The old man sent a WeChat by mistake, and his daughter didn't recognize her mother： The deposit is only for my younger brother. Why should I support the elderly？

　　The palm of your hand and the back of your hand are all meat, and parents want a bowl of water to be flat. These two sentences have been emphasized countless times, and the slogan of equality between men and women has also been called for countless times. However, many parents' eccentricity is engraved into the bone marrow, and they simply don't realize their mistakes and can't be fair at all.

　　In fact, there is no absolute fairness in this world. People's hearts are full of flesh. After encountering something, it is difficult to avoid the interference of personal factors and produce deviation. In a family with many children, it is normal for parents to favor one of them.

　　In the TV series "Know No", Mother Kong, who lives fully, once said:

　　"In a family with many children, parents need a bowl of water to be flat, so that the house can be quiet."

　　Even if you can't be absolutely fair, please try to make a bowl of water as flat as possible, and don't be too eccentric. Once parents are too eccentric, it will hurt not only the child you ignore, but also yourself.

　　Some time ago, 72-year-old Aunt Lu suddenly moved back to her hometown, which surprised her neighbors. Eight years ago, when Aunt Lu was taken away by her daughter for retirement, all the parents around her felt envious.

　　When my mother asked Aunt Lu why she moved back, Aunt Lu cried, "What an unfilial girl! Didn't I just give her brother some money? She actually kicked me out of the house and said that she would never recognize me as a mother again. "

　　Then, Aunt Lu told us about her "experience".

　　For the convenience of narration and reading, I will tell Aunt Lu's experience in the first person.

　　01. For a long time, I don't feel that I treat my two children differently;

　　I have heard these words from my daughter. In my opinion, she is just unsatisfied, too small-minded, and she has to be jealous with her younger brother when she is old, so she doesn't look like a sister.

　　Forty-eight years ago, I gave birth to my daughter. Six years later, I gave birth to my son and became a man with both children.

　　My daughter thinks I'm partial, mainly because of three points.

　　First, she felt that I didn't care enough about her and asked her to be independent when she was very young. When her brother was born, she was six years old and was in kindergarten. Isn't it normal for me to ask her to dress herself, finish her homework and walk to school by herself? The girl next door is the same age as her, and she knows how to help her parents sweep the floor and wash clothes! As for homework, learning is my own task. Besides, I haven't studied for a few years and I can't help them at all. As a sister, I asked her to tutor my brother, which is even more correct.

　　Second, she thinks I'm biased in money. When she was in college, her father-in-law fell ill and spent a lot of money to go out, so the family's economy was stretched. At that time, her brother was going to junior high school, and he needed more money to go to senior high school in the future. Is it wrong for me to ask her to do a summer job to save tuition and living expenses? She is eighteen years old, so I have no obligation to pay for her education.

　　When his daughter got married, the man gave a bride price of 180 thousand. Although I promised to marry 100,000 yuan back, I thought that my 20-year-old son was going to marry and have children, so I cheated them and only gave him 10,000 yuan.

　　In fact, I am sure of doing so. My daughter has his baby in her belly, and they won't turn against each other for it. As I expected, after the son-in-law learned the truth, although he had a quarrel with his daughter, he didn't make a big deal out of it.

　　After my daughter got married, I promised that I didn't ask her for money, and I didn't let her be a helper. Compared with many parents, I am not bad.

　　02. It is normal to help your son take care of the baby and refuse to take care of your daughter.

　　When my daughter was pregnant with a second child, my mother got sick and was admitted to the hospital. My daughter called me and asked me to take care of her, but I refused.

　　In my opinion, only a mother-in-law takes care of her daughter-in-law, how can a mother take care of her married daughter? Besides, my son was getting married at that time, and I was so busy with their marriage that I didn't have time to talk to her at all.

