Mother's advice to her son： ＂Only by sticking to three emotional bottom lines can you keep happiness.＂

　　As the saying goes, no rules can't make Fiona Fang. Only rules can draw a circle, and only moments can draw a square. Rules refer to some codes of conduct that we conduct ourselves, and the bottom line that we need to stick to. Only by sticking to our own bottom line and abiding by the code of conduct can we restrain our words and deeds, let others know our temper, and make others afraid to offend us easily.

　　Bai Yansong once said, "Some people say that we should keep the bottom line. But the bottom line has long been gone, or the bottom line has been broken again and again at will. How can we keep the bottom line? Where is the bottom line that can be kept? " To keep the bottom line, we need to know what the bottom line is.

　　My brother is eighteen years old and has just been admitted to the university. With my brother's adulthood, my mother began to worry about his marriage, hoping that he could have a happy life. Therefore, my mother gave her grown-up brother emotional advice.

　　Mother's advice to her son: "You can keep your happiness by keeping three bottom lines emotionally".

　　1. The bottom line of devotion: A man's playboy is not romantic, but irresponsible;

　　"Son, you have to remember that if someone tells you that the more girlfriends a man has experienced, the more attractive he is, which means that he is a person with a bad personality. You should avoid such people. Both men and women should stick to the bottom line of exclusive love. If you don't like that girl, keep your distance from her, and don't be ambiguous; If you really like her, you should cherish her and fall in love seriously. "

　　Whether a person is devoted or not is an important criterion to measure his character. If this person is a playboy and has experienced many relationships for a short time, it will leave a bad impression on the people around him. When a girl considers a man's character, she will first pay attention to his emotional experience. When falling in love, a man can be playboy, irresponsible to feelings and hurt girls, so it is difficult for him to get rid of playboy after marriage and be loyal to his spouse.

　　2. The bottom line of protecting your lover: protect her whether in front of your parents or your lover;

　　"Son, you remember, if you get married, I have a conflict with your wife. As long as your wife doesn't make a principled mistake, you must stand on her side and protect her. When outsiders bully your lover, you must have enough courage to protect your lover. For women, whether a man can bring them a sense of security is the main factor in their decision whether to stay with you. "

　　Protecting your lover and becoming her umbrella is the bottom line of marriage. For women, getting a sense of security in marriage is an important reason for them to get married. So, how can men prove that they can bring security to women?

　　First of all, when a woman has a disagreement with a man's parents, the man's attitude speaks for itself. A man who knows how to protect women in time and help women resolve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law proves that he is reliable enough to bring women a sense of security.

　　Secondly, when women are bullied by outsiders, men dare to protect women behind them, which will make women particularly moved and willing to trust him.

　　Finally, whether a marriage has enough sense of security depends on economic factors. If a man has the ability to support his family, he can support his wife and children and make women feel safe. Men may not have too much money, but they must not have the ability and confidence to make money.

　　3. The untouchable bottom line: If she is not a qualified lover, you should have the courage to get out in time.

　　"Some time ago, I went back to your grandmother's house and visited your cousin who was ill in hospital. Your cousin is sick because his girlfriend who has been in love for four years has changed her mind and abandoned him for money. He made a scene of humiliation at his wedding, and when he got home, he couldn't get over it before he admitted himself to the hospital. I hope you will take this as a warning. You know, there are plenty of herbs in the sea, so why do you have a crush on a flower? "

　　In feelings, it is not only girls but also boys who are too humble to love. Many boys are infatuated and willing to pay all the costs for love. When their love is disappointed, they will also fall into the pain of lovelorn, unable to come out, and even do things that hurt themselves.

　　If that person is really not a good match for you, not a person worthy of your life, you must have the courage to get out in time. In feelings, it is also a kind of free and easy to dare to let go.

　　Today's topic: What bottom line do you think boys need to stick to in marriage? Welcome to share your views in the comments section.