Daughter： Dementia old mothers take turns living in their children's homes, but behind them are their children's intrigues.

　　Wang Xi is my high school classmate and teaches in a junior high school. The thought of all the calculations and struggles made by the five brothers and sisters in order to take turns to take care of their mother in the past two years chilled her heart! Listen to what Wang Qian said: My mother is 85 years old. She has raised our five brothers and sisters all her life. Except for my second brother and sister who are still working in the countryside, my eldest brother and sister are both working in the city. In the eyes of rural people, we are also people who eat rural food. My father was a rural primary school teacher and left us three years ago. At that time, my father was seriously ill in bed, and my mother kept running back and forth to wait on my father. If we have time at the weekend, we can go back and have a look. At that time, we really didn't realize how hard it was to serve the elderly! Mom and dad have always been very patriarchal. Most of the money saved by my father's retirement salary and state subsidies after my father's absence was given to my eldest brother and my second brother, but we three sisters didn't get a penny. In this regard, my sister and sister have great opinions and think that my mother should also give us a little bit.

　　But the mother has always adhered to her own principle: the water spilled by the married daughter is already an outsider's. The money left by the father can only be distributed to two sons, not to three daughters. I also had some opinions at that time. I think it's unfair for us three sisters to do my mother's thing! Slowly relieved! The year after my father left, my mother lived at home alone. It was not until a Saturday two years ago that I went back to visit my mother that I found that my mother was different from usual. I always felt something was wrong. I drove my mother to the hospital for examination. After the examination, the doctor told her mother that she had Alzheimer's disease and could no longer live alone. I was shocked to hear the news! Mom's pension problem is in front of me. What should I do? Without saying anything, I quickly called my two brothers and sisters and agreed to let them come back the next day to discuss the mother's pension.

　　The next day, our brothers and sisters got together to discuss mother's affairs. The eldest brother said, "My second brother lives in the village, so let my mother live in your house, and you and your sister-in-law will wait on him. The four of us will give you 500 yuan every month. What do you think? Mom also gave you some of dad's money, and it is also appropriate to live in your home. " As soon as my brother's voice fell, my second brother said unhappily, "Brother, what idea did you come up with? Didn't mom give you money? You take mom to your house, and I'll pay. " You pay 500 yuan a month. You are smart. You put the burden on me. I don't agree with your plan. Seeing that the second brother didn't agree with his plan, the big brother could do nothing. He asked our three sisters to express their opinions and come up with a plan. My sister said, "Brother, most of the money left by my father was given to you and my second brother by my mother. The three of us have no share. Since you have got the property, you and your second brother will take turns to raise it!" We three sisters will go and have a look when we are free! " Big brother got angry when his sister said this. He pointed to his sister's nose and said, "Third sister, I didn't expect you to say such a heartless thing. Didn't your parents raise you?" Mom can distribute money and love to people she likes, and she has the power. " Right. "Although she didn't give you money, you also have the responsibility and obligation to support her. Don't you understand? "The second brother is also eager to say, the third sister said the plan is not good. We can't put all my mother's pension on him and my brother. After listening to her brother's words, my sister stopped talking angrily. My brother pointed at me: "Fourth sister, tell me."

　　Seeing them arguing about it for a long time, I said directly, "Then let the five of us take turns to raise it!" No one needs to give money to anyone. Every year, from the eldest brother, from the old to the young, each person manages for two months. This is ten months. Let's discuss the remaining two months and see how to allocate them? " After listening to my words, eldest brother nodded and said, "Generally speaking, this plan is ok, but it is not reasonable to go from the boss to the next round every year." In the first year, the next round will start from the biggest to the next round. " The smallest, the next year in order from small to large, it is reasonable to take turns. I said, "That's good." Little sister said, "What about the next two months?" Sister said: "The next two months will be 60 days, and each family will be managed for another 12 days, and the year will be over." I said, "that's it for the next two months, that is, tossing my mother. Why not let them take care of them for three months this year and let the other two take care of them for three months next year?" Next year, let the one who didn't take care of it be three months? "Three months, so the next round, my mother won't be. "The second brother said," You said this plan is not good. If my mother won't live until next year, then the first three months are not too much. If you manage it for one month, you will suffer. " Brother chimed in. The final agreed plan is: first, each person will manage for two months, and then each person will manage for 12 days in the next two months. In a blink of an eye, five of us have taken turns to take care of our mother for two years.

　　When it was my turn to take over my old family, my mother was always dirty and my clothes were dirty. I have to give her a hot bath first, and then wash her clothes. I always keep her clean. Because I have to go to work, I can't take care of my mother during the day on weekdays. I hired a nanny to cook for her during the day and take care of her at night. Every time it is my mother's turn to go to another house, I often buy my mother's favorite food and milk to visit her. But they have never visited their mother in another house. As long as their mother left their home, they felt that everything was fine and finally left their home. Think about how hard it is for my mother to raise five children in her life! But when I'm old, my son and daughter take turns to take care of her, and I'm afraid I'll suffer if I take care of her for one day. The calculation is better than the other! It makes people shudder to think about it! Wang Qian is still very filial to her mother, so she can only do her best. As for how other brothers and sisters treat their mother, she has no choice.