearn for a happy family, but some things are hard for us to change.

　　Understand the above three truths about life, and look at the normality of life with an accepting and rational attitude, so that our relationship with brothers and sisters can be better handled.