Once a girl walks out of internal friction, how cool will her life be？

　　☆ Grow ducks with me ☆

　　Text: Ting Yun Month | Figure: Network

　　Performance of internal friction:

　　Every day is boring, and I feel very tired without doing anything; Soberly watching yourself fall, but powerless and afraid of being discussed; Easy to think, sensitive and inferior; Habitually belittle yourself and always feel that you are useless; Late procrastination, indecision and Lin Daiyu's possession; It's easy to get stuck in the swamp of negative emotions ...

　　When in such a state, people will feel anxious and painful, their self-confidence and mental state will be greatly reduced, they feel that life is meaningless, and the whole person will become more and more dull and numb.

　　Today, I would like to share six tips for getting rid of emo that have benefited me a lot. I believe I can also pull you out of the abyss and get rid of internal friction in time.

　　It is recommended to like it and collect it. Take it out and read it when emo, and get energy from it.

　　First, have the courage to be hated and refuse things you don't like.

　　There is a big reason for internal friction, because I care too much about others' evaluation of myself, so I always dare not say my true feelings when I meet people or things I don't like. Seemingly quiet on the surface, in fact, there are already two little people fighting inside.

　　I used to be like this. Even if I don't like what the other person said, I won't go back immediately.

　　But "crazy literature" cured my internal friction.

　　I began to try to refuse what I didn't like to do. Those words that make me uncomfortable, I will go back after listening to them. Sometimes I dare not say it in person, just say it on WeChat. Anyway, across the screen, it won't be embarrassing.

　　I'm in charge of my life. I'd rather embarrass others than embarrass myself. Proper madness is good for physical and mental health.

　　Second, allow emotions to exist and use them rationally.

　　The key to getting rid of internal friction is to allow all kinds of emotions to exist.

　　We are a normal person. Besides positive emotions, we also have various negative emotions. If you blindly deny the existence of negative emotions and fall into remorse, it will lead to constant internal friction.

　　The correct way is to change the view of events.

　　As the courage to be hated said: in fact, when something happens, the thing itself does not affect us, but our views on it affect us.

　　When you encounter unhappy things, allow yourself to emo for a few minutes, and then turn the idea of "why am I so unlucky" into "what growth can I get from this matter"

　　Third, slow down, every small step is worth encouraging.

　　It is easy to think too much and deny ourselves. In fact, it is because we always want to achieve those big goals.

　　We always like to say:

　　I will study hard and be admitted to key schools; I want to lose weight and become thinner and more beautiful; When I have money, I want to travel;

　　But these goals are too ambitious and too far away. You can't eat fat in one breath. If you set such a grand goal for yourself at once, you will be overwhelmed.

　　We can break down the big goals into small goals, and be meticulous in our weekly or even daily plans to achieve them little by little.

　　For example, if you want to lose 6 kg in half a year, you can lose 1 kg every month. To lose weight, you must exercise+a reasonable diet. So you can make a monthly plan according to your goals and then implement it every day.

　　Fourth, enjoy the present and don't determine the future in advance.

　　During the period of preparing for the exam, I had a hard time, and I was anxious while working hard. I was afraid that I would not pass the exam, and I was afraid of adventureland. Fortunately, the result was good, and finally I landed as I wished.

　　So I want to tell you, don't worry about the future, focus on the present, don't worry about the result in advance, and don't make perfect presuppositions.

　　Time will not disappoint everyone who works hard, and we will have everything we want.

　　5. Accept yourself, imperfection is the normal state.

　　Sometimes, my anxiety comes from my appearance.

　　I feel that I am not good-looking, my skin is not good, I often get acne, and my legs are thick. When looking in the mirror, look at yourself, and the more you look, the more dissatisfied you are. Seeing beautiful women, in addition to envy, the heart will be more anxious.

　　Once, I went to a welfare home as a volunteer and came into contact with many "angel babies". Some of them had a missing nose, some had a missing lip and some had underdeveloped brains. These are born and cannot be changed.

　　After that, I let go. Although the phrase "nose and eyes" is a joke, for those angel babies, it is their dream.

　　And we, who are healthy and have complete facial features, are already a gift from heaven.

　　Six, it takes time to do these things, which can divert attention.

　　01 Cultivate hobbies

　　Sometimes I feel internal friction because I am too idle.

　　You can find something to do and cultivate a hobby. Painting, practicing calligraphy, arranging flowers, fishing, or other interesting things can be done.

　　When you have something to do, you won't be paranoid.

　　02 watching movies

　　Movies are a low-cost way to experience the world.

　　Recommend some movies I like to watch:

　　Angels Love Beauty, Princess Diary, Heidi and Grandpa, Beautiful Life, Spice Girl at the Bottom and Jin Yuji on the Cliff.

　　03 reading

　　Reading a good book is talking to many noble people. Books can heal our hearts and take us to see a wider world.

　　Also recommend some books to everyone:

　　The Kite Runner, Cafe at the End of the World, Mr. Toad, Alive, There is a canteen by the cloud, Slow Cooking Life.

　　04 sports

　　Exercise can produce dopamine, make people happy and help them sleep.

　　Share some exercises I've been dancing recently:

　　Pamela -15 Minutes Sweating Dance | Dance Aerobics+Dynamic Music

　　Pamela -10 Minutes Papi Carnival Dance | Sweet and Spicy Fat Burning Huge Scale Emotional Dopamine.

　　Liu Genghong Compendium of Materia Medica

　　Liu Genghong's father-in-law migraine

　　Finally, Yunyue wants to say: No one can help you get rid of internal friction completely. Only you can pull you out of internal friction.

　　I hope we can all reconcile with our ordinary selves, with many things, and have the fearless courage to be who we want to be and live the life we want.

　　Above, encourage each other

　　Brief introduction of the author

　　Ting Yun Yue, a girl after 00 who focuses on sharing dry goods, looks forward to being good friends with you ~

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