No matter how good the relationship is, if you don't contact for more than three months, you will become strange.

　　(Author He Suhuan: Focus on the psychological analysis of gender feelings, marriage and family, self-growth personality, etc., pay attention to me and bring you more knowledge. )

　　In the relationship, there is a cruel fact:

　　In social interaction, all friendships will fade away until they finally disappear.

　　Most friendships don't "last forever".

　　At different stages of your life, different friends will appear.

　　They play different roles.

　　When I was a child, I was your partner who shared toys.

　　Childhood is your friend who shares food and accompanies you;

　　Adolescence is a friend who carries each other's secrets;

　　As an adult, it becomes listening to you and helping your friends.

　　But the older you get, the faster your friendship will dissipate.

　　-01

　　If you don't contact for more than 3 months, the relationship will be weak.

　　Presumably many people have had this experience:

　　Send a message to a friend I haven't seen for a long time. I want to talk about the recent situation and share my feelings and life.

　　But when I opened the chat dialog box, I saw that the last time you chatted, it was still a few months ago;

　　At that moment, you hesitated.

　　Do you want to send a message or not?

　　What if the message is sent out and the other party doesn't reply?

　　So, you deleted a long paragraph of edited text and deleted your chat dialog box.

　　In fact, your friendship has not "broken";

　　It's just that as time goes by, I don't contact for a long time, and then it gradually fades.

　　I can't feel anything if I don't contact for 1 day;

　　I can accept it if I don't contact for one week;

　　If you don't contact each other for one month, you feel that your relationship with each other is much lighter;

　　If you don't contact for 3 months, you can't even remember each other, and you don't know how to contact actively.

　　No matter friendship or love, after more than 3 months of no contact and no meeting, feelings will go downhill rapidly.

　　It's not enough for long-distance lovers to chat every day and fall in love with each other through the screen.

　　No matter how good the friendship is, it is inevitable that friendship will disappear without contact, meeting and intersection.

　　-02

　　When you grow up, your friends will "drift away"

　　1, the demand is different

　　Different age groups and identities have different needs for friendship and social interaction.

　　Before the age of 25, most people are "emotionally social".

　　Get along with whoever is comfortable with;

　　Be friends with anyone you can talk to;

　　If the other person is willing to listen to you, understand you and be kind to you, you will become friends with him.

　　After the age of 25, it became "utilitarian socialization".

　　Everything is based on interests, considering how to maximize the value satisfaction.

　　What can he bring you?

　　What is your relationship besides friendship?

　　2. The isolation between distance and time will break up feelings.

　　It takes time to become friends with each other.

　　Get along for a long time, and you will soon become friends;

　　And in the process of getting along, the more you share, the more you expose yourself.

　　You know each other and take the initiative to participate in each other's lives.

　　In terms of distance, you also have "spatial proximity".

　　I don't live too far away. If I want to meet you, a phone call will come out.

　　The decline of friendship also begins with time and distance.

　　For example:

　　One stays in his hometown to develop, and the other goes to other places to work hard;

　　I don't see many people all the year round, and I often chat at first, but I don't see them anymore, and my mind for chatting is gone.

　　We are both busy with our lives, careers and families.

　　Over time, your relationship will never go back to the past.

　　3. The breakup of friendship is related to imbalance and betrayal.

　　Imbalance in the relationship:

　　You pay a lot for him, but he pays very little for you;

　　What good things happen, you will think of each other, and he always "eats alone";

　　He was in trouble and asked for your help at the first time;

　　You have a problem. He runs faster than anyone else.

　　The more unbalanced the degree of giving and taking, the faster the friendship will dissipate.

　　Betrayal of a friend:

　　When friends get along, there is also betrayal?

　　It's natural.

　　For example:

　　You agreed to do a lot of things together;

　　But in the end, only you do it yourself, and the other party reneges.

　　All along, you think you are each other's best friend;

　　Until one day, you find that your friend's attitude towards another person is better than yours.

　　Betraying friendship is not only standing up, but also jealousy.

　　If you don't contact for a while, the relationship will be weak;

　　If you walk, you will be separated from your friends.

　　We will have a new life, a new career, a new circle and a new goal.

　　Any relationship will end one day;

　　The only thing we can do is to accept.

　　Topic:

　　Are there many friends who "keep in touch" with you?