There is an undesirable behavior called punishing people who don't love themselves by betrayal.

　　Marriage, which needs to be managed, does not touch the bottom line of marriage, which is the key to managing a good marriage.

　　There are many bottom lines of marriage, among which loyalty is the most important one. Even if your spouse loves you deeply, even if your spouse has a good temper, even if your charm is great, as long as you do something that betrays your marriage, it will make your spouse unbearable and your marriage go to the wall. Even if your spouse does not divorce you for other reasons, your marriage has reached a hopeless situation.

　　After discovering that one's lover has betrayed his marriage, different people will do different things. Some people have no room for sand in their eyes and will choose to end their marriage; Some people will give their spouses a chance for the sake of their children and the future; There are still some people who can't swallow this tone and will try their best to retaliate against those who betray themselves.

　　After my cousin's extramarital affair was exposed, my cousin became furious and took revenge on him. As a result, she chose the wrong path, not only failed to make men pay the price, but also ruined her reputation.

　　Cousin's practice is very simple. After discovering that her husband is outside, she also found a lover to deal with him as he deals with you. Because the cousin's purpose is to get back at her cousin-in-law, she didn't hide her practice at all. Finally, her mother-in-law found out what her daughter-in-law had done. After the mother-in-law got the evidence, she called my elder sister-in-law and her whole family, held a meeting to accuse my cousin, and described her as a bad woman who was unfaithful to her feelings. Cousin was unconvinced and accused her husband of betraying his marriage first. However, in the eyes of everyone, what cousin's reputation has been stinking is not worth believing at all. In the end, my cousin divorced, losing not only her husband's family, but also her mother's family. In the eyes of elder sister-in-law, she is a shameless daughter, and in the eyes of her daughter, she is an irresponsible mother. My cousin, who was accused by thousands of people, felt very wronged: "It is obvious that he did something wrong. Why am I the one who was punished?"

　　In fact, in marriage, there is an undesirable behavior called punishing people who don't love themselves by betrayal. This idiom is just used to describe this kind of behavior.

　　1. When you touch the bottom line of marriage, you will lose your advantage;

　　When his spouse betrayed his marriage, he touched the bottom line of marriage and was on the unreasonable side. At this time, what you need to do is to think clearly about where you are going and collect evidence of his betrayal of marriage. Only by getting the evidence can he have nothing to say and gain the greatest public opinion advantage. Whether you want him to beg for mercy or fight for the custody of property and children, you can occupy a favorable position and get legal support. However, when you also do something that betrays your marriage, you also have a stain. At that time, you will lose this handle to hold each other. People who have made the same mistake should pay the same price.

　　2. Betraying your marriage will ruin your future and reputation, which will do no harm at all;

　　No matter what kind of injustice you have suffered, no matter how bad your life is, it is no reason for you to betray your marriage. Extramarital affairs should not exist in this world, it is a wrong behavior, and any excuse is just a fig leaf for extramarital affairs.

　　Whether men or women, as long as they have an affair, they will be notorious. People who betray their marriage will not only be accused and despised by thousands of people, but also lose their reputation. To outsiders, a person who can betray his spouse is not worthy of trust, friendship or cooperation.

　　When you want to get married again, your past will be the biggest obstacle to your remarriage. People can accept your poverty, the fact that you are divorced, but they can't accept the stain of your betrayal of marriage. Therefore, being unfaithful to your feelings will ruin your future and reputation, which will do no good at all.

　　3. The best way to punish the other person is to make him look down on you.

　　Compared with my cousin, the reader Wang Li's practice taught a lesson to the woman who was disappointed by her lover.

　　In the marriage with her ex-husband, Wang Li was a housewife, living around housework. Due to lack of necessary maintenance and neglect of self-dressing, Wang Li became a yellow-faced woman and was betrayed by her husband. After discovering her husband's betrayal of marriage, Wang Li felt like dying, and put forward a divorce without hesitation. Wang Li's ex-husband has no intention of retaining his wife's decision to leave.

　　After the divorce, Wang Li found a suitable job with the support of her parents and brought her talents into full play. She not only earned enough money to support herself, but also owned her own house in the city. With economic strength, Wang Li has become more confident and attractive.

　　Later, Wang Li's ex-husband came to the door to ask for remarriage, hoping that Wang Li would give them another chance. Without looking at the man she once loved deeply, Wang Li kicked his family out of the house, then married a man who was a hundred times better than her ex-husband and lived a happy life.

　　If you really want to punish someone who is unfaithful to your feelings, the best way is to make yourself better. When you have strong economic strength, you can have stronger capital to pursue outstanding people; When your life is better, you will find how unworthy it is to immerse yourself in the pain of the past; When you become excellent and come to him again, the feeling of unattainable is enough to make a person regret it.

　　Some things can be done and some things can't be done, which is the bottom line of being a man. Even if you want to punish the person who hurt you, don't put yourself in it, and don't take the practice of hurting one thousand and hurting eight hundred.

　　Today's topic: What do you think is the cousin's biggest mistake? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.