The best way to deal with something： not angry, not arguing, not surprised.

　　Author: Yan Chao (author of rich books)

　　There is a saying in Guiguzi: "Don't be angry when you encounter rebellion, don't argue when you are very slanderous, and don't be surprised when you are changed."

　　Truly brilliant people have profound wisdom and inner strength.

　　In this world, everything can't be all right. In the face of setbacks and difficulties, the way to deal with them can show a person's height.

　　People with low positions are helpless, confused, agitated and panicked when facing difficulties.

　　People with high positions are comfortable and confident in the face of difficulties.

　　However, as long as you do the following three things, you will benefit for life.

　　Not angry

　　I once read a passage on the Internet: "One patience can control all humiliation, and one silence can control all anger. Anger without words, angry words are not in the ear, and letting others go is also letting yourself go. "

　　In 1895, the writer Wilde saw a poster in front of the pub he frequented.

　　The poster is full of slander against him, not only saying that his works are inferior and vulgar, but also saying that he is artificial.

　　Wilde tore down the poster in a rage and turned to the local notorious Marquis of Queensbury, because he knew that the Marquis had put up the poster.

　　Marquis's slander on Wilde is totally groundless, just because he quarreled with his son and saw Wilde's close relationship with his son, so he took it out on him.

　　All my friends around me are trying to persuade Wilde not to take him seriously, and it is not worth the candle to dispute with that kind of person.

　　Wilde refused to listen and vowed to make the other party pay the price. Then, a document took the Marquis to court.

　　There was a fierce quarrel between the two sides in the court. As a result, the judge sentenced Wilde to lose the case for "misconduct" and sentenced him to two years in prison. Since then, Wilde's reputation has been ruined and his future has been ruined.

　　After he was released from prison, he returned home and found that his wife had remarried with her children. The literary world no longer accepted him. Influenced by long-term poverty and loss, Wilde died of depression at the age of 46.

　　Irrational behavior is like the devil, and it will eventually be countered by its own impulses.

　　People who are really strong inside never attach too much importance to other people's opinions, and they will only stay away from those who consume themselves.

　　Angry things often happen in life. If you always get emotional, you will be in danger.

　　Anger is punishing yourself by others' mistakes.

　　In this world, except for the righteousness of life and death, everything else is trivial, and there is no point in entanglement.

　　In The Analects of Confucius, Mr. nan huaijin said: "Excellent people have the ability and no temper, excellent people have the ability and temper, and ordinary people have no ability and temper."

　　My friend Li Ming is an employee of a large enterprise. He is highly appreciated by his boss because of his outstanding talent and ability.

　　The reason why Li Ming can be promoted from an ordinary clerk to an executive is not only his extraordinary talent, but also his emotional stability and personality that is not easy to get angry.

　　When he first took office, many colleagues refused to accept him and thought that Li Ming was just lucky.

　　One day, a colleague said in front of Li Ming, "It's a joke that he can be an executive."

　　The colleagues around him were very angry after hearing this, and wanted to go forward and argue with him, but Li Ming stopped them.

　　Li Ming didn't get angry, didn't say a word, and calmly walked past him.

　　A colleague asked Li Ming inexplicably, "Why didn't you get angry just now? If I were you, I would check which department it belongs to and let him look good in private. "

　　However, Li Ming said with a smile, "if I know his name, I will always be upset. Why bother?" They just want to provoke me, make me angry, and find something to report to the company leaders when I am emotional and outspoken. Besides, there is nothing to lose from his words. "

　　If you don't get angry easily when you encounter something, you can roll with the punches and roll with the punches.

　　Anger can't solve anything, but it will make things worse.

　　Having a temper is instinct, and controlling it is skill.

　　Maintaining emotional stability at all times is a sign of wisdom.

　　Schopenhauer said, "Being angry at other people's behavior is as stupid as losing your temper at a stone that stands in our way."

　　Anger and anger are a sign of incompetence, and a stable mood is the right solution.

　　Don't get angry when something happens, think calmly and solve it, which is the most level way for adults to deal with it.

　　Do not argue

　　Laozi said, "The wise do not dispute, but the debater is not wise."

　　Smart people know how to shut up at the right time.

　　Carnegie, a master of success, once went to a party with friends.

　　At the dinner table, one of them said a sentence, which was very reasonable to everyone, and the speaker proudly said that it was from the Bible.

　　Carnegie was puzzled after hearing this, and immediately retorted, "You are not right, this sentence is from Shakespeare."

　　So, the two quarreled endlessly because of the source of this sentence.

　　Helpless, Carnegie had to turn his head to his friends, hoping to get their support.

　　Unexpectedly, Carnegie's friend actually said, "This sentence is indeed from the Bible."

　　After the banquet, Carnegie was puzzled and asked his friend, "Why are you defending him when you know that sentence is not from the Bible?"

　　The friend smiled and said, "First, it is very impolite to argue in front of everyone, no matter who wins or loses, it will embarrass the other side."

　　Second, not everyone is as learned as you. "

　　Carnegie suddenly realized, "The only way to win an argument is not to argue."

　　In the event of a dispute between people, the bridge of communication will be closed in the hearts of both sides.

　　Everyone has different experiences, different knowledge, different cognition and different views on things.

