Mo Yan： Don't chat with the opposite sex if you have nothing to do. No one will be kind to you for no reason. Everything will take care of you. Occasionally talking about being friends is ambiguous.

　　Mo Yan: "Don't chat with the opposite sex if you have nothing to do. No one will be kind to you for no reason. Everything will take care of you. Occasionally talking about being friends is ambiguous. Not knowing how to refuse is to dig a hole for yourself and give others a chance. Don't pretend to be confused with understanding. Adults don't pretend not to know what the other person wants. Self-discipline is more important. When people reach middle age, they will accept your poverty and generosity. Give up being a "good person" to become a better person. Don't be forced to ask for help from others. People who push their luck don't have to get used to it. People who hurt you don't have to be generous. Only being strong is king. "

　　The world is full of knowledge, and the cultivation of human feelings is an article. Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and where there are rivers and lakes, there will be disputes.

　　In this complicated society, your goodness is like a candy to others. If you eat it, it will be gone. Your bad is like a scar to others. If you stay, it will last forever. This is human nature.

　　Cats don't eat fishy fish, women love you and are afraid of poor trials, men don't cheat and are afraid of beautiful women, bosses like you and are afraid of talking about conditional trials, and local friends are afraid of borrowing money to try. Rich and stingy, poor and generous. A try of humanity is the end of the play.

　　Ren Zhengfei has been saying for more than 20 years that "the greatest selfishness is selflessness".

　　Everyone has private interests, and everyone has greed, especially the people with strong life tension and strong hunger.

　　Ren Zhengfei once said: "What I want is success. My face is empty. I can't eat it as a meal. My face is for dogs."

　　Hu Houkun, vice chairman of Huawei, waited in the corridor of Baise Post Office in Guangxi for two whole days before he had a chance to visit.

　　Li Jian, president of Huawei's West Africa region, waited for more than three hours at the president's door to make products in Nigeria, but he was not allowed in. Finally, he was stuck in the toilet door and barely met.

　　Wei Chengmin, president of Huawei's South Pacific region, worked as an after-sales engineer in Henan. He once spent three days and three nights with his colleagues in the snowy countryside, taking buses and walking tractors, and repairing switches for customers in mines and villages at night. When he was hungry, he ate at farmers' homes, and when he was sleepy, he slept in the computer room, which earned him word of mouth.

　　In this way, generations of Huawei people rely on "shameless" to reach the peak. Now, losing face, comfort and fear of failure have become the corporate culture of Huawei as a whole, making it the most advanced and representative high-tech enterprise in China.

　　As Ren Zhengfei said: "Shameless, you can make progress."

　　In fact, it is not terrible to be poor, but to be poor and generous. I am afraid that the poorer I am, the more I care about my face. The poorer I am, the more I care about my self-esteem. The poorer I am, the more I want others to feel that I am doing well.

　　And forget: if you want to live, you must make money first. If you want to make money, you must first put down your face.

　　Life is like a feast. In the first half of our life, we always give our time and energy generously, just like a burning candle, burning at both ends.

　　However, in the second half of life, we need to change our attitude and put away our generosity. Give up being a "good person" to become a better person.

　　Writer Li Xiaoyi said: "What we should always do is lift a finger, not lift it on tiptoe."

　　Don't be afraid to refuse others, and you don't have to pander to others. Pay needs to be moderate. Moderate efforts can illuminate others, but excessive efforts may become their own burden.

　　We don't have to sacrifice ourselves to please others, and we don't have to ignore ourselves to satisfy others.

　　Give generously because there are rich substances in the bag, so you can give generously. When helping others, you must do what you can, not bite off more than you can chew.

　　When others ask you for help, if you feel powerless, then help yourself first, and then refuse decisively.

　　For those who are ungrateful and mercenary, no matter whether the conditions allow or not, they are determined not to help.

　　Because, not everyone deserves your generosity.

　　This has nothing to do with kindness, it is the principle and bottom line of being a man.

　　German writer Nell Cressince said in his speech: "Kindness given to the wrong person will become a burden. The more you give, the greater the burden."

　　When I was young, who didn't hold a sincere heart and hope to get true feelings?

　　Until after the black and blue, just understand:

　　Adult relationships, not all of which can be exchanged for gratitude.

　　There are many kinds of life, and human feelings are warm and cold. There is no kind of harm in the background.

　　Forgiveness is not a necessity in life. Stop loss in time to avoid being hurt again.

　　Zhang Defen, a psychologist, once said, "Individuals are often devouring each other. If we are not hard enough and have no rigidity, we will easily be "swallowed up" by others. "

　　People should know when they reach a certain age:

　　Let go of unnecessary things and put away your weak mentality. Learn to set your own boundaries, not only for those who are used to the bottom line, but also for those who are pleased with principles.

　　Being a person who is dedicated to self-strength, kind-hearted but has thorns on his body is the necessary maturity and consciousness for a person to become strong.

　　Because:

　　The upward passage is bound to be difficult, but the downward door is always open. If you don't work hard and be strong, life will slap you at any time and make you cry in despair.

　　After studying right and wrong for more than 20 years, the reality is still only about winning or losing. The law of the jungle is the truth of this society.

　　Any successful person will have a better tomorrow only by surviving the immediate hardship, withstanding the critical attack of life, transforming in pain, crossing the stormy night, being steady and quick, and living out the lining.

　　Years are always young, and we are getting old.

　　In the long rest of my life, I hope that we can constantly improve ourselves, look like live high, and live a more complete life.