　　My daughter-in-law gave birth to two children, both of which were taken care of by me, and my grandchildren were also brought up by me. Grandchildren are my son's blood and family members. They can grow up healthily, and I, a grandmother, have the face to see my dead husband.

　　After I refused my daughter's request to take care of her, my daughter was unfamiliar with me a lot. Fortunately, my son-in-law is a sensible person and has always been very polite to me. In addition, my daughter is very filial to her mother-in-law, so my son-in-law is also good to me.

　　03. In order not to quarrel with my daughter-in-law, I asked my daughter to give me a pension;

　　After my little granddaughter went to kindergarten, I was 64 years old. At this time, the contradiction between my daughter-in-law and me became deeper and deeper.

　　Daughter-in-law is lazy, not only does not do housework, but also likes to sleep until late in the morning on weekends. I really don't like it. After nagging a few words, she complains about me endlessly. After we quarreled several times, my daughter-in-law took the children back to her mother's house and refused to live under the same roof with me.

　　Looking at my worried son, I had to leave my son's house and call my daughter to ask her to provide for my old age. I raised her for eighteen years, and it is her duty to provide for my old age.

　　My son-in-law rented a house for me in their community, and asked me to rent it there. Usually, my son-in-law or my mother-in-law would send me food and clothing, accompany me to the hospital to see a doctor and chat with me, and my life in my later years was fairly moist.

　　After I moved to my daughter's house, my son seldom visited me and didn't give much alimony. During my illness, my daughter served me. However, it is definitely not possible to expect a son to take care of people, and the daughter-in-law is unwilling to let her daughter come.

　　04. I sent a short message by mistake, and my daughter kicked me out of the house;

　　Last month, when I was on the phone with my son, he complained to me about the high cost of living and the high cost of children's education. I felt very distressed. I thought of the bank card that my husband left me with 200 thousand yuan for me to use in case of emergency, and decided to give the money to my son. Anyway, I don't need the money because my daughter is waiting on me.

　　After I transferred the account, I sent a WeChat message: "Son, I'll give you all my 200,000 deposits, and I'll let your sister take care of the old age, so you don't have to spend money."

　　Unexpectedly, I sent this message to my daughter by mistake. After my daughter saw it, she found me directly with her son-in-law and asked me to move out immediately: "I have served you for 8 years, and all my 200,000 deposits have been given to my younger brother. Mom, you are too eccentric. Since you don't treat me as your own flesh and blood at all, why should I serve you? I don't have a mother like you, so leave immediately and don't appear in front of me again. "

　　05. The author's words: People who don't realize their mistakes are not worthy of sympathy.

　　The old man sent a WeChat by mistake, and his daughter didn't recognize her mother. This is what happened to Aunt Lu. When telling her own experience, Aunt Lu has been accusing her daughter, never saying anything bad about her son, and always feels that there is no problem with the way she treats her children.

　　In the TV series "Everything is Fine", there is such a classic line:

　　"Our parents have been waiting for us to say thank you all our lives, and we have been waiting for our parents to say sorry all our lives, but we can't wait for each other."

　　Parents don't say sorry to their children because they don't realize their mistakes at all. In their view, there are all parents in the world. Parents, as the person who gave birth to their children, gave their children life. No matter how their children return, they still don't know the grace of giving birth. No matter how they treat their children, good or bad, they can only bear it and have no right to complain about their parents. Once children don't follow their wishes, such hats as unfilial and heartless will be put on their heads, which will make them condemned by public opinion.

　　Knowing mistakes can improve a lot. You don't need to talk nonsense or sympathize with those who never realize their mistakes and judge things entirely by their own subjective consciousness. Only when they pay the price can they realize their mistakes. Once such people get the kindness of others, their arrogance will be even more arrogant.

　　Advise parents, parents, if you can't make a bowl of water level, leave a way out for your old age! Don't wait until the son is unfilial and the daughter is chilling, and then regret it.

　　Today's topic: Do you think Aunt Lu is partial? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.