Phoenix male wife angrily divorced： Double Twelve spent 36,000 yuan, and none of them were for me and my children.

　　Online shopping has become the most important way for people to shop. Signing for express delivery has already become our daily life. After all, we really don't have time to go shopping because we spend a lot of time and energy on our work every day, and online shopping only needs to turn on our mobile phone, pick out the goods and pay a fee, and the things you want will be delivered to you. If we are not satisfied with the quality, we can also choose to return them, which saves time and effort.

　　Online shopping is also a flashpoint where modern family members are prone to conflicts. Although we use virtual currency, it is also our hard-earned money. Once you spend money in the wrong way, such as exceeding the standard seriously and being too stingy, it will lead to family conflicts.

　　A person's attitude towards spending money on you can tell whether he cares deeply or shallowly for you.

　　In the first half of my life, He Han once said:

　　"What is marriage? Isn't life difficult? Do you want to find a teammate and help each other in the same boat?"

　　If this teammate is reluctant to give you some necessary money, how can he talk about helping each other in the same boat for life?

　　Yesterday, Li Xuan's husband came to her mother's house again, pleading with Li Xuan to keep calm, not always talking about the word divorce, and accusing Li Xuan with a tone of course: "Didn't I just buy something for my family on the twelfth day?" This is a normal thing. Why do you divorce me for this matter? "

　　"Kui you also mean to export! Double 12 cost 36,000 yuan. Nothing is for me and my children. It's all for your family and relatives. Since in your eyes, family and relatives are much more important than our mother and daughter, I will help you and let you go with your family! "

　　After Li Xuan's husband was driven away, Li Xuan was still furious and accused me of being a phoenix male husband who seriously lacked a sense of boundary.

　　01. As a Phoenix man, he is very promising;

　　Li Xuan's husband, Shen Lei, is one year older than her. They met on a blind date.

　　Shen Lei graduated from a prestigious school and worked in a well-paid enterprise. His ability is strong enough and he is self-motivated. His monthly salary is above 20,000, and the conditions do not look bad. However, Shen Lei, who has such conditions, has been hitting a wall everywhere on the road of mate selection because he is a Phoenix man.

　　Shen Lei was born in a small mountain village, and his family was very ordinary. His parents worked hard. My brother chose to drop out of school when he was a freshman, and all the money he earned was used for Shen Lei, who had made outstanding achievements since childhood. With the efforts of the whole family and the support of relatives from time to time, Shen Lei was admitted to a prestigious school and became the most promising young man in the family.

　　Just because of this, the girls who have had contact with Shen Lei are worried that his family of origin is too heavy to marry him.

　　Li Xuan's family is neither too good nor too bad. As the only child in the family, both parents have pensions, so she doesn't need to worry about providing for the elderly. After graduation, Li Xuan found a job with a monthly salary of about 10 thousand. Li Xuan took a fancy to Shen Lei's ability but ignored his family of origin. Although Shen Lei was not satisfied with Li Xuan's not well-off family, he had no choice but to marry Li Xuan, who was close to 30 years old and had been rejected for blind date seven times.

　　"I thought that as long as the husband and wife are United, what kind of chaos can relatives give us? When a woman marries, she must find a capable husband before she can live a good life. Therefore, I chose him. "

　　However, Li Xuan underestimated the strength of Phoenix Man's sense of belonging to family of origin.

　　02. After marriage, the relatives of Phoenix Man lacked self-knowledge, which caused trouble to his wife;

　　After Li Xuan married Shen Lei, relatives soon caused them trouble.

　　After Li Xuan's honeymoon, Shen Lei's brother's brother-in-law got into trouble and needed 50,000 yuan to calm things down. Shen Lei's sister-in-law is crying and making trouble at home, forcing her husband to take money to help her brother, or else she will go home with her child in her arms. In desperation, Shen Lei's parents asked their youngest son for money: "If your brother hadn't given up his studies and worked for you, you wouldn't be here today!"! Because of his low education, your brother's income has been very low, and it is not easy to get a wife. Now, if you want to keep his marriage, you can only rely on your brother to help. "

　　When my brother was in trouble, Shen Lei thought he was duty-bound, so he quickly took out 30,000 yuan and handed it to his sister-in-law, which solved the storm. Of course, before giving money, he didn't say hello to Li Xuan at all, which made Li Xuan, who had been kept in the dark, very angry.

