＂I don't divorce, and I don't forgive.＂ Seeking a soul mate outside marriage, you should be careful of three consequences.

　　Thomas Moore once said:

　　"A soul mate is a person with whom we feel deeply connected. It seems that communication with each other is not from the deliberate efforts of mortals, but with the guidance of God. This relationship is so important to the soul that nothing is more precious than it in life."

　　If two people live together, they must be strong in spirit if they want to be happy. If the couple are soul mates and can achieve yet I feel the harmonious heart-beat of the Sacred Unicorn, communication will be smooth and it will be easy to understand each other's intentions. When you want to express your thoughts, you don't need to elaborate, your soul mate can understand what you mean and make a good cooperative response.

　　It is people's wish to find their own soul mate. However, finding a soul mate should be something that unmarried people do, and a soul mate is not an excuse for married people to have an affair.

　　Xu Zhimo, a great talent in the Republic of China, also mentioned the soul mate. For the sake of the so-called soul mate, he forced his pregnant wife Zhang Youyi to divorce, abandoned her wife and children, and became a spurned love rat.

　　Married people look for soul mates, give up the white roses around them, and have red roses, which may ruin their marriage. Even if your spouse doesn't divorce you, your life will probably not be too easy. How can there be no cracks in a failed marriage?

　　I interviewed several people who were disappointed by their spouses but didn't choose to divorce. They told me, "He failed me, and I won't divorce or forgive him for the sake of children and other factors."

　　Seeking a soul mate outside marriage, you should be careful of three consequences. For the sake of the happiness of yourself and your children, please keep the bottom line of marriage. I really can't go on. It's better to end my marriage with the other person with dignity than to stab the other person and make a big mistake myself.

　　1. In a betrayed marriage, trust may disappear;

　　Five years ago, Ms. Jiang found that her husband had a confidante, and that feeling was like a bolt from the blue. When she questioned her husband, he claimed that the other person was his soul mate: "She can understand everything I say, unlike talking to you. When I say Grade One and you say Fifteen, it's like casting pearls before swine."

　　However, when Ms. Jiang asked for a divorce, her husband was timid again. He knew that if Ms. Jiang hadn't worked hard at home to take care of her in-laws and accompany her son, where would he have the time and energy to concentrate on his career? No matter how good an extramarital lover is, he can't compare with his wife. So, he moved out of his 3-year-old son, pulled in a bunch of relatives to help intercede, and with the persuasion of Ms. Jiang's parents, the marriage didn't break up, and he also split up with the so-called soul mate.

　　"Marriage is not divorced, but we can't go back to the past. Now, I've become suspicious, and I think he's done something bad at the slightest sign. For example, he locked his mobile phone, which I couldn't accept. I thought he was flirting with women again. He spent too much money, which is not right. I think he has taken care of others. He came back late, and I questioned him like crazy. "

　　The writer Daisaku Ikeda once said:

　　"Credit is rare and volatile, and the credit accumulated in ten years is often lost due to temporary words and deeds."

　　As the saying goes, a hundred times of infidelity is unacceptable. Apart from rubbing sand in your eyes, there is another reason, that is, people with the first betrayal record are not trustworthy. The other party gave you trust, but you failed him and stabbed him hard, making him trust you wholeheartedly again, which is even more difficult. People always learn from mistakes.

　　2. If a word is inconsistent, the other party will turn over the old account; ?

　　Ms. Jiang quarrels with her husband, and if she doesn't agree, she will turn over old scores. When her husband accused her of "this is all in the past, why are you still talking about it?", Ms. Jiang still couldn't let go.

　　"What do you think of the past, I don't think so. How dare you accuse me of changing my personality and not taking care of your parents? Is it all because of you? I worked hard to take care of your parents, do filial piety for you, and let you have free time, so I used it to stab me in the back, right? Since you are so free, take care of your parents yourself. "

　　Putting it down is never that simple, especially when you really step on the other side's bottom line. How can she let it go?

　　When you do something wrong, put it in the other person's hand, and then want to blame the other person, you will find that you have no mouth to talk about others and are not confident enough.

　　Don't expect her to be too kind to you when you are old.

　　The husband said things on the grounds that his son was too young, so that Ms. Jiang was bound and could not get a cruel divorce. However, this does not mean that she swallowed this tone.

　　"I'm waiting for my son to marry, when he is old. My son has a wife and children, and has a family, so I have no worries, and he is worthless. When I want to throw it away, I will throw it away. It doesn't matter whether I leave the divorce or not. I am expected to take care of him like a wife. It is too good for him and there is no way. At that time, I will take my grandson, and he will guard the cold house alone and solve three meals a day by himself! "

　　Dong Qing once said this sentence:

　　"Some things are not worth forgiving, and it has nothing to do with the size."

　　Doing something that disappoints your spouse in marriage is something that is not worth forgiving. Once you make a big mistake, don't expect your spouse to forgive you. You asked for it when the evening was bleak.

　　I thought of a sentence in the book "I am divorced": "We really don't want to see young men overdo it and don't take people around them seriously. When people are in rivers and lakes, it is inevitable that they will suffer involuntarily, but if they are not determined enough, they will easily be beyond redemption. "

　　Responsible for marriage, responsible for your spouse, and responsible for yourself. As for the soul mate, please don't insist on what doesn't belong to you.