When a woman chooses a spouse, don't forget to look at the man's house at 3 o'clock.

　　As the saying goes, if you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer, especially in marriage.

　　Although we control the autonomy of marriage, we can choose who to marry, when to get married and end our marriage, but our parents still play a decisive role in our marriage.

　　Before we choose a spouse, they will instill in us the concept of marriage, teach us what kind of person we should find to get married, choose the right partner, and want to get married, we have to take him to see our parents and get permission from both parents. If one party disagrees, we may not be able to enter the marriage hall smoothly.

　　When we get married and form a family, the other parents will become our elders, with filial piety. Whether it is the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or Weng Xu's contradiction, it may become a time bomb in our marriage and blow our small family to pieces.

　　Therefore, both men and women will feel distressed about how to deal with each other's parents, and they will feel distressed about the bad relationship between their spouses and their parents.

　　As the cutting-edge writer Gong Gaofeng wrote in "Father's Black Fish": "Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are each other's natural enemies. I don't know how the creator designed it. One generation of mother-in-law is daughter-in-law, and there are countless children and grandchildren."

　　"Marrying without looking at the family is easy to suffer after marriage." Many girls may have heard similar advice from their parents or experienced people before getting married, reminding them not to be impulsive. Choosing a spouse depends not only on love, but also on the other person's family of origin.

　　When a woman chooses a spouse, don't forget to look at the man's house at 3 o'clock. When choosing a spouse, if you ignore these details of your boyfriend's family, you will easily suffer. Don't believe it.

　　First, nothing is better than health, so we must pay attention to the genetic history of the man and his family.

　　"If you give me another chance, I will definitely not marry him. If I cheat myself, I will cheat my children."

　　When she mentioned her marriage, Sanyi felt regretful and annoyed at her careless choice of spouse.

　　It's not bad to say that the standard of third aunt's mate selection is not bad. Third uncle's family is similar to his grandfather's, so he is suitable, capable and willing to endure hardships, and his in-laws look very kind. Even his grandfather didn't refuse the marriage at that time.

　　However, what no one expected was that when they asked to marry their third aunt, the third uncle's family deliberately concealed the fatal thing that their family had a genetic history of mental illness.

　　Uncle San, his father, brother and sister all inherited this problem. However, Uncle San's symptoms were not obvious, and he was fine without stimulation. Therefore, Uncle San failed to find it in time, and when he knew it, it was too late.

　　The third aunt gave birth to a cousin after marriage, and the symptoms were more serious than those of her father, which broke her heart.

　　Whether it is a man or a woman, when choosing a spouse, we must pay attention to each other's physical condition and the situation of each other's family members. Some people have atavism's disease, but your spouse may not have it, or the disease is not obvious.

　　As a spouse, you have the right to know, and he has the obligation to tell you. However, don't count on him completely. As Annie Baby said, "Don't challenge human nature easily. Human nature simply can't stand the test. What it needs is preservation and cover. If you go straight to the point, it will be full of flaws."

　　In order to get married and achieve their own goals, many people will choose to hide the facts that are unfavorable to them until what is done is done. At this time, you can either submit to humiliation, or divorce and get a second marriage, which is unfavorable to yourself.

　　Second, it is easy to get off the beam if the beam is not straight. Therefore, we must look at each other's family style and parents' personality.

　　In order to marry her boyfriend, reader Li Juan had a stiff argument with her parents, and even resorted to the trick of crying, making trouble and hanging herself. In desperation, my mother can only allow her to meet the man's parents and discuss marriage.

　　When Li Juan went to her boyfriend's house, she was full of expectation. However, when she got home, she cried bitterly, apologized to her parents and insisted on breaking up.

　　"His father is so gambling that he will go out to play cards after lunch. He has no money to spend and asks his mother for money. His mother said that his son was going to get married, and there was not much money. He advised his father not to gamble, and his father got angry and slapped his mother in front of him, which frightened me. What is even more exasperating is that my boyfriend saw this scene, saw his father beating his wife, and actually calmly played with his mobile phone. How? Does he think it's normal for men to beat their wives? Will he learn from his father and start work on me? "

　　Although my boyfriend can't see whether there is such a tendency at present, Li Juan is afraid to take such a risk because he is close to Zhu Zhechi.

　　Tyman Johnson once said, "Successful tutors make successful children, and failed tutors make failed children."

　　It is easy to get off the beam when the beam is crooked, so we must look at each other's family style and parents' personality. Family of origin directly influenced a person's conduct and outlook on life. He accepted and approved what his parents instilled in him. Once the three views are formed, it is difficult for you to change him with love.

　　Instead of thinking about changing each other's incorrect three views on their own after marriage, it is better to change yourself and rule out the possibility of marrying someone with incorrect three views in advance.

　　Third, the parents of the other party must pay attention to your attitude. It is also difficult for people who don't accept you before marriage to squeeze in.

　　Liu Xiaoya, He Lin's best friend, is a living tragedy in the novel "The Mother-in-law Comes" (the original work is not a TV series).

　　Liu Xiaoya's mother-in-law is a single mother with a strong desire for control. She regards her daughter-in-law Liu Xiaoya as an enemy who robs her son. No matter how good Liu Xiaoya is, how to be filial, and how to compromise, she can't accept Liu Xiaoya. She tries her best to embarrass her, bully her, and even slanders Liu Xiaoya for suffering from mental illness and put him in the hospital. Under the torture of her evil mother-in-law and her husband's attitude of helping her relatives or not, Liu Xiaoya finally collapsed and chose a dead end.

　　In fact, before Liu Xiaoya got married, her mother-in-law would not accept her.

　　Even though Liu Xiaoya and Fang Hongjun have obtained the license, Fang Hongjun's mother still refuses to admit that Liu Xiaoya is her daughter-in-law. Even if she gave in and let them have a wedding, she tried her best to make things difficult for Liu Xiaoya, not drinking tea and changing rings, which made Liu Xiaoya a joke.

　　Liu Xiaoya is so stupid that she hopes to influence her mother-in-law by her kindness and filial piety, but she has sent herself to a dead end.

　　You must pay attention to the attitude of the other parents towards you. It is also difficult for people who don't accept you before marriage to squeeze in. If they don't recognize you, you still want to marry, which will only make them think that their son is attractive and that you are worthless. Except for their son, they can't marry and will look down on you even more.

　　Balzac once said: "The so-called love can satisfy everything, only for lovers. As for the couple, they need more than the sky as the roof and the green carpet. “

　　The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a big killer in marriage, and whether the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will intensify or destroy your marriage may be manifested before you get married. If you could have found it earlier and noticed it earlier, you wouldn't have jumped into the fire pit and trapped yourself.

　　Today's topic: What do you think women should pay attention to when choosing a spouse? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.