　　Then, Shen Lei's elder brother also came to trouble the young couple. Shen Lei's uncle learned that Li Xuan's mother was a doctor, so he asked Li Xuan's mother to help his mother-in-law operate. To Li Xuan's dismay, the uncle said something like this: "We are all relatives, so the cost is cheaper. Our family is poor and we can't afford the money. If it really doesn't work, let Xiaolei pad it and pay it back to you when we have money. "

　　Li Xuan refused Shen Lei's request, and the reason was one sentence: "Sorry, the hospital is not run by my family, and my mother can't be the master."

　　Shen Lei was very unhappy and felt that Li Xuan's refusal was unreasonable, which made him lose face with his relatives. To this end, the husband and wife had a quarrel.

　　03. When the Phoenix man quarrels with his wife, he always solves the problem in the way of the Cold War.

　　Quarrel is an essential episode in marriage. Even if the couple love each other deeply and have good feelings for each other, they will quarrel over some trivial matters.

　　Quarrel is not terrible. What is terrible is that some people don't know how to properly handle the contradiction between husband and wife.

　　When Li Xuan quarreled with Shen Lei, Shen Lei handled it in two words, called the Cold War. Because he was inarticulate, Shen Lei couldn't argue with Li Xuan. When he couldn't, he went out for the night, not only didn't go home for several days in a row, but also ignored the news sent by Li Xuan.

　　At first, Li Xuan couldn't help but compromise and make up with Shen Lei. As Shen Lei adopted the Cold War method more and more frequently, Li Xuan also felt tired and disappointed with him. In order to give her daughter a complete home, Li Xuan didn't divorce and stopped coaxing him, so the couple made do with it.

　　04. A double 12 shopping list destroyed their marriage;

　　"I can't ignore his attitude towards me, but I can't let him continue to harm the interests of me and my children."

　　The day before yesterday, when Li Xuan went to visit her mother-in-law, she saw a bunch of express delivery. Through her prospective mother-in-law's words, Li Xuan learned that Shen Lei bought all these things on the twelfth day.

　　So, Li Xuan, who came home, logged on the online shopping platform in Shen Lei and checked his shopping list of Double Twelve, which made Li Xuan furious.

　　"He spent more than 36,000 yuan, bought a game machine with more than 3,000 yuan for his little nephew, and bought two mobile phones with about 5,000 yuan and sent them to his brother. Then, there are some things for his uncle, uncle and other relatives. The most hateful thing is that there are so many things, not only mine, but even my daughter's. When I questioned him, he actually told me that you have an income anyway, and you can just buy what your daughter needs. Is he such a dad? "

　　After reading her husband's shopping list, Li Xuan understood three truths. First, in the husband's eyes, his position with his daughter is far behind his relatives; Second, he will never realize that his lack of sense of boundary is wrong; Third, although the money he spent is his salary, it is also the common property of husband and wife. His practice is undoubtedly infringing on the interests of Li Xuan and his daughter.

　　Since we can't communicate, since we can't change his mind, then we should just take our daughter with us! Save him from continuing to suffer indignities here, and save him from spending all his money and needing to take money to support his family.

　　Thus, there is the scene where the Phoenix male wife angrily mentions divorce at the beginning.

　　05. People who can't handle money well can't spend their lives with you.

　　Yan Rujing said such a sentence in "Qi Yuan Shuo", which was approved by many people:

　　"There is a time limit for forbearance in marriage. It is called calm for a while and hard for a lifetime."

　　Endure life, that's not a simple talk. Moreover, no one is worth your life's injustice. Since his practice is unacceptable to you and refuses to correct it, you can only choose to stop loss in time.

　　In marriage, what kind of person will make his spouse go to the last straw? People who can't even handle money well can't spend their lives with you hand in hand.

　　As a man, your three attitudes towards money can't be tolerated by your spouse.

　　First of all, I am too stingy to spend money on my wife and children.

　　Zhang Ailing once said:

　　"I am happy to spend his money. It is not because of the greed of women that I spend his money."

　　You are willing to spend money for your wife, which, to a certain extent, represents your heart for her and your treasure for her.

　　Secondly, I don't work hard to make money, and I don't even have the ability to support my family.

　　Women can accept that you are poor, but they can't accept that you are not motivated; Women can accept that you are ordinary, but they can't accept that you eat soft rice.

　　Finally, they lack a sense of boundary, and always use the common property of husband and wife to help their relatives.

　　Zhou Guoping wrote in Man and Eternity:

　　"In any interaction between two people, there must be an ideal distance suitable for each other's fit. Crossing this distance will cause repulsion and disgust."

　　In the use of money, both men and women should pay attention to the sense of boundaries, don't let their relatives regard themselves as cash cows, and don't infringe on the common interests of husband and wife.

　　Marriage needs mutual respect and understanding, and you need to be clear.

　　Today's topic: What do you do when your spouse lacks a sense of boundaries? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.