Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not natural enemies, but can live in harmony, and everyone understands each other.

　　First of all, let's talk about the relationship between my parents and my wife. My parents are rural people who have been working in the city, and my wife's family has a college degree in the countryside, and her job is better. However, the relationship with my parents is not as tense as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as everyone said. On the contrary, it is very good.

　　My wife can't do housework. Generally, my mother does all the cooking and cleaning at home. My mother is also taking care of the children. My daughter-in-law hardly takes any children and just plays with them, but she has never said a word about him. On the contrary, she has a good reputation with my aunt, friends and mother, because every time she comes back to add my daughter-in-law, she will buy things for the elderly and give some pocket money. My parents often buy clothes, too My mother is a mediocre cook, but no matter what she cooks, it will always be delicious in my daughter-in-law's mouth, and my daughter-in-law has never been picky about my parents. On the contrary, sometimes I have a bad temper and in turn advise me not to lose my temper with my elders. After all, different ages have different understandings, and losing your temper can't solve any problems.

　　Some people say that the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the cause of two people. In fact, it is not that one person can control his own contradiction and will not plan another person's contradiction. The family's efforts in one direction will have different results. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not natural enemies, they can live in harmony, and they should put themselves in their own shoes. Since they choose to love their husbands, they should try to like their families. In a family, everyone should understand and tolerate each other.

　　We can't generalize, and there are many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who get along well. In fact, it still varies from person to person, and temper and generosity all play a decisive role! For example, I have been married for 16 years. Before I got married, my mother-in-law once disagreed, because I was a few years older than my husband, and I was still a foreign hukou, but my husband insisted and later there was no objection. After having children, I don't like the clothes my mother-in-law bought for her children. My mother-in-law doesn't like the clothes I bought for her children, and she always finds fault.

　　She also disagrees with the way I manage my children. Later, I summed up several points, and now the relationship is very harmonious, not to mention the relatives and daughters, but they all care about each other sincerely. First, in terms of eating, the elderly should eat more meals that suit their appetite, and less those that are not suitable. We can't discuss these with our husbands, because telling them to our husbands will only add trouble. After all, those meals are cooked by the elderly, so we younger generations should not give more advice. When appropriate, I will cook some good dishes myself, which my mother-in-law likes to eat, so that my ability can be recognized.

　　Second, in terms of clothes for children, the clothes my mother-in-law bought can be worn at school and when her mother-in-law goes out to play, and the clothes I bought can be worn by children when I take them out. After all, the appreciation of the two generations is different. Since she spent money on it, it is also a manifestation of loving her children, and there is no need to say anything. Third, in terms of children's education, mother-in-law still dotes on children more, but as the mother of children, you should give them a firm position on what can and cannot be done. Make it clear to the child that her mother-in-law loves her more. As long as the starting point is good for children, it won't go too far. Fourth, in other aspects, try to do what you can at ordinary times. Be sincere when taking care of and caring for your mother-in-law, try to accompany you whenever necessary, and do things in a businesslike manner! Respect each other! Trust each other!