　　Arguing will only spread hostile emotions. On the contrary, through peaceful handling, we can better maintain physical and mental peace, and at the same time, we can keep the outside world out of trouble.

　　When Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu were studying in Oxford, they rented a house with a landlord named Jin.

　　Because of the heavy study task of the couple, they discussed with Mr. Jin that he would provide three meals a day and an afternoon tea.

　　At first, the food was nutritious, but before long, Mr. Jin saw that Yang Jiang and his wife were easy-going, so he got into a bad mood. Not only did the food get worse, but his attitude towards them became worse and worse.

　　Yang Jiang usually eats a small amount of food, so he left half of the food to Qian Zhongshu. But that's it. Qian Zhongshu still doesn't have enough to eat, and she is getting thinner and thinner. She is hurting in her heart when she sees it in her eyes.

　　However, Yang Jiang did not make a scene with Mr. Jin because of the food problem, but moved out silently with her husband.

　　Later, they rented a small house near the school. Every day, the couple cooked Chinese food by themselves. It was delicious and Qian Zhongshu could eat enough.

　　Stumbling in life, like dust on the road, is numerous and dense.

　　Arguing with friends will only lead to friends' indifference and alienation; Arguing with others will only bring anger and hatred to others.

　　Too much argument will not elevate our status, but will only make our life worse and worse.

　　Mr. Lu Xun once said: "Silence is the best resistance."

　　It is more powerful to fight back with silence than to talk endlessly; Compared with the vengeful, static braking is more gesture.

　　I have seen a sentence: "The real warriors in life have always been unknown, and the noisy ones are always a group of people who think they are noble."

　　Not surprised

　　"University" wrote: "Zhi Zhi will decide later, then he can be quiet, then he can be quiet, then he can be safe, then he can think about it, and then he can get it."

　　Don't be surprised, be calm and stable, think twice before you act.

　　Some time ago, my friend told a story about his past experience.

　　Once, when he participated in the project bidding, the company he represented had the highest bid evaluation scores. No accident, winning the bid was a sure thing.

　　In order to thank the companies that came to bid for their support, Party A specially hosted a banquet at noon.

　　During the dinner, my friend was in high spirits to propose a toast to Party A's customers, and the waiter accidentally spilled tea on the suit he just bought.

　　My friend flew into a rage and pointed at the waiter's nose and scolded, "You are blind. Do you know how much I bought this suit?"? Can you afford it? Call your manager! "

　　The waiter hurriedly invited the manager, who nodded, bowed, apologized and promised to compensate according to the original price.

　　But afterwards, my friend won the suit, but lost the whole project.

　　Because at the moment he quarreled with the waiter, Party A had decided that people who lost control when they met a little thing were too unreliable to be their partners.

　　In this way, a friend's penny wise and pound foolish is a sure thing, but it is ruined by his attitude in handling things.

　　A person's attitude towards things reveals his vision and mind.

　　If you have a broad vision and a broad mind, you will treat people and things around you with a more inclusive and generous attitude, and the pace of success will naturally get closer and closer.

　　People are constantly growing up in hardships, experiencing more, naturally broadening their horizons and being open-minded.

　　Such people can withstand the test and keep their inner peace, and the more powerful they are.

　　In the classic drama Da Zhai Men, the Japanese and puppet authorities took control of Beiping City.

　　In order to ensure the prosperity and stability of the medicinal materials market, the Japanese want to use the influence of Bai Jingqi, president of the Beiping Chamber of Commerce, to make other businesses stay in Beiping and do business in the city, thus creating the illusion that the whole city of Beiping is prosperous.

　　Knowing that Bai Jingqi was going to be invited to the Gendarmerie by the Japanese army, his family immediately became nervous and prepared to go to various places to help resolve the matter.

　　Bai Jingqi waved his hand contemptuously and said, "It's just a few little devils. What can they do to me? Cook the rice and make the wine hot, and wait for me to come back for dinner at night. "

　　Came to the gendarmerie, and other colleagues were summoned at the same time, all blanched and nervous.

　　Only Bai Jingqi, sitting on the bench, took out his pipe and smoked leisurely.

　　After the Japanese came, they were very surprised to see him so calm and calm.

　　Inner panic will only make the enemy see your weakness and submission.

　　Inner stability is the true fearlessness and contempt for the enemy.

　　Only by being calm and calm can we show a person's pattern and responsibility.

　　Not surprised, not afraid, not afraid, is the creed engraved in a person's bones.

　　I like a sentence very much: "Life has its ups and downs, and you can't always be sweet. It is a rich life to taste all the flavors of life."

　　In fact, the best way to deal with something is not to get angry, argue or panic.

　　If you don't get angry, you will be smooth and calm;

　　If you don't argue, your wisdom will be revealed and you will live in harmony;

　　If you don't panic, you will have a firm determination and be comfortable with it.

　　I hope that you will not be held hostage by emotions in your life, live in peace with others, and do things just right.

　　About the author: Yanchao, the author of Fu Shu, the fourth book will be published soon, and the book "Live a Good Life" is selling well, and he is upgrading his life awareness with 5 million people. This article: Franklin Reading Club, the copyright of this article belongs to Fu Shu, and it is not allowed to be reproduced without authorization. Infringement will be investigated. Note: This article is from the network. If there is any infringement, please contact and delete it.