In love, why do many people not cherish the love they get？

　　Love is one of the most basic emotions of human beings, which can bring endless warmth and happiness and make people feel full and satisfied. However, in reality, we often see that many people don't cherish, value or even disappoint love after they get it.

　　In love, why do many people not cherish the love they get?

　　First of all, the understanding of love is not deep.

　　For many people, their understanding mainly stays in the romance and passion of love expression, but ignores the sacrifice and dedication of love. They may only value and pursue the superficial value of love, such as appearance or material conditions, but ignore the emotional and spiritual connection with their partners. When they hold this shallow concept of love, they will put their own needs in the first place, ignoring their spouses' feelings and needs, so they can't really understand and cherish love.

　　Secondly, personal psychology and growth experience.

　　Personal psychology and growth experience have also played an important role in the attitude towards love. For example, some people will feel afraid and insecure after getting love. They may be afraid of feelings because of past injury experiences, and no longer dare to devote themselves wholeheartedly. In addition, inferiority and lack of self-confidence will also make people not cherish enough in the face of love. They may feel that they don't deserve each other's love, or they are afraid of losing each other, which leads to shrinking and not cherishing in their feelings.

　　In addition, personal family background and intimate relationship experience also have an important influence on love attitude. If a person doesn't get enough love and care at home, or has been hurt in the past intimate relationship, they may have a skeptical and distrustful attitude towards love and are unwilling to really cherish and invest.

　　Third, dissatisfaction with oneself.

　　Some people may feel insecure or unsatisfied in their feelings. They tend to compare themselves with their partners, or hope that their partners can meet their needs. This dependent attitude is not only unfair to oneself, but also causes great pressure on the partner, leading to fatigue and instability of love. When a person feels unsatisfied in love, they may begin to doubt whether their partner treats them sincerely or try to find other ways to meet their needs. This dissatisfaction makes them unable to cherish the love in front of them, but constantly seek and pursue new feelings.

　　Fourth, lack of awareness of self-growth and development.

　　Love is a process of common growth and development, not just a tool to meet self-needs. However, some people lack the awareness of self-knowledge and self-development in love, and they regard love as a passive receiver rather than an active participant. Many people may put their career or personal development in a secondary position because they obey their partner's wishes, or ignore their true inner needs and ideas. This lack of awareness of self-growth and development will lead many people to confuse the value and significance of love, so that they can't really cherish the love in front of them.

　　Fifth, high expectations and idealization.

　　After getting love, some people may find that their partners are not in line with their expectations and ideals. At this time, they begin to criticize and criticize their partners instead of trying to understand and accept their shortcomings and deficiencies. Excessive expectations and idealization will make a person ignore the possibility and value of true love. When the reality is not in line with the ideal, many people will feel cheated or hurt, thus losing confidence in love, and they can't really cherish and stick to love.

　　Finally, lack of communication and understanding.

　　In a love relationship, communication and understanding are crucial. However, when faced with problems and difficulties, many people often choose to avoid or blame each other instead of solving problems through communication and understanding. This lack of communication and understanding will aggravate the emergence and development of contradictions between the two, and ultimately destroy the foundation of love. When a person can't understand and support his partner's feelings and needs, it is difficult for them to truly cherish and maintain love.

　　There are many reasons why many people get love but don't cherish it. To truly cherish and maintain love, we need to clearly understand the true meaning of love, maintain our independence and satisfaction, cultivate the consciousness of self-growth and development, treat and manage our expectations reasonably and maturely, and establish a good communication and understanding mechanism. Only by balancing and coordinating these aspects can we really improve the quality and value of love and make love a beautiful part of life.

　　Only through active communication and efforts between the two sides can we better cherish and maintain the love they have.