Love big data

　　Dr. John gotman, the "Pope of Marriage", made a 40-year research and got the psychological report of Seattle Love Lab. Share the love big data mentioned in Happy Marriage: 1. After observing a couple's communication style, John gotman's love lab can predict a couple's marital status in the next four years in only five minutes, with an accuracy rate of 91%. 2. Compared with men who resist the influence of their wives, men who accept the influence of their spouses have happier marriages and are less likely to divorce. When a man is unwilling to share power with his wife, the probability of his marriage breaking up is 81%. The divorce rate of second marriage is 10% higher than that of first marriage. This makes all married couples, including those who are satisfied with their marriage at present, know that they need to work harder to keep their marriage stable. 4. The probability of suffering from an unhappy marriage is increased by about 35%, and the average life expectancy is shortened by 4 years. If fitness enthusiasts spare 10% of their fitness time every week to exercise their marriage instead of their bodies, they will get three times the health benefits as running on the treadmill! 6. The "Four Horsemen of Doomsday" who caused fatal harm to marriage: criticism, contempt, defense and the Cold War. 7. In 85% of marriages, husbands are cold war fighters, not because men are missing some parts, but because of our evolutionary heritage.