In the life of husband and wife, middle-aged women are most eager to get these things from men. Have you given them？

　　01 introduction

　　I especially like a sentence written by an American marriage expert, Wenger Julie, in the Law of Happy Marriage, and I deeply agree:

　　"In this world, even the happiest marriage will have 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 thoughts of wanting to pinch each other in a lifetime."

　　Any marriage has sweet times, and of course it will be accompanied by sadness. The essence of marriage is a process of sweet and sour blending.

　　A good married life is actually a process of mutual adaptation and running-in, in which many things will be experienced.

　　It is accompanied by contradictions, warming up, quarreling and reconciliation. Stumbling is never terrible.

　　The terrible thing is that mutual incomprehension, indifference and communication make the relationship between them gradually cool down and eventually the feelings are broken.

　　In marriage, women often give all their love, break their hearts for their families and husbands, and give everything without asking for anything in return.

　　However, they may not be able to make men love themselves, get everything they want, and finally be disappointed in marriage.

　　Then, in marriage, what are women doing without asking for anything in return? Is it money? Or something else.

　　In the life of husband and wife, middle-aged women are most eager to get these things from men. Have you given them?

　　Understanding from men

　　Some people say that the reason why the relationship between husband and wife will drift away is because you live like you can't understand each other.

　　In fact, in many people's minds, women are required to understand men more. After all, it is not easy for men to earn money to support their families, and there is great pressure to work hard outside.

　　However, it is not easy for women. After marriage, most women will consciously shift their focus to their families and voluntarily give up higher-paying jobs.

　　At the same time, I will take the initiative to undertake most of the housework, and put my mind on the children and the elderly to keep the house in good order.

　　However, some men can't see women's contribution, and they deny women's full contribution just because they make less money.

　　I still don't understand why women always like to complain that life is not easy. I don't know how to understand women's difficulties at all, and I can't empathize.

　　In fact, every woman is "eager" to get men's understanding. I hope men can see and thank them for their contribution to the family, and they will be satisfied.

　　Care from men

　　John gotman once said such a sentence, deeply impressed:

　　"The key to marriage is not in a candlelight dinner or on a romantic beach, but in caring for each other and caring for the small moments of life."

　　In marriage, it should be natural for husband and wife to care about each other, but in real life, wives often care about their husbands.

　　However, husbands rarely really care about their wives, and they don't know how to care about women's psychological small emotions or physical discomfort.

　　In most families, women take care of everything at home, and women worry about and take care of food, clothing, housing and transportation, and they are in good order inside and outside.

　　These little things in life, although they don't seem hard, are just a little cumbersome, but repeating them every day will inevitably lead to fatigue and fatigue.

　　Therefore, in the life of husband and wife, most women are "eager" for men to give her more care and help when women are working hard.

　　Instead of sitting on the sidelines with nothing to do, even women clean and men get dirty, making women's care in vain.

　　Romance from men

　　Haruki Murakami said such a sentence, let me remember:

　　"No matter who, no matter when, people always seek romantic twilight around the dark clouds to live."

　　When a woman is single, she tends to dress herself up beautifully, lead an exquisite life without lack of romance, and live comfortably.

　　However, having children after marriage and having to support their parents may lead to a crisis at work when they are older, and the pressure on them is increasing.

　　Therefore, I only think about how to maintain my life all day long, and I have no time to take care of myself, and I have no mind to love my husband as I did when I was in love.

　　However, I still look forward to returning to the feeling of love, finding the lost romance and sweetness, and letting myself experience the feeling of love again.

　　Therefore, in the life of husband and wife, men should know how to give a woman a little romance occasionally, so that she can feel the beauty of marriage, and women will naturally love you more.

　　05 compliments from men

　　Psychologist William James once said, "The deepest human need may be to feel appreciated."

　　What we crave most is undoubtedly the appreciation from our partner, and praising our wife is a man's top accomplishment.

　　During the period of love, in order to make women happy, men often praise women for their beauty, generosity, thoughtfulness and understanding, and all kinds of sweet words.

　　In short, if a woman does something for a man, he will be very happy and think that he has met the most perfect woman in the world.

　　However, after marriage, men can't see the charm of women in their eyes, and praise is gradually replaced by accusations and complaints.

　　Everything has become what women should do, and men have become picky. If women don't do well, they will be rejected and even hated by men.

　　In fact, women are "eager" for men to give her more praise and encouragement, even a small thing, even a few short words of affirmation.

　　Can make women feel that her efforts are worthwhile, and also make them love you more and reluctant to leave you.

　　06 emotional conclusion:

　　Some people say that all love at first sight before marriage is just a matter of seeing the color.

　　Only after seeing clearly the family circumstances of both parties and seeing through the truth of marriage, the love loyal to character is the foundation needed in marriage.

　　If husband and wife want to build a harmonious and happy family, then men should give women the above four things to make women feel happy.

　　Let her feel your love, and she will naturally give you more love, make the family full of love, and the family will naturally be filled with laughter.

　　After all, a woman is the best feng shui in the family.

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