The 28-year-old girl has a monthly salary of 8,000 yuan, and puts forward three requirements for choosing a spouse. Man： You are suitable to remain single.

　　Accelerating marriage is a thing that modern young people hate most. Although many people think that they are not ready to get married, there are still many people who have the idea that men should be married and women should be married. When they see young men and women of school age who have no partners, they will be heartbroken. No matter whether this young man has anything to do with themselves, they all want to ask a few questions. If they are more enthusiastic, they will start to act as matchmakers and help them arrange blind dates.

　　Older men and women have always been a hot topic. When discussing them, many people have a sarcastic tone. In fact, there is a reason why a person becomes an older man and a woman. Maybe they have no expectations for marriage, and would rather live alone than get married. Maybe they have been hurt by their feelings and are not ready to enter the next relationship. Maybe their conditions are too poor to find someone who suits their own wishes. Maybe this person's vision is too high, and he is too high to be low, and he drags himself into an older man and a woman.

　　"Didn't I just make three demands? Why do men directly pull me black? Forget it. It's insulting to send me a message before it, saying that I am suitable for staying single. "

　　After listening to Liu Fei's complaint, I also feel that she is not ready to get married and is not suitable for being someone else's wife.

　　01. With a monthly salary of 8,000 yuan, she looks good, and her basic conditions were very good;

　　In the eyes of people around, Liu Fei is a girl with good conditions.

　　Beauty is a great advantage of women, and Liu Fei has this advantage. Liu Fei is very tall, about 170 years old, beautiful, in good shape, and the physique of not eating fat makes us roommates envy.

　　After graduating from Liu Fei University, she went to work in an Internet company and worked as a copywriter. Although I often need to work overtime, my income is not low. I can get about 8,000 yuan a month, with five insurances and one gold. At the end of the year, there are benefits such as year-end bonus, which is a good income level in the local area.

　　When I was a freshman, Liu Fei talked about love, and they broke up before graduating from college. After that, Liu Fei talked about two boyfriends, and their feelings ended in vain. Today, she is 28 years old and still has not been able to take off the bill.

　　02. The birth of her younger brother made her unpopular in the marriage market;

　　A 28-year-old girl earns 8,000 yuan a month, which is not bad. I don't understand why she can't get married. When I asked her, she told me indignantly: "As soon as they heard that I had an 8-year-old brother, they thought I was a scourge and were afraid to avoid it."

　　It turned out that when Liu Fei was 20 years old, her parents felt very excited when they saw her neighbor giving birth to a second child. They also gave birth to a child and said to her daughter, "You are going to get married in the future, so you can't stay with us, and no one will give us a pension. With a child, we won't feel lonely. You help your brother more, and he will take care of your sister when he grows up. In case you are bullied by your husband's family, your brother can support you. "

　　Liu Fei likes children very much. She feels very kind when she sees her brother who is connected with her blood. She is also very kind to her brother. Every month, she has to pay at least 3,000 yuan to go home and let her parents buy good things for her brother as much as possible.

　　Having a younger brother who is 20 years younger is the reason why Liu Fei's three boyfriends broke up with him.

　　03. She has three requirements for her future partner, which she thinks is reasonable.

　　When it comes to this blind date experience, Liu Fei increasingly feels that the matchmaker looks down on himself and introduces a very bad person to himself.

　　Liu Fei's blind date is Lin Hai, the same age as Liu Fei. He is a technician with a monthly salary of about 10,000 yuan.

　　Lin Hai is the only child in the family, and his parents have pensions, but he has no house or car, which makes Liu Fei dissatisfied with his material conditions. However, she is also anxious to get married and feels that she can barely accept it.

　　When Lin Hai asked Liu Fei about her requirements for her future partner, Liu Fei made a remark and got Lin Hai's evaluation that "you are suitable to remain single".

　　"I have three requirements, as long as you promise, I will marry you. First of all, I have an 8-year-old brother who needs me to raise him. My parents are old, and my brother is willing to study, but unable to. As the eldest daughter and sister, I have the obligation to share their worries; Secondly, my brother needs your help when he marries his wife. There are not many requirements, just help out with a down payment; Finally, I don't want to live with my in-laws. A wedding room is a necessity. "

　　Lin Hai's answer made Liu Fei cry angrily: "I can promise the last request, and the other two, I'm sorry, the introducer probably had a grudge against me and didn't tell me about my family." A woman like you is suitable for staying single, so don't think about harming other men. Good to go and not send. "

　　04. Why can't I get married? She will never understand this question.

　　"I grow well and can make money. Why can't I get married? What's wrong with me attaching importance to family ties? What's wrong with me wanting to honor my parents? Why are those people so realistic? "

　　Seeing these problems, I know that Liu Fei will never want to understand why she can't get married. It was none other than herself and her parents who prevented her from marrying.

　　As parents, her parents chose to give birth at an advanced age, and they had no energy to raise a second child, so they passed the responsibility on to their daughter. Marrying Liu Fei means helping her raise a younger brother, which is equivalent to having an unrelated son. Even if a man loves her again, he can't accept such unreasonable demands and won't be willing to make such a big sacrifice.

　　It is a parent's consciousness not to have children at random, which Liu Fei's parents failed to do, which made her daughter miserable.

　　Psychologist frank cardelle said:

　　"One of the most unfortunate facts in life is that the first major tribulation we encounter mostly comes from family, and this kind of tribulation can be inherited."

　　Liu Fei has no definite view, and is willing to pay for family of origin with her life. She also wants to pass on her pressure through marriage, so naturally she won't get the so-called love.

　　05. It's important for people to have self-knowledge, and it's important for marriage and harmony that both sides can handle themselves clearly.

　　Confucius said, "If you don't know yourself, you don't know others." People are expensive in having self-knowledge, knowing how much they weigh, and putting themselves in their right position.

　　The so-called putting yourself in the right position means neither belittling yourself, belittling yourself at will, and belittling your own value, nor being arrogant and thinking that you are great, that you are particularly excellent, and that others are not worthy of you. Only with correct self-confidence can people not go astray without inferiority or arrogance.

　　In love and marriage, people need to be clear about their status and obligations, know which is more important, don't just want to get benefits, don't want to pay, and don't just know how to pay, so that others can take advantage of you with peace of mind.

　　It is difficult for arrogant people to get a sincere partner and have a good marriage.

　　Today's topic: What do you think is the reason why Liu Fei can't get married? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.