＂Do you have the heart？＂ A 56-year-old mother washes dishes for her brother's family of four. Daughter： No matter how hard it is to sell, there is no money.

　　Socrates famously said:

　　Whether it is a man or a woman, finding the wrong person is the most terrible thing. For a man, if he marries a virtuous man, if he marries a brother-helper, it will really be restless at home.

　　When it comes to helping the younger brother, we have to mention the idea of son preference. A woman will become a brother-helper, which is directly related to the eccentricity of her parents.

　　Psychotherapist Satya said:

　　Being born in a son preference family is God's cruelty to a girl. There are only two ways for such a girl to go, either to become a brother-helper and an ATM in family of origin, or to be as hard-hearted as iron, live their own lives and ignore their heartless parents.

　　And if a man marries the first woman, he can't have a good life. Therefore, when a man marries a wife, if he meets a girl whose parents prefer boys to girls, he must know what women think, and only a woman who dares to fight family of origin can marry.

　　And if a girl wants to be happy, she must be the second kind of woman. Otherwise, you become a victim of family of origin, and no one sympathizes with you while making a wedding dress for others.

　　When it comes to helping the younger brother, Feng Wen is angry: "Isn't my mother selling me badly just to force me to become a helping brother?" Sorry, it's not right to help my brother, I want to be a qualified mother. "

　　01. At work, I received a video from my mother that she washed dishes.

　　During the lunch break, my colleague Feng Wen knocked for a while, and then suddenly cried, which attracted everyone's attention.

　　With our concern, Feng Wen stopped her tears and showed us the chat record between her and her mother.

　　The first is a video, which was sent by Feng Wen's mother. In the video, 56-year-old Feng Wen's mother stood by the pool, wearing overalls, and the plates next to her were piled high. Others walked by, took away the plates and added new dirty plates.

　　Then there was a passage from Feng Wen's mother. "I am 56 years old, I have worked hard for most of my life, and I have to go to work for others, all because of your unfilial daughter. Can you bear to see your mother suffer so much? "

　　Finally, it is the chat record of their mother and daughter. One scolds her daughter for being unfilial and without her sister's appearance, and is unkind to her younger brother and nephew from ruin. The other scolds her mother for being a mother, spoiling her son and trying to ruin her marriage.

　　As a colleague who has been together for two years, we all know what kind of family of origin Feng Wen has. It is God's greatest injustice to Feng Wen to prefer sons to daughters.

　　Feng Wen has a younger brother, two years younger than her, who is already the father of two children. However, when he mentions his younger brother, Feng Wen gets angry, and when he mentions his mother, Feng Wen is sad.

　　02. My brother doesn't have a good job and can't support a family of four, which has nothing to do with my husband and me?

　　Feng Wen's younger brother got an average score in the college entrance examination and only attended one or three universities. Instead of blaming his son for not studying hard, his parents blamed Feng Wen for all the reasons.

　　"Girls can't finish junior high school at most, so they go out to make money to raise their younger brother. We want you to continue reading, just to let you learn more, so that you can tutor your younger brother and improve his grades. If the students don't do well in the exam, they blame the teacher for not teaching well. If your brother doesn't do well in the exam, it's your responsibility as a sister. "

　　My brother studied for three days, fished for two days and dried his net. What can Feng Wen do? However, her parents didn't listen to her explanation at all, and they still blamed her for all the reasons, and even forced Feng Wen to take charge of her brother's life on this ground.

　　"It's all your fault that you don't teach your brother well, so that he can't find a good job. He has no money to marry a daughter-in-law. Do you still want to take away the bride price money? There is no door. "

　　"Your brother can't make a lot of money, how to buy a house? How much money do you have for the bride price? Leave me all your savings, or you won't get out of this house. "

　　After Feng Wen got married, she thought she was relieved and could no longer endure the exploitation of her parents. However, she thought so beautifully. Mom not only wants to continue to squeeze her, but also wants to calculate with her son-in-law

　　"My mother said that my husband's income is high, his parents-in-law are working, he has a pension, and the pressure is very small. It is not difficult to help his brother-in-law. It's funny, no matter how much money my husband earns, it has nothing to do with your son. "

　　"Never let my mother ruin my marriage." Feng Wen made up her mind. As soon as her mother called her son-in-law for money, Feng Wen went back. When her mother came to make trouble, Feng Wen directly called someone to get rid of her, and then cut off her alimony for two months as a warning. However, her counterattack still didn't let mom give up her idea.

　　03. I have no money even if I sell badly. As a mother, I have to ensure the quality of life of my children.

　　The 56-year-old mother washed dishes for her younger brother's family of four and sent a video to her daughter. In fact, she was stimulating Feng Wen, trying to arouse her daughter's "guilt" by selling badly to achieve her goal.

　　"Some time ago, my husband checked the savings at home and told me excitedly that my parents-in-law had promised to help, and we were ready to change to a bigger house. As it happens, Erbao is gradually growing up, and it is almost time to sleep in separate rooms. The house at home is very small, and it is inconvenient to live with more children. "

　　Unexpectedly, my husband was so happy that he leaked the news and let Feng Wen's mother know. Then, Feng Wen's mother called and denounced her daughter for being cold-blooded: "Your brother's family of four is crowded in a small house of 60 square meters, and you still have the face to buy a big house. If you want to change a house, your brother should change it first. Your brother and I are worried about our children going to school in the future! As a daughter, shouldn't you share your worries for your mother? "

　　"Reduce their children's quality of life, to subsidize my brother's family of four, do you think I'm stupid? Do you believe that if I really do this, your son-in-law will kick me out of the house? "

　　Feng Wen hangs up the phone and asks her husband to continue to prepare for buying a house. If her mother-in-law calls, she will be blacked out directly. However, Feng Wen still felt very sad to see her mother threatening herself by selling badly.

　　"How can I stand on such a mother? Since she is unkind, don't blame me for being heartless. I have a baby to raise and no spare money to raise my brother. His children can't go to a good school, but he is useless as a father, which has nothing to do with me. "

　　04. If you are soft-hearted towards your heartless parents, it will be over.

　　Psychologist Freud said: In any relationship, we should dare to defend our borders with anger. People without anger are just like a country without arms.

　　If you are soft-hearted towards your heartless parents, it will be over. Whether they kidnap you morally, whether they want to live or die, or whether they want to sell their misery and cry for poverty, they all want to make you feel guilty, satisfy their desires and give them whatever they want. The question is, when they gave birth to you, does it mean that you need to give him everything he wants?

　　As children, we have no obligation to give everything to our parents. We are human beings, people who have their own needs, not ATMs. My parents raised me, and it is our duty to support them. As for my brothers and sisters, they have hands and feet. If they starve to death, they can only blame themselves for their incompetence, which has nothing to do with you.

　　Louise Hay, the author of Rebuilding the Heart, once said, "If you think that family of origin is your destiny, you will lose. Because only oneself can find the outlet of all problems, and only oneself is the one who can rewrite fate. "

　　It is not worthy of sympathy to be a woman who helps her brother. It is your weakness and lack of bottom line that have harmed yourself, and you can't blame others.

　　Today's topic: Do you think Brother Fu deserves sympathy? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.