＂Your monthly salary is 10,000, why do you eat instant noodles at the end of the month？＂ ＂All the money is called to my brother.＂

　　It is said that men are afraid of entering the wrong line and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man. In fact, not only women need to be cautious when they get married, but men also need to be very cautious when they get married. For men, marrying the right wife is also a major event that will affect their lives.

　　Many parents have warned their daughters that when they fall in love, they should look at each other's personality clearly. As a woman, if she wants to live a good life after marriage, she should never marry a man with a bad personality, such as a domestic violence man, a phoenix man, a mother-in-law man and so on.

　　When a man is in love, his parents will also remind them to pay attention to the woman's character and family. There are several families where girls and men are never allowed to marry, and one of them is to help their brothers.

　　Many people have heard this sentence: Marry a wife instead of a brother-helper. Generally speaking, the witches with a brother-helper are all born in family of origin, where sons are preferred to daughters. They suffered unfair treatment from their parents since childhood and were forced to become victims of their brothers. It is not terrible for a girl who comes from a patriarchal family, because some girls know that their parents can't count on them, and they will work very hard to make themselves an excellent woman and dare to say no to their parents' unreasonable demands. If this is the case, a man can marry her.

　　It's not terrible that girls come from a patriarchal family. What's terrible is that women are brainwashed. They also think that their parents and brothers are right to ask for it, and they are willing to become the cash cow of their families.

　　Recently, Wang Jiajun was troubled by one thing. He took the initiative to break up with his girlfriend. His girlfriend not only cursed him as heart breaker, but also called his parents to the Wangs to scold him and demanded that Wang Jiajun compensate her for the loss of her youth.

　　Wang Jiajun had been in love with his girlfriend for two years and had planned to marry her, but for some reason, Wang Jiajun decided to break up with his girlfriend.

　　01

　　Wang Jiajun met his girlfriend because he took a taxi. Once, Wang Jiajun returned to his place of residence by train, and got off the train late, which caused him to miss the last subway and had to take a taxi back. At that time, it was raining heavily and there were few taxis. Wang Jiajun waited for a long time before he stopped a taxi.

　　When Wang Jiajun was about to get on the bus, a girl came running with her luggage and asked the driver to take her. The driver asked about the address and found that the girl lived across the street from Wang Jiajun's neighborhood. Then, with Wang Jiajun's consent, the driver let the girl get on the bus.

　　The girl is very lively and cheerful, and soon she started chatting with Wang Jiajun. Seeing Wang Jiajun playing games, she gave him a lot of experience in customs clearance. As they found a common topic, they soon became familiar with each other.

　　Before getting off the bus, Wang Jiajun summoned up his courage and asked for the girl's micro-signal, and the girl gave him the micro-signal very readily.

　　After that, they often chatted online and went to eat together offline, and their feelings gradually warmed up and gradually developed into a relationship of lovers.

　　02

　　After becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, Wang Jiajun often visited his girlfriend. Once, when he went to see his girlfriend, he found her eating instant noodles. He looked at the room. In the corner of the room, there were several boxes of instant noodles.

　　Wang Jiajun was surprised and asked, "Do you like instant noodles very much? Instant noodles don't have much nutrition and are not good for your health. You are so thin, you should eat more nutritious good things. "

　　His girlfriend gave him a white look and said, "I don't want to eat instant noodles if I have money!" At the end of every month, Cary has no money and has to live on instant noodles. "

　　Hearing his girlfriend's words, Wang Jiajun felt very distressed. She quickly turned on her mobile phone and transferred 500 yuan to her. Then, Wang Jiajun dragged his girlfriend out and took her to eat hot pot.

　　At first, Wang Jiajun didn't take his girlfriend's eating instant noodles to heart. He always thought it was because his girlfriend's salary was not high, and girls were easy to spend money lavishly, which led to economic tension at the end of the month. It was not until one time that he discovered that something was wrong.

　　Wang Jiajun went to find his girlfriend, who was talking to someone on the phone: "I just got paid today, and I paid 10,000 yuan. I see, I'll call you at night, so don't rush. "

　　Wang Jiajun was even more strange. Afterwards, he asked his girlfriend, "Your monthly salary is 10,000 yuan, which is even higher than mine. Then why are you so poor that you will eat instant noodles by the end of the month?"

　　My girlfriend calmly explained, "Because I want to raise my younger brother. My brother is seven years younger than me, and now he is in college. My parents' salary is very meager, only enough for the basic expenses of the family, and it is impossible for my brother to study. Therefore, my brother's tuition and living expenses are in my charge. He recently talked about a girlfriend who needs to spend more money. I have to give him 5,000 yuan a month and pay the rent, so it will naturally be stretched. "

　　After listening to his girlfriend's words, Wang Jiajun couldn't calm down any more, so he asked his girlfriend, "Your brother has gone to college and has the ability to take care of himself. University courses are not heavy, why doesn't he take a part-time job? "

　　"My brother is the baby of our family. He grew up under the care of my parents. How can he do a part-time job? As an elder sister, it is my duty to raise my younger brother. I gave him the money voluntarily. Is there a problem? Why do you care so much? "

　　Wang Jiajun didn't talk to his girlfriend much, but left silently.

　　Wang Jiajun told his parents about it, and when they heard about it, they shook their heads into rattles and asked their son to break up with the girl.

　　"Son, we don't expect you to marry a girl of great wealth, but at least you should find a girl who is correct through three views! This girl's family of origin is very bad, and she is willing to be Voldemort herself. It is difficult to change a person's mind. If you marry her, you will be disturbed by her family after marriage. "

　　Wang Jiajun also supports his parents' ideas. He can't imagine what married life will be like once he marries his girlfriend. He didn't dare to gamble or change his girlfriend's mind, so he decided to break up with her.

　　03

　　Why can't Brother Fu marry? Because marriage is supposed to be mutually beneficial and win-win, and it is supposed to pay for each other, rather than sacrificing the interests of one party to fulfill the other. If a man marries a brother-helper, it is equivalent to having a poverty-alleviation marriage. Men need to sacrifice their own interests to help their unrelated wives. This kind of marriage is cumbersome for men, and it is often thankless.

　　Brother-in-law witches are terrible. First of all, their family of origin is a time bomb. When their daughter was still young, they instilled in her the idea of giving preference to sons. They not only treated their daughters badly and spoiled their sons with this idea, but also let their daughters recognize their parents' totally unreasonable practices, that is, they brainwashed their daughters.

　　After their daughter gets married, they will let her continue to help her family. If the daughter's in-laws don't cooperate, they may cause trouble to her in-laws, such as instigating her to divorce. Marrying such a woman means that a man has buried a time bomb in his marriage.

　　Secondly, the witches who help their brothers will bring serious losses to men's interests. Before marriage, they will help their parents without a bottom line, and after marriage, they will not change their minds. If you meet a woman who subsidizes her mother's family with her husband's and her husband's family's money, a man's marriage will become a tool for their profit, and it will become a mess.

　　Finally, the mind of the bride who helped her brother has solidified, and it is difficult for a man to change her mind. When a man talks reason with a woman, she can't listen at all, and she won't stop her wrong practice. At that time, men have only two choices, either divorce or continue to endure. It is better to stop loss in time before marriage than to entangle after marriage.